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Original poster

He’s asked me to join me for a bath…

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GorillaTape · 29/09/2022 21:34

I’ve been speaking for a week on what’s app to a guy from hinge. He’s send me a pic of his taking a bath (just the bath) and then his face and wrote “Comming joining me”. Grammar/typo on his part but I think he meant for me to join him.
He also replied to my message “I’m still in bed” with “You seem to be in the wrong bed 😉”.

AIBU if I just move on?

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Hibye23289 · 29/09/2022 22:00

No he is gross after one week, what a sleeze.

StarDolphins · 29/09/2022 22:05

Comming would put me off just as much as the sex talk. I would definitely knock this on the head. I mean, my 6 year old could write that word correctly!

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GorillaTape · 29/09/2022 22:15

LivingMyBestLie · 29/09/2022 21:47

I think you're taking it too seriously. He's just trying to flirt (very predictably).

Thanks. I’ve deleted the messages and will leave it up to him to contact me.
it’s just getting stale…. He doesn’t even ask about my life.

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VladmirsPoutine · 29/09/2022 22:19

Just block and delete. Why leave it up to him. He's even given me the ick and I'm an internet stranger on a parenting forum.

WhatLikeItsHard · 29/09/2022 22:34

Block, delete, move on. Why do you want to wait for him to message you again? He's already given you the ick, and isn't showing an interest in your life.

Have you been on dating apps for a while? I would caution against chatting to people for too long. Anyone can pretend to be interesting, nice, funny, caring etc over messaging. Maximum of a week chatting, and then meet up for a coffee or walk to see if there's a spark, if not, then move on.

VroomVrooom · 29/09/2022 22:39

Yes, it definitely depends what you’re looking for.

Someone who gives you the ick, or someone who doesn’t.

I’m guessing most half-decent, normal people fall into the latter category, OP included.

Merlo · 29/09/2022 22:41

Meh, move along. If the chats gone stale already, I’m not sure why either of you would bother.

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GorillaTape · 29/09/2022 22:47

WhatLikeItsHard · 29/09/2022 22:34

Block, delete, move on. Why do you want to wait for him to message you again? He's already given you the ick, and isn't showing an interest in your life.

Have you been on dating apps for a while? I would caution against chatting to people for too long. Anyone can pretend to be interesting, nice, funny, caring etc over messaging. Maximum of a week chatting, and then meet up for a coffee or walk to see if there's a spark, if not, then move on.

Yeah but not for long….. other men have been total sleeves, or I’ve been a bit weird.

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OnTheBrinkOfChange · 29/09/2022 22:48

Do you know his address, sent him a dictionary with the words fuck and off highlighted in yellow.

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GorillaTape · 29/09/2022 22:48

Got on one else interested

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OnTheBrinkOfChange · 29/09/2022 22:49

Missing question mark there!

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GorillaTape · 29/09/2022 22:52

Apologies I’m on my phone whilst at work and I shouldn’t be…. Typos etc

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PixieLaLa · 29/09/2022 22:56

*”He’s asked me to join me for a bath…

He’s send me a pic of his taking a bath”*

The irony of you commenting about his grammar 😂

userxx · 29/09/2022 22:56

He sounds a bit sleazy, wouldn't be for me.

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GorillaTape · 29/09/2022 23:00

PixieLaLa · 29/09/2022 22:56

*”He’s asked me to join me for a bath…

He’s send me a pic of his taking a bath”*

The irony of you commenting about his grammar 😂

No I meant I didn’t know what he meant… comming can also mean organism

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WhatLikeItsHard · 29/09/2022 23:03

Try bumble?

I haven't been on dating apps for a while, I met my partner on tinder (after probably 20+ 'no go' first dates, and lots of sleazy messages), but my friends use bumble or match.com.

And not having anyone else who seems interested right this second is not an excuse to keep hanging around for a man who uses the word "comming".

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GorillaTape · 29/09/2022 23:04

WhatLikeItsHard · 29/09/2022 23:03

Try bumble?

I haven't been on dating apps for a while, I met my partner on tinder (after probably 20+ 'no go' first dates, and lots of sleazy messages), but my friends use bumble or match.com.

And not having anyone else who seems interested right this second is not an excuse to keep hanging around for a man who uses the word "comming".

My writing isn’t the best either.

Yeah I’ll move on

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GorillaTape · 29/09/2022 23:07

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Lol

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BertaHoon · 29/09/2022 23:10

Can't spell.
No wit.
Sexual innuendo as constant.
Block.

WhileMyGuitarGentlyWeeps · 29/09/2022 23:22

@GorillaTape

What job do you do that you can post on mumsnet at nearly midnight? Confused

Anyway, as for this bloke... Bleurgh! Shock He sounds foul. Bin him and ghost him. You can get an 'organism' somewhere else.

Sorry, just teasing. Smile ^

AchatAVendre · 29/09/2022 23:24

Well, he does have one thing going for him OP.

At least you won't have to fight off other women to join him in that bath!

Sunnytwobridges · 29/09/2022 23:55

My ex made a lot of sexual innuendos before we even met. I should've saw that as a massive red flag as he became a sex pest over time and could relate the color of the sky to sex. It was one of many things of why he is an ex 😂

CountingCrowns · 30/09/2022 00:01

do you really need to ask mumsnet for permission to move on?!

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