to wish my DH had better taste?

[Mum3boyz]

Ok, so I know this is a very small issue in the grand scheme of things but how do you cope if you have a very different style taste than your DH? Mine is really old-fashioned and thinks I just follow style and fashion so we can't get anywhere in improving our house. We recently redecorated, and we have hardwood floors and a very large living room, so I want an area rug to define the seating area and make the room cosy and feel warm. DH says we can only have a small rug and he doesn't want the feet of the furniture on the rug and he doesn't care if that is not how a living room should be styled. It has really upset me because we can't now agree and so we have no rug, and the room feels cold and uninviting. I appreciate this is not exactly the end of the world and my DH is a lovely person. But I feel so upset as I can't have the dream living space that I wanted, and that's all I now see when I go into the living room. I do realise though that if I get what I want DH doesn't get what he wants. Am I being unreasonable to feel upset?

@Dragonskin well that is true.

@tillyandmilly I wish my husband were like yours!

You could compromise by layering rugs, a small one on top of an area rug - it's very much on trend!

Toss a coin for it?

Ah, @Mum3boyz Got it!
You've probably got no chance of the big rug, then, didn't know your DH was ASD. Conversations with my ASD DS.. 'but WHY do we have to get rid of the (80's orange pine) dining table, I LOVE it?' etc etc! :-)
(We compromised. I got the new dining table, the old pine one has to be stored in the garden shed for millenia.)

@confusedlots I am impressed! My DH and I would never be able to build a house together!

@mamabear715 yes. It's really hard. My DH has his own office which he can decorate however he wants but because he keeps everything it's hard to actually get in there to do anything with it!

@NoSquirrels we do both make compromises. My DH recently bought a drum kit which is in the middle of our bedroom. I hate it but of course it's his home too and he loves to play the drums so I realise I need to compromise on this. Often he will agree to something I want that he's not too bothered about as long as it's not too expensive.

@Seenoevil33 don't know if I'm brave enough to do that but I really like the idea!

I don’t ask his opinion, I just buy what I like. He would likely choose something else but doesn’t bother to buy things himself so the home decor is 100% my taste.

Well at the moment, his wants are trumping hers.

Years ago a friend of mine was very similarly stuck.

She had newly built a house on family land to his shit design 🙄.

He had a shit opinion on everything and she couldn't
make any progress on furnishing the house.

They carpeted the house in strong colours with a small pattern, hideous.
He loved raw mexican type wood so they had loads of that, again hideous.

She refused to do one sitting room and claimed it as her own. Decorating it to her taste.

As people would visit, her room would be admired and his would just be looked at with a grimace.

It took 10 years for the house to be redone.
She never went into his large hideous sitting room as she much preferred her cosy space, and that was where she watched TV.

His space became the big playroom/den/ family TV space for their children for many years.

He doesn't sound so nice to live with when he is so insistent on his way.

Pick a room for yourself is my suggestion.

Drums in the bedroom is completely unreasonable too IMO.

My DH recently bought a drum kit which is in the middle of our bedroom. I hate it but of course it's his home too and he loves to play the drums so I realise I need to compromise on this.

See… this is the hill I’d have chosen to die on. Not the size of a rug I think.

Can he not have a drumming shed?

I remember years ago an ex decided to set up his drum kit in our bedroom. It was awful. A low point was him deciding to practice while I was in bed with the flu. His mother read him the riot act and the drum kit found a different home.

Wtf? A drum kit in your bedroom?

NO.

He insists on a drum kit in your bedroom but you can’t buy a large rug?

He sounds like a childish dick.

You should have included this having compromised (beyond what most of us consider a reasonable compromise) about drums in your bedroom information in the OP.

Because it’s not really about the rug. Is it? the rug is just the top of this particular iceberg.

He needs to learn that compromise works both ways. It’s not just something people do for him to get what he wants.

Which is to say: buy the rug you want!

I mean, you're definitely right. I'd just get the rug. If he complains then use it to chuck over his drum kit.

Buy 2 rugs.

Then put the drum kit on his tiny rug and slide it into the garden.

Hearthnhome · Yesterday 19:19
So it’s not that he has no taste. It’s that his taste is different to yours and neither of you can compromise?

this

I understand completely, mine too has no taste, we cannot agree on anything so we have bare walls no pictures rugs barely any furniture just bloody buy it what is he gonna do? And no we don't have differing tastes he has no taste.

Neither is really right or wrong TBH

The articles all talk about large rugs that the furniture sits fully on but I don’t really like that look very much.

This guide is quite handy: www.therugseller.co.uk/rug-size-buying-guide?gclid=Cj0KCQjw1vSZBhDuARIsAKZlijShRpm2MyxIWhHyfPHdyKRkwRAt5TLPEi6Xz5cEtRnWlNEpcqBwLNIaAhmZEALw_wcB

Drum set in the bedroom though?!

This is also a good guide. Like her, I tend to prefer front legs only on the rug: stylebyemilyhenderson.com/blog/living-room-rug-size

@Sd352 That is what I am wanting as well - just the front legs of the furniture on the rug. My DH wants a small rug in the middle and not even a coffee table or ottoman on there, so it looks like a bath mat in the centre of the room. I understand what some people are saying about we have different tastes, and no one is right or wrong, but I just feel this looks awful.

Compromise- get a large cosy rug that you put out in the winter to make the space feel cosier, then roll it away and pop it in a cupboard during the summer.