Constant arguing

[huniimhome]

Don't know where to start. Me and H constantly argue. I mean constantly. We've recently had our second child. I've seen a different side to him he swears shouts breaks things and threatens violence as a regular thing now. Before the baby or was still happening but not as often. I think I'm just numb to it now. I don't love or fancy him at all. I haven't since the first time he verbally abused me which was in 2020. Yes of course we've had some good times in between but I don't feel that attraction or love for him at all anymore. His mum has been a constant presence in our marriage and they have a disgusting relationship. I don't know what my aibu is. I just needed to vent. I have no one to talk to irl. I just want to leave him so badly. He's not the person I thought he was at all.

[huniimhome]

That's what I'm scared of. Although I can't imagine him hurting the kids. I could go to my mums. But that's the problem. She has alot of stress and pain in her life. I don't want to add to it and tbh I don't think she'd support my decision. He however can go to his parents.

[Sunnyqueen]

Contact women's aid and go to your council offices. Yes you may have to go to a shelter or put in temporary accommodation but its not worth your children having to be around this and risking it escalating until someone gets hurt.

[Aquamarine1029]

Op, leave. Can you stay with family?

[huniimhome]

I think I'm just numb now. He is adamant that what he does is not DV although I know it is. The verbal abuse and threats are aren't they? He is also v v controlling of what I do. However allows his mother to do what she wants to me and my boundaries, he's always put her first which was the first arguments we used to have. I should've known then he was no good. He is constantly questioning me and my parenting choices. I just feel suffocated with him. And to top it off he has zero respect for my family and never makes an effort while I have to endure his family regularly.

[Aquamarine1029]

You need to call the police and report this abuse. Your next call needs to be to Women's Aid.

[Andypandy799]

@huniimhome that sounds awful so sorry to hear your suffering from DV

I’m sure lots of mns with more knowledge will be along soon with help. Take care

[huniimhome]

We'll tonight it was even worse. Both still angry at yesterdays antics. But today he screamed and shouted in my face while I begged him to stop because he was scaring me. I'm terrified and don't want to be here anymore. He has made my life completely miserable. I don't know how to get out with no job and 2 young kids.

[BuffyTheCat]

He’s showing all the signs of progressing from verbal abuse to physical violence. Contact Women’s Aid asap.