I’ve name changed for this as I feel like the worst mum and I've messed up somehow.
My son is 15, I had him at 16, split with his dad when he was a baby as he was abusive but DS would've been only a few months old so he doesn't remember, although he has seen his dad shout at me when he got older. I raised him practically on my own for 4 years as his dad only saw him a handful of times, I then got into a relationship with DP and ex wanted to know then and we agreed every other weekend, although it was more like once every few months as he wasn't reliable at all.
His behaviour has always been challenging, nothing too bad, but as As soon as year 7 hit he was like a different boy, we put it down to him being a preteen but he told us his dad was physically and emotionally abusing him, we believed him and he hasn't seen his dad since, he has had counselling but he started to refuse to go.
We then went into lockdown, and his behaviour got worse but it was manageable, this year his behaviour is out of my control, got his gf (at the time) pregnant, his attitude is awful, he's hit me a few times, comes home drunk, smokes weed, skips school- he's only been to school 5 times this academic year and has been sent home 2 of those times for his fighting. Today, I've taken all his things off of him and said he can't go out until he goes to school and he hit me, I feel like the worst mum but I'm thinking of just calling social services and saying I don't want him living with me which breaks my heart as I do love him but I can't control his behaviour and it's probably only going to get worse, AIBU?