To ask if teachers get offended by extra tutoring

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My 14 year old DS is struggling a bit at secondary in English so we got him a tutor to get a bit of extra help on the premise that a bit of extra 1-1 support might give him a boost both in terms of skills and confidence.

I mentioned this at the parents eve to the teacher & they made it clear they were offended. I’d kind of asked about what we should focus on in the 1-1s- DS is a bit borderline grades wise & definitely needs a bit of help.

Genuinely didn’t mean to offend the teacher- in a big class, the kids just don’t get the 1-1 support they need & I really want DS to pass GSCE with a C grade.

is it a massive faux pas?

Yes, we’ve complained countless times. The compromise was that the teacher was supposed to upload the information to Teams - they’re supposed to be doing it anyway as it’s part of DD’s reasonable adjustments - however, he never does it in time for the tutor session. We also asked for his programme of lessons for the term which he refused to provide - the head got that emailed to me.

DD now takes photos of what she’s been doing in class on her phone and we email it to the tutor so he can prepare his session with her, so we’ve got round it that way.

My daughter needs either 4 in maths GCSE or level 2 in functional skills in order to get into the agricultural college she wants to go to next so we’re just trying to support her to get there.

She’s also doing a Diploma which she’s doing absolutely brilliantly in as the type of learning really suits her - it’s more practical and hands on, continual assessments through out the course rather than one big exam at the end, supportive teacher, etc, etc.