To think DH is taking the piss

[Dancingintherainandsnow]

Saying he can’t use the new cooker that was delivered. I was busy with the kids and he came in saying I needed to come and cook a meal for him as he “can’t” use the new cooker. Aibu to think he’s taking the piss here? It’s pretty self explanatory and the manual is there too if he needs it. Me and the kids had our evening meal (I was able to use the new cooker no problem) before DH came home from work as he was working slightly later than normal today. He’s in the kitchen now and fiddling about with the manual and still saying he can’t use it

I think it depends on a wider pattern in your relationship. If he doesn't regularly act as though domestic life is akin to an alien planet I'd be inclined to just show him how it works - my partner explained how our new Sky box worked when I wanted to record something once, yes I could have looked at the manual but whatever.

Tell him you can’t remember but you are willing to go and read the manual to try and help him while he does your share of the chores.

Then give him half an hours worth of work to do. Sit yourself down on the sofa with a glass of wine and pretend to/read the manual while watching Netflix / surfing the net.

Once he realises that he is doing more work than you, he will grab the manual off you and suddenly work out how to do it himself.

You must have spent way longer writing and reading and responding to this thread than it would have taken to sort this out between you.

It seems like an incredibly petty thing to get worked up about. Most people would just laugh if their partner was this technologically inept. The fact this has bothered you enough to write a thread about it seems to indicate that there's a lot more than this wrong with your marriage.

He didn’t need me in the end. When I came down from putting the kids to bed he had suddenly “worked it out” (only took him hours to work out how to turn on a cooker ffs) and he was cooking his meal

Is it induction or something?

it reads like you’re trying to get folks to attack your husband. I do wonder why.

He didn’t ask her to show him! He came straight in and demanded OP make him his dinner because he couldn’t use the oven.
He didn’t want to learn how to use it, he just wanted her to do his dinner.
OP is not the arsehole.

What kind of an amoeba are you married to that can’t use an oven ‘at all’? Christ on a bike.

my husband, who is a highly trained engineer, can only just use the oven in his house, that I moved into, 13 years after he bought it and lived here alone. Same oven.
we have two problems when it comes to men (generally - not all).
some men believe cooking is a woman’s job - cue strategic incompetence.
some men were just brought up where they were left with their dad watching the game while the women prepared dinner. Hence the daughters instinctively know how to cook and the men don’t because they weren’t around it - general ignorance.
my way round it is to passively aggressively play “Labour” around the house and start singing “you make me do too much labour” while looking at him square in the eye, putting his dinner in front of him. But that’s me and that’s an unhealthy way of dealing with it.
a more healthy way, and one I’ve been trying to adopt, is to really take note of the things he does do (if any). The labour is never 50/50 in our house, and when I’m stressed with two kids and dinner and others are just sat about while I’m trying to split myself into three it’s infuriating, but I don’t think that we will ever have a true 50/50 split. But then, when the roof is leaking, it’s not me at the top of the ladder clearing the gutters out in the p**s down rain ☔️ So swings and roundabouts 🤷🏻‍♀️