When did your world go quiet?

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inspired by a tiktok trend recently, just thought it might be an interesting thread. I’m a regular poster not a journalist or anything like that (MNHQ can verify!).

When did your world go quiet? Basically, what was a time you got a fright and time seemed to stop or go quiet?

mine was I was on my horse and he decided to rear up, over concrete ground, and I felt him wobble back. As soon as I felt that first tilt backwards everything sort of went quiet and it was like an out of body experience (not a good one!). I couldn’t hear anyone around. I just remember the last thing I thought was along the lines of this is it im about to die and it was like everything was in slow motion. Luckily it was all ok but that split second was easily the scariest moment of my life and my world completely stopped.

So, when did your world go quiet?

In labour with my first daughter in April.
I’d started pushing at 10cm, but the midwife said her head was now rotated. She left the room to discuss with the consultant. Just me and my husband sat there when the baby’s heartbeat monitor just stopped. Husband rushed out to tell Next thing I knew there were lots of doctors and nurses around my bed slamming the break off and taking me to theatre. I just remembered my husband stood there as they wheeled me out.. he’d gone white. There was a period of 20 mins when I didn’t know if she was okay.

had extensive therapy for it since. Horrible.

If folks judge you got that they can judge me too. I was on my phone with my six month old daughter on the bed who had just learned to crawl but she wasn’t that good at it yet so I thought it would be fine to check my texts. Then I suddenly heard a very loud thump and a scream and realized she had crawled off. I don’t even have the excuse of being a single mom. I gave a supportive husband and I’ma sahm. DD was fine by the way. Just shaken up from the fall.

When my son got stuck during delivery. Shoulder dystocia. The doctor screamed "I need help". The midwife pressed a button and a siren went off. Several people burst into the room and then it was like everything and nothing was happening at the same time. They got him out in the end but he was left with erbs palsy. I haemorrhaged. He wasn't breathing. He was grey. They got him breathing and he yelled and that was the noise that snapped me out of it.

It was terrifying and not something I can adequately explain because I don't think the words exist to properly describe it

At my darling mum’s bedside when she was dying, taking her last breath and watching her heartbeat on the monitors slowing down to a stop. 😢 This was when the world stopped for me!

Another one for me was waking up with my then 3 week old baby in between me and the sleepyhead in my bed with her also in her grobag. She was 5 weeks premature so I was terrified of SIDS and here I'd accidentally put her in one of the most dangerous positions for that (in terms of possible overheating).

A very long few seconds from waking to realising she was fine!

My absolute worst nightmare! Bless your heart and thank god your daughter is ok ❤️

She may have come close, but you saved her! I believe your instinct kicked in and that's what made you check on her

My bike flipped when I was a teenager and I'd been racing down a steep hill. Felt the back wheel go up and everything went like honey.

I basically somersaulted off into the ground. Hit my head, rolled over and put my arms up as the bike crashed on top of me. Must have only been 5 seconds but felt like minutes. I was giggling for a bit after.

Then I heard everyone ma screams out of the quiet and it kind of all zoom sped up again. Then I passed out.

I'd cut both knees to the bone, snapped my arm in half, dislocated my shoulder and elbow and cracked my head open.

Mine was giving birth to my third dd.
Long story short, my BP shot up. Baby heart bear slowed.shoulder dystocia. They injected me I think with something to act on the BP and I could feel it going into every capillary as heat. I was told later it was cos it was cold. They managed to get a spinalblock in and deliver with forceps, skill and the knife. Then had a massive pph and ended up in intensive care. I just remember a moment when I suddenly thought I could die and leave dh with a new born and our older ones who were 10 and 12. I'll never forget that moment and am forever grateful for the skill that meant both me and dd came home In tact.

I'm so sorry 🥺

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A few times.

1: when my mum told me all her jewellery had been stolen…and my eldest daughter and her boyfriend had taken it. The shock of it sent me reeling, and I couldn’t move or function for what felt like forever. Everything felt like it was sort of hovering before crashing down.

mum died a year ago today. The shock of the burglary took its toll on her already poor health, and as a result, she spent the last few years of her life in hospital.

I haven’t spoken to my daughter since the burglary.
I lost over half my hair as a result of the shock.

2: having a caesarean. I was so scared , having a panic attack, had to have something to calm me and my heart down, as they were worried my heart wouldn’t cope. My legs felt like they were miles away. Despite being utterly terrified, I felt completely disconnected from everything, and for a moment it felt like everything stopped. Like it was a freeze frame. As though I’d been frozen. I thought perhaps I’d died, or was about to.

3: when my friend’s little boy got too close to the road, with cars whizzing past. I felt everything stop, ringing ears, and then it felt like slow motion as I lurched toward him to pull him back from the kerb.

4: I had sleep paralysis, I couldn’t breathe, and it felt like I’d been lifted out of my bed and raised to the ceiling. It felt like the earth had stopped, and I was in stasis.
I heard myself start to scream in my throat, then felt myself crash down onto the bed several times before taking a huge breath.

Ive had 3 situations , all very different.
First one as a 8 year old child . We used to go on holiday in a small village in the Algarve where swimming in the local river was something all kids did . One of the things that was milestone from being a small child to a big one as jumping of the high pier . I somehow convinced my parents I could do it . When I jumper I did nit realise how deep I went so suddenly I open my eyes and it’s dark , very dark . Instead of panic I remember looking around and feeling relaxed and then suddenly something just told me to swim upwards just swim and as soon as I saw the sunlight I knew I was ok . It wasn’t actually a scary experience as it was very peaceful .

2 nd situation was mid flight a few years ago with my son who was about 7 . We hit thunderstorms and awful turbulence but suddenly it go very bad , bags where flying all over the actual oxygen masks came down and then all power went out and it was like we where planing . It was just surreal , I keep pretending all was ok , we could hear people praying , and silently crying . I I don’t know how many minutes we where like that , we did a massive descent and suddenly we could hear the engine and lights come up .
having actually been on a emergency landing where the engine was on fire before I actually found it a lot less scary . When we landed an hour after everyone was just clapping and crying .

the 3rd one was a car accident
my son and my daughter ( 9 months at the time ) where in the car , it was starting to get dark and the most awful fog started to appear . Gps got me off the motorway due to pile up and I’ve never went through those country roads . I failed a junction ( one if the ones that is just a line on the road and not visible at all ) the other car had no headlights at all so hit me at 50 miles an hour . I didn’t see it until all airbags where exploding , I went almost dead and could only slightly hear my daughter crying . Then suddenly the car filled with smoke and it was sheer panic as I was trapped . Thankfully someone rushed into us and opened the door and the smoke was just the airbags ,5 have come on ,3 on me 2 on my son behind me .

Until now I can still smell the burning .

On a plane to New York, not long after the 9/11 attacks. The plane was coming into land in seemingly perfect conditions and the engines suddenly fired up again for what turned out to be a go around. As we turned towards the New York skyline panic set in and there was eerie silence. It was fine, the inexperienced co-pilot was attempting to land and had approached too fast but the announcement seemed to take forever.

On a plane that was making a gentle descent and then abruptly shot up again. It was a split second safety move to avoid fog we were told shortly afterwards, but in that moment I was sure I'd die.

When I fell and re-sprained my already double sprained ankle. I was down so fast. It took me a moment to realise the hideous screams were mine and then I went into shock with the pain. Time just stood still until the shock went.

My mums would be when she fell, landed on her jaw and dislocated it. Again - shock. For me, watching her.

When I was told that my leukaemia had come back and that the chemo hadn’t worked and that I now needed a bone marrow transplant. I had less than 20% chance of finding a matching donor so things weren’t looking good. And even if I survived by a miracle, I could never have children. The world went really quiet and still when the consultant spoke those words. I was worried for my husband above anyone else at that point. By some miracle, I did find a donor, I did survive and now have children 😊

When I discovered I had left the back door unlocked after nipping to the toilet and I found my 2 year old wandering around in the main road next to our house and all traffic had stopped. I saw the stopped traffic before I saw that he was ok wandering about. My mind initially went to the worst case scenario and I felt like I couldn’t breathe.

Also when I was a passenger in a car crash. The car flipped several times across the road into a field. It all happened in slow motion and I felt so calm and weird.

How scary… I’m so glad you beat the odds. I hope you’re in remission and will never go through it again ♥️

Had the most perfect pregnancy, no morning sickness or issues throughout. Contrac

How scary… I’m so glad you beat the odds. I hope you’re in remission and will never go through it again ♥️
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Momentarily when ds1 was born blue and silent and oxygen was used. He was fine

At an appointment with a consultant cardiologist after DS2's 20 week scan followed by a 2nd scan. He had a congenital heart deformity incompatible with life. Unless the pg reached 34 weeks, his lungs were well developed and he did well and a heart/lung transplant was available before he was 4 months old. There was hope so we didn't accept the offer to terminate the pg. He died in our arms a few hours after being born at 27 weeks. The silence and numbness lasted until dd was born 51 weeks later.

I have few memories of that time.

It was more than 25 years ago. Nothing has ever touched it and there is still a part of me that is numb.

💐Some of these are truly heartbreaking.

When I saw someone come flying round a roundabout and flipped their car, I was just about to join and something in me made me pause although it was clear initially. I’m still so grateful he didn’t come any further around as he would have hit my car which had my children in. I called 999 but the driver ran from the scene. It actually featured on the bbc Ambulance programme and turned out he was drunk as he came back to the scene after I had left.

The other times are when my then 10 yo DD was seriously concussed and looked me straight in the eyes and asked me who I was. Literally took my breath away.

a number of times with my DS from when he was born and didn’t breathe for 7 minutes, to when he was seriously ill and struggling to breathe despite the cpap machine, his nurse was just outside his room marking his notes and I needed to alert her but it felt like it took me forever to turn around and get her, when his nurse couldn’t answer if he would make it. All times I’ve felt the world stand still.

I definitely remember time going slow motion when I was a kid and began to fall through a pain of glass in my friend's front door. I'd leaned against it to push it open not realising it was locked and the weight of me broke the glass. This door was glass from top to bottom. I began falling through and time slowed down. It felt like some sort of force held me back and I just sort of hung there in the middle of breaking glass before falling backwards again, not a scratch on me. The guy that came to fix the door said he couldn't believe I'd escaped without a scratch. He also said the glass should never have been used in the door because it wasn't toughened glass.

I'm not woo or anything. But to this day I wonder about that weird energy that held me back.

Woooops, posted too quickly…

Had the most perfect pregnancy, no morning sickness or issues throughout. Contractions started early morning and labour progressed well. Two hours into pushing the midwife went completely silent and excused herself. Minutes later the room filled with about 12 nurses, doctors and a surgeon. My son was coming the wrong way and I was prepped for emergency theatre. Everything felt surreal and all I could think was that I could no longer hear my baby’s heartbeat.

Thankfully he was born without the need for a C-Section and just forcep intervention, but waiting to hear him cry was the longest moments of my life.

Thank you so much @JDEE72 I am as healthy as can be now. Being kept busy and out of trouble by my munchkins!! 😂