Friend forgetting birthday..

[Hindsightin]

would you be upset?

I forgot a friends birthday a couple of years ago - at some point during the panic - can’t really remember what stage as it’s all mashed together.

i think it was her 41st - might have been her 40th but I don’t think so.

we’d been friends for about four years.

anyway apparently tshe had a meltdown about it. I was texting her anyway on the day and realised I’d forgotten it so had a present delivered.

im just wondering if other people would have a melt down about it.

the context for why I ask is I ended the friendship a few months ago and I bumped into her last week and she went a bit batshit at me. There’s a whole other story about why the friendship ended - and I’m by no means blameless.

but I’m just thinking in retrospect re whether the birthday meltdown was a bit of a hint of things to come.

we had done presents and lunch etc for birthdays before.

my own personal view if a friend forgot would be that I wouldn’t be fussed.

just interested to see what other people think really.

soni guess the AIBU is is it unreasonable to get upset if a friend forgets your birthday when you’re in your 40s?

My long term friend birthday was in February. I sent her message in the morning saying Happy Birthday and cake on that day as she wanted a cake as her present. Basically, wanted to let her know that I cared and wanted to make her feel special on her day, as she told me before that her husband does nothing on her birthdays. So are the kids, not even card.
When my birthday came two months later, which she knew about , she didn't even send me a text. I re evaluated our friendship after that. I think, you should treat people like they treat you. She knew that it was important for me, as she knows me long time.