When did your world go quiet?

[PalominoOrGreyOrChestnutOrBay]

inspired by a tiktok trend recently, just thought it might be an interesting thread. I’m a regular poster not a journalist or anything like that (MNHQ can verify!).

When did your world go quiet? Basically, what was a time you got a fright and time seemed to stop or go quiet?

mine was I was on my horse and he decided to rear up, over concrete ground, and I felt him wobble back. As soon as I felt that first tilt backwards everything sort of went quiet and it was like an out of body experience (not a good one!). I couldn’t hear anyone around. I just remember the last thing I thought was along the lines of this is it im about to die and it was like everything was in slow motion. Luckily it was all ok but that split second was easily the scariest moment of my life and my world completely stopped.

So, when did your world go quiet?

When a date attempted to rape me.

waking up to a massive earthquake in Kos

when my blood pressure tanked after a heart attack, I thought very matter of fact, oh, so I’m going to die tonight. Very calm, I had no fight in me. Distantly heard the docs yelling for more, more, more adrenaline, one calling ICU, and then they managed to get the BP up enough.

I live in a constant state of heightened anxiety which is often has good basis. I just go numb inside now. My adult daughter has BPD and attempted too many times. 😞

When my dog was killed in a freak accident.

I remember myself screaming, but I don't remember hearing it, I remember the door slamming behind me as I ran into the street, but I don't remember the sound, just a rushing in my ears. I remember the whole thing in vivid technicolor, but not the sound.

What a traumatic thread. So sorry to everyone who has gone through such awful experiences. My experience has come to me as I'm reading this.

I was 10 weeks pregnant, at work, as a nurse. No one at work except my boss knew I was pregnant. I went for my lunch break, went to the loo and I was bleeding. Cold panic initially. I sorted myself out, etc and then had to walk back along the looooooooong theatre corridor to tell my boss who was in recovery at the end. That walk along the corridor seemed never ending, although I was calm and matter of fact until the moment my boss walked around the corner at the end and I just broke down and everything started to go fast again as I had to admit what I knew was happening.

My husband died in a helicopter crash. I took the call as air traffic didn't realise I was his wife (I worked at the flight company) I felt a deathly all encompassing silence and it felt like everything closed in on me. I'm sure my heart stopped beating.

Another one with a postpartum haemorrhage.

I was on the ward, baby in the bassinet beside me. I was sleeping, but waking briefly to check my DS was still ok.

I remember getting more and more tired, and weaker and weaker. I got to a point where I could no longer lift my head to see my baby and realised that something was wrong but no matter how hard I tried, I just couldn't move.

What felt like ages later but might have been a few minutes, two HCA's came into the ward and somehow I managed to make a 'uuurgghhh' noise. One came over and noticed something on the bed- she pulled back the sheets and that's when everything went quiet for me- literally like a scene in a movie, no sounds but people everywhere, and the sensation of my body being pulled in different directions by multiple people.

When I crawled out of the taxi at a and e with a kidney infection and sepsis. I got out tried to crawl through the doors but couldn't make it. I left it untreated because I didn't want to bother the doctors and when I lay there I thought 'yup I think this is probably it for me'.

When DD was 4 days old and had a seizure, projectile vomited and then flopped unconscious. I was a teenage mum and was terrified. All the way to the hospital I was pinching her cheeks and tickling her feet in the back of the ambulance. We got taken straight to resus and the time the registrar spent working on her, getting cannulas in, trying to wake her. She was unconscious for about 30 minutes but the feeling was really unreal. I remember proper guttural and primal cries.

And when I was 16 and a boy had followed me home, I had made it to my gate and he grabbed my wrists and tried to pull me away, I tried to scream but my mouth wouldn't work so I little squeak came out. My sister was going out and I think quite possibly saved me from something horrific.

I seem to have a couple more than most so maybe I'm just dramatic, but I am lucky all of mine turned out okay, I'm so sorry for the losses on here

When our 4 day old baby died I understood why people say your blood runs cold. It's a completely different feeling to being cold.

When my baby's heart rate plummeted during labour, placental abruption leading to an emcs, and again 7 weeks later when the constant came into the room at 3am to confirm that my poor ds had meningitis. Made me cry typing this. I'm so grateful every day that he made a full recovery and that my instincts were right and I ignored everyone who told me I was a neurotic ftm and he didn't need to go to the hospital.

I’d walked into an alleyway and saw my ex with a group of his friends and froze as I realised they’d been waiting for me. Everything just went silent in that moment and slowed down as I stared into his eyes and took what came. I have no idea how long they’d been gone for before someone walked through and asked if I was ok. I didn’t pass out or anything, It was just like The fear caused me to leave my body and everything was numb and quiet. I can’t say it was the worst day of my life as I don’t remember actually feeling anything.

*consultant

Frequently due to mental health problems...... secondary to a brain injury if that's relevant

When I watched Dh hold our newborn daughter as I had a massive haemorrhage. I felt like my life was draining out of me. I knew the room was in panic but it was all gone when I looked my husband in the eye and we both thought I may not see this baby grow up.

At my scan when they told me my baby had died at 35 weeks

Car crash for me. It’s almost like in the split second before it happened I knew it was going to happen. It was all in slow motion, I didn’t pass out & wasn’t injured but it’s almost like my body shut down as I knew it was going to happen, like bracing myself for it? I remember thinking I’m going to die, but feeling calm?

Near drowning experience as a child. I was quite calm and accepted my fate.

Holding my stillborn son in my arms, hoping against hope that he would breathe.

@NotQuiteUsual genuine question, why did your leg kick hard and the drs get concerned? I always thought strong reactions from those little hammers etc was a good thing? I just googled pre eclampsia and it doesn't mention this.

As I said, genuine question as I haven't heard of it before. Glad you got through it x

When some idiot threw a massive knife at me and it thanked into the wooden shed near my head. Time just went completely slow motion.

another one with post oartum haemorrhage. I just felt cold and didn’t realise until Dh lifted the sheet to see I was swimming in blood. The doc shoved her arm up me, no pain relief at all and it felt like I lay in a beach in the sun watching my body get shoved about far away. Very wierd.

when Dh had an aneurysm and I thought it was man flu.

@bashual With preeclampsia, a woman's reflexes become unusually active. Increasing blood pressure will lead to increasing hyperreflexia (overactive reflexes), until eventually uncontrollable seizures result.

@PalominoOrGreyOrChestnutOrBay I was on the M1 on a busy afternoon travelling at 70mph. All of a sudden I heard a crunching sound and the next thing I knew I was spinning across the motorway. It felt like I was in a void everything was white and the only sound I could hear was my own screaming .
I had been hit by a lorry and my car spun across the motorway , hit the crash barrier and ended up on the inside lane facing the oncoming traffic. Miraculously no other vehicles were involved and no one was hurt . But I get flash backs and am petrified of fast traffic now

When my dad died of cancer.
When I was told I had cancer.

when I woke up from a rohipnaol induced sleep god knows where with some weirdo lifting my skirt.

when I had an abortion in a very foreign country. A long time before Internet or phones.

watching my mum die on an iPad because I couldn’t get there.

f**ck we’ve all been through so much. 💐 to all.

I’ve had a few but an asthma attack with flu I couldn’t get enough of a breath to take my inhaler and I just thought this is it. But I do find it so reassuring that so many of us felt like it was the end and there was no fear or panic just calm acceptance.

In general it doesn't mean anything to be worried about. But over exaggerated responses when you have pre-eclampsia can help predict if you're about to fit or not. I was deteriorating and when I say my leg kicked hard from the reflex test I mean HARD. Like I'd of knocked someone's tooth out had they been stood in the wrong place. So that paired with my general deterioration meant I needed to deliver asap.

My son did the same in GAP aged 3. They closed the shop when they heard me running about calling his name - 2 other toddlers in tow. Then I panicked that he may have headed to (or somebody could have taken him to) the car park and I ran there screaming his name. He was behind the clothes and was scared to come out in case he was in trouble. Felt like eternity.