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AIBU?

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AIBU that brother didn’t visit parents

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confusedinlondon · 14/10/2022 14:26

My brother hasn’t visited my parents in almost 1.5 years, maybe more, and this way a 10 min visit just to say hello during Covid when you could meet.
his last proper visit was some time in 2019.
today he returned from a business trip and our parents live 5 mins from the airport. He got a taxi and went home.
he could have taken a 10 minute detour just to say hello to them. We don’t really speak but his thoughtlessness towards them is very annoying.

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Pixiedust1234 · 14/10/2022 18:13

OP, quite frankly its none of your business. If your parents are upset then they need to speak to him. But otherwise back off. Its not your problem to solve or fix.

thelobsterquadrille · 14/10/2022 18:18

confusedinlondon · 14/10/2022 17:31

They constantly asking him to come over but he just claims he is to busy.

The reality is that he cannot be arsed, its as simple as that. He is indifferent to them, me and our other sister.

Do any of you ever bother to visit him?

mollymole999 · 14/10/2022 18:23

He sounds like a see u next Tuesday

MolkosTeenageAngst · 14/10/2022 18:33

Maybe he isn’t interested in visiting them at their house which is fair enough. Do your parents ever make the effort to go and visit him or meet him somewhere he’d like to go like a restaurant, pub, cinema, day out etc?

Untitledsquatboulder · 14/10/2022 19:53

Discovereads · 14/10/2022 15:52

Your comment shows you know nothing about how communicable infectious diseases work. Incubation is the period from catching to showing symptoms.
Usually, you are highly infectious & transmitting to others while you are incubating (as in you have no symptoms yet).

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Name the diseases you can catch, incubate and transmit over a 3 hour period.

LadyEloise1 · 14/10/2022 19:57

confusedinlondon · 14/10/2022 17:31

They constantly asking him to come over but he just claims he is to busy.

The reality is that he cannot be arsed, its as simple as that. He is indifferent to them, me and our other sister.

That's so sad.
One if my brothers is like this. Suits himself. Selfish ars*
Sadly he is still the Golden Child. 🙄

LynetteScavo · 14/10/2022 20:23

His wife probably has another thread on MN about how she and her DH have had to go very low contact with her PILs. She'll be applauded for cutting them out of her life as much as possible.

There are always two sides to these things.

My DB doesn't visit my DM unless I specifically tell him to. In a perfect world he'd chose to visit three or four times a year with his wife and children, but it just won't happen I don't question why. There really isn't any point.

DisforDarkChocolate · 14/10/2022 20:26

You have no idea how he feels about how he was bought up.

LynetteScavo · 14/10/2022 21:05

I think the reason these brothers that don't visit are still the "golden child" is because the parents can see how that child has struggled more than then the others, and is still struggling. Meanwhile the siblings feel put out out because they've behaved nicely and aren't being revered like the "golden child".

sheepdogdelight · 15/10/2022 12:05

If he talks to them a few times a week, then it sounds like they get on fine.
Perhaps he just doesn't like socialising? Or they have a relationship where frequent small doses work better than longer ones?

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