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To name this feeling as humiliated or hurt or what?

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geminifalling · 12/10/2022 11:25

Sent a text to partner of a few years(late 40's) earlier today that I was feeling 'amorous' for want of a better word.He replied to say that ..'darling, Im busy here at work but will message you later..' It was a kind message but I dont know what Im feeling.Perhaps embarrassed? We often share these types of messages as we dont live together and they can happen at any time of day regardless of work and we always respond in context. Iknow he is under a lot of pressure at the moment.I thought he may enjoy the spontaneity of the message but clearly not. What am I feeling and am i being ridiculous?

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Am I being unreasonable?


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ItsStardustBackAgain · 12/10/2022 12:59

sandytooth · 12/10/2022 11:30

Rejected? But its fine he just doesn't want to get aroused in a professional environment.



Cigarettesaftersex1 · 12/10/2022 13:08

inheritanceshiteagain · 12/10/2022 12:22

Why on earth send a sex text to someone at work!

I'm in an LDR, we do this very often. Keeps the spark alive, especially as we see each other every 4/5 months only


NoSquirrels · 12/10/2022 13:10

You’re feeling rejected because he didn’t respond like he usually does.

But I reckon his response was a polite sort of ‘I’m in a meeting/public place and can’t risk sexy texts appearing on my lock screen’ or whatever.

Don’t be hurt. I bet he’ll respond in kind when he can.


ZeldaWillTellYourFortune · 12/10/2022 13:16

Sexting some who's at work?


AriettyHomily · 12/10/2022 13:26

I think you're overreacting.

I hope he has his message screen set to now show messages when they come in!


youlightupmyday · 12/10/2022 13:59

I am sure anyone could feel uncomfortable about knowing about the intimate details of anyone's private messages or lives even. But between partners, no fucks given here.

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