To think this approach is creepy?!

[JollieJullie]

Got the below email in my work inbox today^. AIBU to think the guy is a creep and this approach is unsettling? AIBU not to reply?

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Dear xxx,

I am sorry to intrude in your work email. I saw your profile on Bumble and I would like to get to know you. I googled you and managed to find out that you work at company xyz and then guessed your email address.

I am blablabla [general info about him].

Here's my Whatsapp number in case you'd be up for a chat.

Best regards,
Abc

Bleugh. Stalkery.

Creep. I’d report him on bumble for inappropriate contact off the platform.

I don't know how Bumble works but why couldn't he just message you via that?

Creepy, block!

Report him on bumble, they're good at supporting on that sort of issue and would support you if you go to the police too

Creepy as hell!

extremely creepy!

He couldn't because I didn't swipe right on him. And clearly there was a reason why I didn't!!

I don't know. Maybe he just really likes the look of you. I know on Bumble the woman has to message first, so searching you on Google sounds less creepy with this in mind.

Creepy. Block and report to Bumble.

This is why I won't do online dating anymore there are some absolute weirdos on there shudders with the memory

No, it doesn't. The whole point of Bumble is that women have more control about who should be able to contact them. This guy completely disregarded that. Complete creep!
Can you report?

Fuck that, no idea of boundaries

How odd I’ve seen this exact post but woman asking if she should do it and posters have told her it’s totally fine 🤷‍♀️

Did you put your full name on Bumble?

I would be very careful of how much info you’re putting on Bumble!

If he can Google you and your name and company comes up that’s quite scary!

What a creep, have you not responded at all? I’d find out more and then report him once you know his username on bumble. Who does that? Makes me feel gross

he has successfully marked himself out as ‘one to avoid with a barge pole’ great. Next!!

block and report…

Just my first name. I live in medium-sized city and my first name is uncommon. I think he googled me and found my Linkedin profile, from which he could guess my work email address.

Whatever you do, don't reply - because if you do, you're confirming that you work there.

Block and ignore.

The approach is unsettling and it's very creepy. Do not interact with him whatever you decide to do about this email.

Listen to your gut instinct.
Telling you he is a creep?
Block his email, report on bumble.
Yuk

This is absolutely creepy AF! Don't delete yet but alert bumble and don't reply. Please also consider using a variant of your name e.g. if your first name is Constance, call yourself Connie on your profile.

Same thing happened to a female relative of mine, her company stepped in and got involved as he was being persistent in trying to get a response from her.

Seriously what's wrong with these men, how on earth can they think this is in any way appropriate!

What an overstep. Yes it's creepy! Can you block him from your work email? Archive the email. Definitely don't reply and confirm you work there.

I would also report to Bumble.
He's signed up to the concept of women having the sole ability to message first and if they don't, they don't. It isn't the deal for him to then track you down online.

I'd feel a bit differently if he had messaged on social media as lots of people link their Instagram to their dating profiles but tracking you down and emailing you at work is too far as it takes the contact offline and into the real world, shows he knows your whereabouts etc.

Definitely creepy