Is it me?
DH announces frequently he's off for a "quick run" or "quick bike ride"
Fine no problem.
It's what follows after which is annoying.
Quick run= 90 mins (or cycle ride)
Then comes home and has "cool down" period- normally over 30 mins (think lying on floor drinking water and being generally useless)
Then hour of bath, faffing around, putting smelly kit in laundry.
So "quick" exercise turns into nearly three hours whilst I do childcare, homework, house work etc
Anyone else's other half do this? And don't get me started on the 30 minute poos!!
(And for what it's worth my hours of work during the week are considerably longer tab his)
AIBU?
I don't mind a "quick run"
helenabonhamfarter · 01/10/2022 12:24
SnarkyBag · 01/10/2022 12:27
Just start “popping to the shops” and go for coffee and a mooch for 3 hours each time.
brrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr · 01/10/2022 13:15
My wife goes out for 5k runs that take 90 minutes because it’s running and chatting and getting there and getting back. And it’s fine, it’s a meaningful connected social and fitness thing. Small pleasures. There are 10’000 minutes in a week, 90 of them is less than one percent.
SkankingWombat · 01/10/2022 14:04
It isn't the 90 mins run that is the problem here (although I'm not sure an hour and a half qualifies 'quick run' either). It is the faffing either side which takes it to 3hrs that's the problem. Does your DW spend 30 mins prepping for her run, 90 mins running, 30 mins cooling down/stretching, then another 30 mins getting showered?
OP my DH is like this too, although he cycles and the core 'cycle time' is an hr. He spends longer faffing though, so the overall time is similar. His prep takes an hour: carefully planning his route, getting dressed, preparing, adjusting and tuning The Bike. Once home, The Bike needs cleaning and re-tuning from all the wear and tear that has occurred during its 60 minutes of use (another half hour). Then a shower is needed (30 mins again). I can understand the bike cleaning and tuning after a ride so it is put away 'ready to use', but why does it then need doing again before the next ride?
He does try to be considerate though, so he goes out early-ish and it is only the second part of the cycle and post-exercise faff that impact on me and DCs, which is fine.
In comparison, I swim and once a week do a 'quick swim' (I have a longer swim another night). 5 mins to get ready, 15 min drive, 30 min swim, 10 min shower and change, 15 min drive: 1hr 15 mins start to finish and done at a time when it has a minimal impact on the family. That is 'quick'!
brrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr · 01/10/2022 13:15
My wife goes out for 5k runs that take 90 minutes because it’s running and chatting and getting there and getting back. And it’s fine, it’s a meaningful connected social and fitness thing. Small pleasures. There are 10’000 minutes in a week, 90 of them is less than one percent.
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theydontspeakforus · 01/10/2022 15:28
I have friends (men) who do ultra marathons, iron men competitions, cross country cycling....... all of them have wives who pick up the housework / childcare / life admin slack. This is usually at least one full day per weekend, and usually a weekend day and an overnight at least once a month. As well as 6-7am daily runs / cycles etc.
Fuck that. If you don't want to be involved in family life, don't have a family.
Tell your husband he has 1.5 hours to stretch, run, cool down, wash and be ready for family duties, or absolutely do what a PP days and go for a "quick coffee", for 3 hours, every Saturday until he gets the bloody hint. Just because he's staying fit, it doesn't come at the detriment of spending time together and helping out with family time.
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