Dh ...annoyimg habit.

[Mellowday]

Ďh is a lovely man.
He has , what is to me a very annoying newly developed habit.
When he has eaten , he gets up and leaves the chair at the table sticking out from when he has stood up.
If i am out etc i come home and there it is the one chair just stuck out.i am a v visual person and it looks really untidy . . He says he tries his best as he knows it annoys me , but i need to accept that he will prob forget and he tries and the occasional forgetting , say 4 times a week which it is at least. I know in the scheme of things i should just put it under , but if i do that he will think he has done it and keep leaving it. I realise this is so small but it drives me mad and i want to saw a leg off the chair 🤣.
On this basis if i left the lights on all night or the fridge door open all night would be just have to accept it .?
As he asks me to do with this.? I know i will have annoying habits , and i accept his other ones, but this gives me the rage ? Aibu to ask for help?!!!!! Grr .
Plus does anyone elses dh have habits that really annoy ?!

My husband has some annoying habits, but I only tell him off for something that might damage the item or costs us money, like leaving parcels on my suede shoes in the hall- it really drives me mad. Like he couldn't just leave it on the floor- noooo, it has to be my expensive shoes. If it's blanket folded not the way I like it, I don't mind and won't say anything.

Have a little butler's bell by your place and give a gentle tinkle when he leaves the chair out so he can put it back in - childish? so what!

DH now leaves toilet seat and cover up quite often - I can't be bothered to complain as he knows full well it is not the thing to do - but I def hold it against him - in fact the list grows and grows as he gets older OMG the whingeing about shops/bank or lack of/ other drivers/ weather/ politics/ everything

We did have words about shoes in the lounge. He takes them off and leaves them down the side of his chair, despite their being a big basket in the hall that he has to walk past just for shoes.

The bigger issue was they have very wide spaced soles and we have a gravel drive, so large bricks get stuck and scratch the wooden flooring. Once he realised that it bothered me a fair bit and caused damage he stopped.

For the poster upstream that said if i get change to say how i did it.
I wd say finally dh listened to me when he realised just how annoying it was. !!! Time will tell!

I told him re the other habots which i let slide. He does not put his fleece in the wash enjough and franklu its gross n smells musty( ive told him many times to no avail..) and recognised that i am annoying too.

I hear you OP

My DH
Leaves the microwave door open
Never pushes the bedroom drawers flush closed
Leaves his slippers out so I trip over them
Puts the sliding wardrobe doors in the wrong order

I find it very passive aggressive

Seconded

I get it! Drives me mad. But I know in the grand scheme of things it doesn't matter, it's my issue. Cupboard doors open, shopping unpacked on to the worktop not in the cupboards, puts his wallet in a different place every day and asks me where it is, leaves a used glass out 'to use again' but never uses it again.... don't even get me started on the kids with empty wrappers, cups, clothes left all over the place 🤯

Christ, if that’s the biggest annoyance you have with him then I’d say you’re lucky!

Work on yourself and letting this one go. It’s not the same as the fridge door being open as it doesn’t ruin food, and it doesn’t cost anything in electricity so not like the lights either.

^This. I normally absolutely hate the 'Wow your life must be really perfect if this kind of thing is what you're worrying about' response, but in this case...

I'm like this with doors. Shut them after you