To think this approach is creepy?!

[JollieJullie]

Got the below email in my work inbox today^. AIBU to think the guy is a creep and this approach is unsettling? AIBU not to reply?

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Dear xxx,

I am sorry to intrude in your work email. I saw your profile on Bumble and I would like to get to know you. I googled you and managed to find out that you work at company xyz and then guessed your email address.

I am blablabla [general info about him].

Here's my Whatsapp number in case you'd be up for a chat.

Best regards,
Abc

This would make me feel seriously uncomfortable.

Report, and I'd also look a bit more carefully at how he was able to track you down.

If he was able to track you down from just your first name, I'd change the name on your profile to something common like Sarah etc.

Also maybe change the formatting of your pictures, so that someone can't do an image search to track you down in case that's how they did it (eg if you used your linkedin picture on your bumble profile).

Check your pictures too for any identifying details, such as company logos or name badges.

Look at your profile blurb as well - check you're not mentioning any titles/terms that are unique to your company instead of generic (eg 'supreme director of people sourcing' vs 'hr director'), or an unusual hobby that in combination with your unusual name would make you easy to find.

If you can, get a friend who is a good online stalker to look through your profile and then try and find you online.

Obviously don't reply. Does his LinkedIn account show up as someone who visited/viewed your profile? I changed important info in my linkedin profile when I used it - I have now hidden or deleted all the content - I don't like LinkedIn - it's the perfect tool for people to start checking you out on line.

How did he guess your email address?

He's just looked up the email address format of the company, e.g. first name.surname@ company.co.uk then he's found her full name on linked in and slotted that in, reasoning that it was unusual enough to be worth a punt, not just likely to go to another one of 100s of Mary Smiths.

Yuck very stalkerish

Eugh. Creepy. He has clearly anticipated that you won't be interested otherwise surely would have waited for you on Bumble?

Block him for your work email account, report on Bumble. Why are some men so clueless? He's literally gone 100% against the purpose of Bumble

I'd immediately block the email address if I received that email.

If he tracked down her linked in it could be as simple as [email protected]

I once "guessed" a Mans e-mail address. Granted, it was a different situation (the husband of my husbands mistress)

Block, report on Bumble if there's a help type email address, and change your name on OLD to a nickname or acronym like the first three letters. If his email address is a work email I'd also report him to them for harassing you by sending this unsolicited stalking harassment.