I don't mind a "quick run"

[helenabonhamfarter]

Is it me?

DH announces frequently he's off for a "quick run" or "quick bike ride"

Fine no problem.

It's what follows after which is annoying.

Quick run= 90 mins (or cycle ride)

Then comes home and has "cool down" period- normally over 30 mins (think lying on floor drinking water and being generally useless)

Then hour of bath, faffing around, putting smelly kit in laundry.

So "quick" exercise turns into nearly three hours whilst I do childcare, homework, house work etc

Anyone else's other half do this? And don't get me started on the 30 minute poos!!

(And for what it's worth my hours of work during the week are considerably longer tab his)

MEN. It's like mine says he's gonna get himself a 'light lunch,' and he comes out of the kitchen with:

2 rounds of bread and butter
A bag of crisps
A 40gm flapjack
A fruit corner
2 chocolate biscuits
3 toffees
A buttered scone

That is a 'light lunch.'

I would hate to see a bastard heavy lunch. He'd need a truck to bring it all in out of the kitchen.

Men are fucking weird.

Oh - he also spends 50 minutes in the bathroom just going for a shower and to wash his hair. I take 10 minutes to do the same thing.

It's not to evade duties/looking after kids. DD left a decade ago, it's just us 2.

I agree with pps - tell him you're popping out for a 'quick' anything - coffee, shop, visit. Do not define a quick by saying 30mins or whatever.

Once he is in a state of shock at how long a 'quick' anything is, have the discussion about parity of 'me time' .....

Ideally, you'll be able to hold off doing this until you gather the 'evidence' over a few weeks as to how much disparity there is between the 'me time' each of you enjoy.

Good luck!! 😊

How frequent is it? Once a week and you get a chance once a week to have three hours to yourself? Then that's great otherwise he's avoiding family life and responsibilities and needs to get a grip

That's a pisstske OP, do you get three hours for just doing what you want? Sounds unequal and selfish on his part

Both my dh and I are runners. 1.5 hours is not a 'quick run' for any runner unless they run ultras. I'd say 30-45 mins meets that definition for us. The faffing would drive me mad.

I'm the distance runner and my long runs max out at 3 hours plus 30 mins for stretches and shower, so not actually that much more timewise than your dh. The difference is I don't pretend that's a short amount of time, I prep the clothes/ nutrition the night before and I'm usually back around breakfast/9ish at the latest so I don't take the P.

I would second others who have suggested that you 'pop to the shops' a few times and then have a chat if he complains. He needs to either go at a more convenient time, make them shorter or give you equal time for yourself.