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Would you rather be taking out for dinner or have the guy cook for you on the first date

52 replies

dotty636 · 07/10/2022 11:38

Just that

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CheezePleeze · 07/10/2022 11:38

I wouldn't go to his house on a first date, so I'd rather be taken out to dinner.

unfortunateevents · 07/10/2022 11:38

Taken out because him cooking suggests going to his home which I might not feel comfortable with on a first date – also no easy escape if the date is going wrong!

PorkPieAndAPickledOnion · 07/10/2022 11:39

I wouldn’t agree to meet a man in his home on a first date, unless I already knew him well. Meet in a public place.

Idontgiveagriffindamn · 07/10/2022 11:39

I’d rather do something out of the house whether that’s dinner or something else doesn’t matter. I don’t want a stranger in my house or go to a strangers house.

Daria32 · 07/10/2022 11:39

Definitely out for dinner! I presume as it’s a first date you don’t know the guy that well? I wouldn’t be comfortable going to his house.

Aria2015 · 07/10/2022 11:39

Taken out. A cooked dinner (assume at home) would be a bit too intense for me on a first date...

rageapplied · 07/10/2022 11:40

Surely no one would go to someone's house on a first date or have them to theirs?

MarpleFan · 07/10/2022 11:40

As others have said, out for dinner. I don’t want to be in a man’s home, or him in mine, on a first date.

Sciurus83 · 07/10/2022 11:40

Out, definitely. Cooking at home is an intimate experience not suited to a first date.

PragmaticWench · 07/10/2022 11:40

I wouldn't go to someone's house unless I already knew them well. I wouldn't want to be 'taken out', I'd like to mutually go to dinner together and would expect to split the bill.

EmeraldShamrock1 · 07/10/2022 11:41

Not unless we're friends before the date and I knew him beforehand.

Otherwise no.

He could be a weird person with a filthy kitchen, he could poison me, murder me. No.

Tsort · 07/10/2022 11:41

Taken out for dinner. In no conceivable reality am I going to anyone’s home on a first date.

GonnaGetGoingReturns · 07/10/2022 11:42

Not going to anyone's house on a first date so taken out for dinner.

If he suggests dinner at his house he wants more than just dinner.

SirChenjins · 07/10/2022 11:42

Go out and split the bill. Never go to the home of someone you don’t know or invite them to your home until you know them well and have checked them out.

MrsSkylerWhite · 07/10/2022 11:42

unfortunateevents · Today 11:38
Taken out because him cooking suggests going to his home which I might not feel comfortable with on a first date – also no easy escape if the date is going wrong”

this. Too intimate a setting for a first date and you’re not in control of what you’re eating/drinking.

MidnightMeltdown · 07/10/2022 11:45

Inviting you to his house on first date = serial killer I'm afraid

sheepdogdelight · 07/10/2022 11:47

If it was someone I was already friends with then I'd rather be cooked for.

I wouldn't go to a stranger's house on the first date.

madasawethen · 07/10/2022 11:49

He needs to take you out.

Cooking dinner at his place is lazy and he'll expect sex afterwards.

Had a roommate who did it a couple of times a week with different women.

JesusMaryAndJosephAndTheWeeDon · 07/10/2022 11:52

I'd only go to their house if it was a first date with someone I already knew pretty well. Say a work colleague, friend's brother, friend from a hobby/class or something like that.

Otherwise a first date would be somewhere public. I think being cooked for is a date for when you are getting more serious and have had a few dates already.

MissBPotter · 07/10/2022 11:53

Neither as I wouldn’t want to go to a man’s home on the first date, nor would I want him to cook in my home. Going out for dinner wouldn’t be good either as it is too full on fora first date and lasts too long. Better to do something more casual and easier to get away from such as drinks or coffee. Plus there’s the issue of paying and dinner is quite expensive, but coffee not too much and drinks can do rounds.

arethereanyleftatall · 07/10/2022 12:03

'First' date?!? As in you've never met him?

Then, absolutely and utterly neither.

Meet him first for a coffee/walk/quick thing. Then decide.

Dragonskin · 07/10/2022 12:10

I would meet for dinner and split the bill. No chance I am going to a random blokes house for a first date!

Noteverybodylives · 07/10/2022 12:11

If it was someone I was already friends with then I'd rather be cooked for.

I wouldn't go to a stranger's house on the first date.

I agree.

Apart from the safety issue, the first date is something you should do where you can get out of if you don’t like him.

Going for a coffee means you can spend as much time as you want but if it’s not going well you can make your excuses as soon as you’ve finished your drink.

EarlyGameRem1nder · 07/10/2022 12:11

Definitely out somewhere

Split the bill

Anniefrenchfry · 07/10/2022 12:12

Who the heck gets taken out, except children? We may go out for dinner as a mutual decision but as adults we are not taken. How very antiquated.

and only a fool would go to a strangers house for a first date.

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