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To think DH is taking the piss

58 replies

Dancingintherainandsnow · 12/10/2022 19:35

Saying he can’t use the new cooker that was delivered. I was busy with the kids and he came in saying I needed to come and cook a meal for him as he “can’t” use the new cooker. Aibu to think he’s taking the piss here? It’s pretty self explanatory and the manual is there too if he needs it. Me and the kids had our evening meal (I was able to use the new cooker no problem) before DH came home from work as he was working slightly later than normal today. He’s in the kitchen now and fiddling about with the manual and still saying he can’t use it

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Dacadactyl · 12/10/2022 20:02

Rather rhan getting annoyed with each other, it might be an idea for one of you to suggest that he gets kids ready while you sort the tea?

Starlyte · 12/10/2022 20:02

StupidSmallFruit · 12/10/2022 19:39

‘Strategic incompetence’.

Google it.

I couldn’t be with such a feckless specimen, but good luck to you.

I couldn't support that either. There are some who cook badly, but this excuse is pretty lousy imo. He will get the hang of the cooker, if he's not completely debile

Darbs76 · 12/10/2022 20:03

If it’s an induction hob then I hate them too!

BruceAndNosh · 12/10/2022 20:04

Tell him to go outside and rub two sticks together to make a fire since he's obviously a caveman

AutumnCrow · 12/10/2022 20:04

Dancingintherainandsnow · 12/10/2022 20:01

He works in finance

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Is he the Chancellor of the Exchequer?

luxxlisbon · 12/10/2022 20:06

Dacadactyl · 12/10/2022 20:02

Rather rhan getting annoyed with each other, it might be an idea for one of you to suggest that he gets kids ready while you sort the tea?

You’re right, the only reasonable solution is for her to bend to his insane dictating that she could cook him dinner! Sure she is a woman.

Poor wee man probably deals with mega deals every day in his high flying finance career but the little thing can’t be expected to look at a manual and use an oven.

Cheeeeislifenow · 12/10/2022 20:07

Why can't you just show him? It will only take 2 mins.

AutumnCrow · 12/10/2022 20:09

Cheeeeislifenow · 12/10/2022 20:07

Why can't you just show him? It will only take 2 mins.

What, point at a hob and say, 'you turn the knob to ON'?

TestingTestingWonTooFree · 12/10/2022 20:09

Natural selection, he’ll have to starve.

(is there any chance it’s broken since you used it?)

Gymnopedie · 12/10/2022 20:09

Cheeeeislifenow · 12/10/2022 20:07

Why can't you just show him? It will only take 2 mins.

Because he could work it out, he just doesn't want to. So why should OP have to stop bath and bed for the children, go and show him and go back to the DCs. Longer than 2 minutes and disruptive.

OP any chance that if you DID go and show him he'd say 'well as you're in the kitchen now and know how to do it.....'

Cheeeeislifenow · 12/10/2022 20:13

Because he could work it out, he just doesn't want to. So why should OP have to stop bath and bed for the children, go and show him and go back to the DCs. Longer than 2 minutes and disruptive.

OP any chance that if you DID go and show him he'd say 'well as you're in the kitchen now and know how to do it.....'

Well we don't know that, he has already prepared all of the food, he just can't figure out the instructions....don't think it's a big deal to just go..oh here, I did it like this... it just seems a petty argument.

Dacadactyl · 12/10/2022 20:14

luxxlisbon · 12/10/2022 20:06

You’re right, the only reasonable solution is for her to bend to his insane dictating that she could cook him dinner! Sure she is a woman.

Poor wee man probably deals with mega deals every day in his high flying finance career but the little thing can’t be expected to look at a manual and use an oven.

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It's not insane dictating. It's common sense that she show him.

If I came in from work and my husband knew how to work something that I was struggling with AND then deliberately refused to show me how to do it, I'd hit the roof because it would mean he was acting like an arsehole

tabulahrasa · 12/10/2022 20:18

Is he someone who regularly can’t do stuff and tries to get you to do things for him?

Or is he genuinely just having a wee mental blank with it?

If it’s the first then leave him to it, if it’s the second then there’s no harm in showing him how to turn it on?

MY DP had to turn on the hob a couple of times for me when we moved into this house because I just couldn’t get it - it’s been about the only time he’s used it right enough 😐 but, for some reason I just couldn’t figure it out.

Cheeeeislifenow · 12/10/2022 20:19

Again, she doesn't have to cook it, it's just showing him how to use a new appliance..I don't see the problem

NoSquirrels · 12/10/2022 20:20

“Man starves to death next to new hob. Wife unrepentant.”

Dacadactyl · 12/10/2022 20:22

😂hilarious headline

Rowgtfc72 · 12/10/2022 20:24

When we stayed in Cornwall this June dh spent 20 mins trying to turn the oven on whilst I spent the same time trying to work the hob.
In our defence I have a 20yr old oven and a gas hob and this was a new fangled glowy thing.
We didn't dare touch the dishwasher.

OnlyHams · 12/10/2022 20:25

Was the new oven your choice, one he disagreed with ?

that’s the only reason I can think of him pretending to not get how to use it, if he has done all the prep himself.

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Dancingintherainandsnow · 12/10/2022 20:32

He’s still saying he can’t use it so I’ve told him I’ll show him once the kids are in bed if he’s not worked it out by then. Made it clear I’m not cooking for him though

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PeekabooAtTheZoo · 12/10/2022 20:36

I agree with @Dacadactyl because I bought a pressure cooker a few weeks ago and was too scared of cocking it up to use it, I had a terror it was going to blow up if I did it wrong, to the point that I couldn’t take in what the manual said, and I had to ask my DH to help me when he got back from working away. He helped me work out what to do and I successfully used it.
Teamwork.
Now if it’s as simple as turn on a knob that’s different but if it has lots of confusing settings or the manual is 70% danger warnings then just show him how to do it, it sounds like he’s lacking in kitchen confidence tonight.

Beelezebub · 12/10/2022 20:38

“Still saying he can’t use it” - can he also not read?

redbigbananafeet · 12/10/2022 20:38

If this was a challenge in front of his boss/work colleges or mates would he act this useless or would he work it out?

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Dancingintherainandsnow · 12/10/2022 20:39

redbigbananafeet · 12/10/2022 20:38

If this was a challenge in front of his boss/work colleges or mates would he act this useless or would he work it out?

He would defo work it out

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oviraptor21 · 12/10/2022 20:40

AutumnCrow · 12/10/2022 20:09

What, point at a hob and say, 'you turn the knob to ON'?

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I have to say that some of the hobs/ovens we have come across at the various self catering places we have stayed in over the years do seem to have needed a degree in rocket science to get them operational!

Soubriquet · 12/10/2022 20:41

Place marking just to see if he has managed to work it out..

though to be honest, it would have annoyed me enough now that I would have popped down, turned the hob on and gone back upstairs

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