Sent a text to partner of a few years(late 40's) earlier today that I was feeling 'amorous' for want of a better word.He replied to say that ..'darling, Im busy here at work but will message you later..' It was a kind message but I dont know what Im feeling.Perhaps embarrassed? We often share these types of messages as we dont live together and they can happen at any time of day regardless of work and we always respond in context. Iknow he is under a lot of pressure at the moment.I thought he may enjoy the spontaneity of the message but clearly not. What am I feeling and am i being ridiculous?
AIBU?
To name this feeling as humiliated or hurt or what?
geminifalling · 12/10/2022 11:25
Am I being unreasonable?
94 votes. Final results.
POLLgeminifalling · 12/10/2022 11:47
Ya I feel a bit rejected.I guess when he texts me stuff like that,I do respond even when Im busy.I am being over sensitive.Regarding posters finding it grim, if a colleague was sexting, its our thing and it doesnt affect anyone else so Im not concerned about that.Im pretty sure we are not the first couple who live apart,to text each other through work!
MichelleScarn · 12/10/2022 11:35
Am not sure what I'd respond if was having a busy day and got a text that dh was feeling 'amorous' right then!
How does he normally respond? I'd feel a bit grim if a colleague was on with was sexting while at work!
Dalaidramailama · 12/10/2022 11:59
@Hearthnhome
Nothing at all to do with other people, what makes you think that? My husband could text me at any random time. Sometimes I work from home, or out of the home. The message is between me and my husband ……. Fuck all to do with my colleagues what an odd assumption.
Dalaidramailama · 12/10/2022 11:59
@Hearthnhome
Nothing at all to do with other people, what makes you think that? My husband could text me at any random time. Sometimes I work from home, or out of the home. The message is between me and my husband ……. Fuck all to do with my colleagues what an odd assumption.
Hearthnhome · 12/10/2022 12:02
How is saying how I would feel if I found someone sexting, next to me an assumption?
or do you mean the fact that your are in public getting your jollies is an assumption? It’s not really though. That’s part of it and you know it.
I would feel uncomfortable with someone say next to me, in the office, IF I found out. I have as much right to feel that way, as you do to text.
Dalaidramailama · 12/10/2022 11:59
@Hearthnhome
Nothing at all to do with other people, what makes you think that? My husband could text me at any random time. Sometimes I work from home, or out of the home. The message is between me and my husband ……. Fuck all to do with my colleagues what an odd assumption.
Dalaidramailama · 12/10/2022 12:08
@Hearthnhome
Well that’s kind of a clue isn’t it….. a PRIVATE message between a husband and wife is just that. Private. Nothing at all to do with you or other people at work like you’ve insinuated.
Getting my jollies? 😂. Calm down dear not sure why flirty, private texts between a couple is triggering you so much. Like I said it would be different if you WERE wanking yourself off under the table ….. LOL 😂. Some people ……
Dalaidramailama · 12/10/2022 12:15
@Hearthnhome
Ahh right so you’re not only triggered by a different opinion, you also come to the conclusion that a different opinion is misogynistic? Riiiiiigghttt.
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Dalaidramailama · 12/10/2022 12:39
@Hearthnhome
Point taken re: the phrase!…. I didn’t ask you to think what I did was amazing why would I? The point I was trying to convey was it’s a private interaction between two people and it has nothing to do with “getting your jollies around other people”. Like I said I could be anywhere when I receive a text. At home, in the shop, in the office etc.
You think that’s grim because you’ve assumed people who send flirty texts to each other during the working day which may include sexual content, as somehow involving other people? So you’ve assumed wrong.
Now I could understand your point if you were quite literally having a wank under the table whilst your colleague sat opposite ….. now that would be grim, but a private text between a husband and a wife? Totally none of your business.
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