Constant arguing

[huniimhome]

Don't know where to start. Me and H constantly argue. I mean constantly. We've recently had our second child. I've seen a different side to him he swears shouts breaks things and threatens violence as a regular thing now. Before the baby or was still happening but not as often. I think I'm just numb to it now. I don't love or fancy him at all. I haven't since the first time he verbally abused me which was in 2020. Yes of course we've had some good times in between but I don't feel that attraction or love for him at all anymore. His mum has been a constant presence in our marriage and they have a disgusting relationship. I don't know what my aibu is. I just needed to vent. I have no one to talk to irl. I just want to leave him so badly. He's not the person I thought he was at all.

He’s showing all the signs of progressing from verbal abuse to physical violence. Contact Women’s Aid asap.

We'll tonight it was even worse. Both still angry at yesterdays antics. But today he screamed and shouted in my face while I begged him to stop because he was scaring me. I'm terrified and don't want to be here anymore. He has made my life completely miserable. I don't know how to get out with no job and 2 young kids.

@huniimhome that sounds awful so sorry to hear your suffering from DV

I’m sure lots of mns with more knowledge will be along soon with help. Take care

You need to call the police and report this abuse. Your next call needs to be to Women's Aid.

I think I'm just numb now. He is adamant that what he does is not DV although I know it is. The verbal abuse and threats are aren't they? He is also v v controlling of what I do. However allows his mother to do what she wants to me and my boundaries, he's always put her first which was the first arguments we used to have. I should've known then he was no good. He is constantly questioning me and my parenting choices. I just feel suffocated with him. And to top it off he has zero respect for my family and never makes an effort while I have to endure his family regularly.

Op, leave. Can you stay with family?

Contact women's aid and go to your council offices. Yes you may have to go to a shelter or put in temporary accommodation but its not worth your children having to be around this and risking it escalating until someone gets hurt.

That's what I'm scared of. Although I can't imagine him hurting the kids. I could go to my mums. But that's the problem. She has alot of stress and pain in her life. I don't want to add to it and tbh I don't think she'd support my decision. He however can go to his parents.