I dated a former colleague for a month, 7 years ago. So a bit of a non event. I had more feelings than him and he didn't want it to become a relationship and that was it, it was over. A month later i liked someone else and didn't know what on earth I'd seen in the previous guy.
I worked with him for about a year after and we've been in touch since then for probably twice a year on Facebook, quick catch up about work, that's it.
Haven't seen him in person in about 6 years and no particular plans to.
I messaged him about a month ago as my brother is actually applying for a job where he works, so I asked for some advice.
He's been in a relationship with someone else for quite a few years now as have I.
I told my partner that I very occasionally speak to him and he didn't bat an eyelid.
I'm not in touch with any 'proper' exes at all.
Anyway this morning his girlfriend sent me a friend request on Facebook. I've never met or spoken to her in my life. I barely speak to him like I said.
I'm quite scared tbh, why would she request to follow me? Shall I ask the friend? Shall I just decline it? Wonder if she's been going through his messages, not that there's anything particularly interesting to see.
I was friends with a school friend a few years back (he turned out to be a twat but that's another story). Had zero interest whatsoever, i actually spent my time asking him for advice about guys I liked. He had a girlfriend.
I sometimes write long messages (as you can see). His girlfriend must have read them or asked for my name because I randomly got a message from her saying "Why have you messaged James 3 times?! What's so important?!"
I felt so embarrassed and like I'd done something wrong. It wasn't constant messaging either and I'd never given any suggestion at all that I'd be interested or ever flirted.
I don't really have any male friends anymore, especially not with girlfriends.
Anyway back to this, what to do about the friend request?