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AIBU?

To leave my 13 year old daughter alone ?

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tearsandtiaras · 02/10/2022 19:27

Aibu to leave my 13 year old daughter from 5.45pm- 9pm on a Saturday night? Id get back to tuck her in to bed.

She has been left for this length of time before but usually earlier in the day, she is year 8 just turned 13

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PeekAtYou · 02/10/2022 19:28

Can you ask her what she thinks?
my kids would have been fine with that.

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FelicityBennett · 02/10/2022 19:30

What does she think ? What support network do you have around, ie do you know a neighbour that she could message or go to if suddenly scared ? How far away would you be ?
at this age I think it depend s on the individual child really. My eldest was happy but my younger one gets scared at night if by self.

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rainbowandglitter · 02/10/2022 19:32

Is it every Saturday or a one off? I have a year 8 and don't think I'd do this regularly. Maybe as a one off.

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Sprogletsmum2 · 02/10/2022 19:33

I wouldn't even think twice. My 13 year old doesn't want to come anywhere with us so I just leave him to it.

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thirstyformore · 02/10/2022 19:34

I would have last year when my dd was year 8, as long as she was happy with it.

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leccybill · 02/10/2022 19:35

That seems fine to me. I have a Y8 DD, we left her from 7 til 11 to go to a concert (only up thd road though) in July.

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Autumn101 · 02/10/2022 19:35

I’d be fine with this for my year 8 as long as he was happy too (which he would be as it’d be uninterrupted Xbox time!)

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skedaddler · 02/10/2022 19:36

Yes I did this , completely fine .

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tearsandtiaras · 02/10/2022 19:37

Thanks for the replies. Its a one off

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Cw112 · 02/10/2022 19:38

I'd do it as a one off but not as a regular thing where someone could learn its the routine. I'd also want to have a plan in place with her if something happened like if the door went or she got scared etc. Like if there's a neighbour or relative who lives close by she could ring in an emergency who'll be home at that time?

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tearsandtiaras · 02/10/2022 19:39

Zero support network but phones obviously. I think she will be gaming with friends to be honest so won't mind. Im also taking her out in the day with a friend for a treat so will be tired and wanting to chill

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TheTurn0fTheScrew · 02/10/2022 19:40

fine if she's happy.

if you're not contactable (say in the theatre) it would be good to have a think about who she could ring (a neighbour or a mate's mum?) if there's any problems.

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