To feel envious of next door neighbours?

[MovieQueen12]

A couple in their fifties, deeply in love, both highly paid and are able to work from home and are on holiday/mini breaks all the time as well as going to loads of social events such as concerts etc.
Aibu to feel envious of their happiness, their money and the fact their families all adore each other?

Be careful. The other side of the fence s always greener and comparison is the enemy of happiness. We none of us know what goes on behind closed doors in other people's relationships.

You can’t know all of this just from looking. One might be dying for all you know!!
jealousy is a terrible thing!

You know nothing of their reality, only what is shown publicly. They have probably done their hard yards and been skint years ago.

Don't envy them. If you want all that then get on and make it happen. I don't know how old you are but you could have it by your fifties - unless you're there already.

Nothing is ever as it seems is what I have learnt over the years, also you'll never get anywhere comparing your life to others. Focus on you and yours

Comparison is the thief of joy

Comparison is the thief of joy

As others have said you have no idea of what is going on behind closed doors. I’m a similar age to them and amongst my friends I have one couple where I’ve recently discovered the husband is an alcoholic of years standing (we had suspicions but now know) and another where the wife is being investigated for early onset dementia in her 50s. Both outwardly appear to “have it all”.

Living their best life. Maybe you should live yours rather than watching them all the time.

How do you REALLY know?

Good advice here, OP

Hardly watching them all the time.
It's all over social media for a start and the small fact that I live right next door to them.
Just wish I could have their lives. I think most people would be envious of them. Both of them in good health despite their party lifestyle, close family and friends, lots of spare money, great social life etc. I know it may not always stay like that but hard when your health isn't good, you're in low paid work, no close family or reliable friends etc.

How on earth can you know they're deeply in love?!

I would agree with this, what they post on social media means nothing in this regard.

I had a newish school mum friend say to me the other day how much she wishes she was like me and that I seem so happy.

I almost died laughing. My life is horrible. I am just a good actor.

And new go on what you see on social media!

They sound like my friends. Similar age, have an amazing life but it's not been plain sailing. You don't know what goes on behind closed doors.

I suspect I would envy your life. If you have well off neighbours you probably live in a nice area. Those who live in tiny houses in not so nice areas might be thinking they'd won the lottery to live where you do!

I think there's always "something" to envy and it doesn't get anywhere.

How do you know they aren't up to their eyeballs in debt and hate the sight of each other!

I wouldn't dwell on it. People professing/showing off their love for each other on social media doesn't mean anything.

Stop stalking them on social media, for a start. You know full well people only put the highlights on there, if not outright fabrications.

Couples/people can present as being exceptionally happy and in love but that doesn't necessarily mean it is the case. A relative of mine and her husband look like the most positive, together couple I have ever seen. Yet the reality is at home they are living under the same roof but have separate lives following him having an affair. Don't envy anyone - you don't know the full picture.

Yes, complete waste of your energy.

It’s ok to think it would be nice to have what someone else has, as long as you’re not so envious that it makes you feel bad about your own life.

Although it’s true that what’s on social media might not be the real story, I always find it odd that people take pleasure in saying ‘they might be miserable or dying!’ and this seems to make them feel better about their own life. 😅 Maybe they really are as happy as they seem, nice if they are. Either way, it will make no difference to your life so just focus on yours.

Be envious op but it won't do you any good. Concentrate on your own goals. And as others have said appearance's can be deceptive. Someone I knew looked like they had it all on the surface. Big house, holidays, genuinely no money worries,she was a sahm , lovely husband, 2 gorgeous kids, fancy car, she committed suicide recently. She struggled with poor mental health for years on and off. 😞

All may not be as it seems. We have neighbours like that.
What isn't obvious just by looking at them and their lifestyle is the countless miscarriages along the way and the heartbreak that brought them.