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it's daft to think parents with kids in private school have money to burn?

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Popgoestheweaselagain · 29/09/2022 13:04

Just got asked by my school what would be the impact if they had to pay VAT, adding 20% to fees. My response was 'I'd try to keep my child in the school, but ....'. I think almost all parents would respond this way. Alarmed, did a quick google, and found this is Labour policy. Next time they come knocking at my door looking for my vote, I'll be telling them why they can't have it!

Now, I understand why some people are ideologically opposed to private schools, the unfariness etc. But when I hear this argument that goes something like 'Those people must have loads of money because they send their kids to private school' it kind of annoys me. Money is finite. If you've spent all your money on school fees, you obviously don't have it anymore!

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Dixiechickonhols · 29/09/2022 15:36

I think it’s naive to think that no private schools would mean parents put children in state I think it’s more likely that parents would band together to ‘homeschool’ using tutors so a small private school in all but name without the inspections and safeguards.
Out of interest I checked private girls secondary school in town I used to live in - £1900 a year fees and 8 girls on roll. I suspect these girls would disappear from school altogether and be home educated not go to local mixed state. There are no single sex state schools locally.

Antarcticant · 29/09/2022 15:37

If you've spent all your money on school fees, you obviously don't have it anymore!

But you have the option of sending your children to a state school, so there is a safety net of being able to release the amount you spend on school fees to cover other essentials, which people who are already state educating their children don't have.

What people who are well-off don't always realise is that for some, there are no significant cut backs they can make because they are already spending the minimum possible.

While free education is available to all in this country, educating your children privately is a luxury - and an expensive one - so I can't accept arguments that people who make this choice are hard up.

monotonousmum · 29/09/2022 15:38

I don't like the idea of the impact this could have on kids having to move schools because their parents wouldn't be able to afford this change. They didn't make this decision, but it would be them it would hurt.

But yes, it's a luxury and I don't see a problem with the policy. Maybe only applying this after a certain year, or not kids that are already in the school, or giving two years notice to give people a chance to save or make other arrangements.

Imagine pulling a kid out of school half way through GCSEs and sending them to a completely different school, private or not. It should be avoided where possible.

DreamingOfSoftWhiteSand · 29/09/2022 15:39

robertpaulson · 29/09/2022 13:12

I don't understand why people want more children burdening the state system.

Exactly. Do people not realise that by sending their children to private schools, these families are 'saving' the public education system money? It's not rocket science.

Anon778833 · 29/09/2022 15:39

Having had much experience of both private and state schools, I think most people agree that private school is not worth paying for unless you can afford to miss the money. So, yes unless you have money to burn. If using a private school means that you have to scrimp in other areas then it isn’t worth it.

Where I live, there has been a big drop in the number of people willing to pay for private School now. It is generally only people who are noticeably rich who do. Class sizes have dropped from 18 to 12 in even the most popular school which used to be over subscribed but now isn’t.

Icanstillrecallourlastsummer · 29/09/2022 15:40

goldfinchonthelawn · 29/09/2022 15:23

Why stripped of charitable status? If all privately educated children ended up in the state system due to massive fee increases, that would be a bigger burden on the state, surely, with people who can afford to pay their way getting something free instead. I don't see why that would be more desirable.

@goldfinchonthelawn because I don't think they deserve to be classed as charities. Providing private education for money is certainly not a charitable act. And lending out your pool (often at a commercial rate) to a couple of local schools or offering a couple of token burseries shouldnt' be enough to get the vast benefits that charitable status gives them.

Sometimessometime · 29/09/2022 15:41

It's because private schooling is a luxury. A luxury most of us can't afford. You have the option to send your child to school for free.

antelopevalley · 29/09/2022 15:42

monotonousmum · 29/09/2022 15:38

I don't like the idea of the impact this could have on kids having to move schools because their parents wouldn't be able to afford this change. They didn't make this decision, but it would be them it would hurt.

But yes, it's a luxury and I don't see a problem with the policy. Maybe only applying this after a certain year, or not kids that are already in the school, or giving two years notice to give people a chance to save or make other arrangements.

Imagine pulling a kid out of school half way through GCSEs and sending them to a completely different school, private or not. It should be avoided where possible.

I think a staggered implementation is a good idea.

Sometimessometime · 29/09/2022 15:42

Dixiechickonhols · 29/09/2022 15:36

I think it’s naive to think that no private schools would mean parents put children in state I think it’s more likely that parents would band together to ‘homeschool’ using tutors so a small private school in all but name without the inspections and safeguards.
Out of interest I checked private girls secondary school in town I used to live in - £1900 a year fees and 8 girls on roll. I suspect these girls would disappear from school altogether and be home educated not go to local mixed state. There are no single sex state schools locally.

Or maybe they'd just pay the 20% VAT, like we do on most luxuries, it's not like they're being outlawed

crumpetswithjam · 29/09/2022 15:42

That's just not true @DreamingOfSoftWhiteSand - proven over and over that it strips children in the state section of social mobility. But if that's what you tell yourself to sleep at night by all means go ahead.

Anon778833 · 29/09/2022 15:43

They shouldn’t be allowed to register as charities unless they give out decent bursaries. And most don’t any more.

Popgoestheweaselagain · 29/09/2022 15:43

SillySausage81 · 29/09/2022 15:32

You sound like you think your children have an inherent entitlement to a private education regardless of your ability to pay, whereas other children from families poorer than you don't.

Why do you feel that way?

I have never said that anywhere, ever. As you would know if you had read my posts. So, there's no good asking me why I feel that way, as I don't feel that way at all.

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Henowner · 29/09/2022 15:43

You'll be enjoying the recent tax cuts then 😉

echt · 29/09/2022 15:43

If you have kids in private school, your taxes still go to contribute to state schools but then you are also paying to not have the state pay for your kids to be in school. You are also paying for thousands of people employed in the private sector. It’s not very hard to understand

So you choose to drive a car rather than go by bus/train.
Your choice.
Same thing.

Not very hard to understand.

Screamifyouwanttogofast · 29/09/2022 15:43

goldfinchonthelawn · 29/09/2022 15:23

Why stripped of charitable status? If all privately educated children ended up in the state system due to massive fee increases, that would be a bigger burden on the state, surely, with people who can afford to pay their way getting something free instead. I don't see why that would be more desirable.

But the fact that councils save money by not having to educate private school kids does not make private schools a charity!

antelopevalley · 29/09/2022 15:44

When we are all being encouraged to embrace cold homes and wearing blankets in the house, then private education is clearly a luxury.

Suedomin · 29/09/2022 15:44

Surely VAT should be added onto private school fees,and they shouldn't attract charitable status either. Other luxury items attract VAT why should private schools be different?.
And as for saying people who send their children to private schools aren't wealthy they just choose to spend money that way. Some people can't afford to feed their children. Or to heat their homes.

Sometimessometime · 29/09/2022 15:44

DreamingOfSoftWhiteSand · 29/09/2022 15:39

Exactly. Do people not realise that by sending their children to private schools, these families are 'saving' the public education system money? It's not rocket science.

But also meaning the ruling elite have no incentive to make sure state schools are actually good and funded properly - the schools wouldn't be closed down, they'd just be treated like the businesses they are, rather than charitable bodies, which they may have been 300 years ago, but aren't anymore

PixellatedPixie · 29/09/2022 15:45

pistachi0nuts · 29/09/2022 15:27

@robertpaulson Private schools are a little bit of a stigma these days, it's almost embarassing to admit you went to one. It is essentially paying to put your child at an advantage to poorer children. I find that completely immoral. Your child is either clever or not, there's not much a private school can do for the latter. It does teach a certain smarmy sort of arrogance however which seems to be exclusive to private school kids.

Don’t people pay for lots of things to put their children at an advantage? Buying a nice house once you have kids or moving to a house with a garden even if it makes your commute longer are examples. What about all the people who buy houses in expensive areas so they are near excellent state schools? Or even just people who move / rent next to good schools? What about my husband and I who moved from a quite poor country to the UK in part because I wanted the guarantee of a British state school over the alternative in my home country which is infinitely crapper? By your standards it’s even immoral to pay to use a human trafficker to flee a war zone for the sake of your children.

Lapland123 · 29/09/2022 15:45

They could add VAT but also let parents not using the state education places have a refund.

Andante57 · 29/09/2022 15:45

cloutneerbeout · Today 13:21

If all the MPs with privately educated children suddenly had to send their children to state schools I guarantee the government would suddenly magically find the money desperately needed to improve state educational provision.

Plenty of MPs send their children to state schools. Why would state schools suddenly improve if those who don’t were to to suddenly do so?
Why aren’t the MPs with children at state school doing something about it.

Icanstillrecallourlastsummer · 29/09/2022 15:45

PixellatedPixie · 29/09/2022 15:45

Don’t people pay for lots of things to put their children at an advantage? Buying a nice house once you have kids or moving to a house with a garden even if it makes your commute longer are examples. What about all the people who buy houses in expensive areas so they are near excellent state schools? Or even just people who move / rent next to good schools? What about my husband and I who moved from a quite poor country to the UK in part because I wanted the guarantee of a British state school over the alternative in my home country which is infinitely crapper? By your standards it’s even immoral to pay to use a human trafficker to flee a war zone for the sake of your children.

They do. But they do not expect a tax benefit for doing so.

Screamifyouwanttogofast · 29/09/2022 15:46

Icanstillrecallourlastsummer · 29/09/2022 15:40

@goldfinchonthelawn because I don't think they deserve to be classed as charities. Providing private education for money is certainly not a charitable act. And lending out your pool (often at a commercial rate) to a couple of local schools or offering a couple of token burseries shouldnt' be enough to get the vast benefits that charitable status gives them.

Indeed. Let’s ask the exchequer if he’d rather have the VAT on school fees or state schools having to pay slightly more for swimming lessons

antelopevalley · 29/09/2022 15:46

echt · 29/09/2022 15:43

If you have kids in private school, your taxes still go to contribute to state schools but then you are also paying to not have the state pay for your kids to be in school. You are also paying for thousands of people employed in the private sector. It’s not very hard to understand

So you choose to drive a car rather than go by bus/train.
Your choice.
Same thing.

Not very hard to understand.

If you buy books rather than use the library no one congratulates you on saving the council money.
Public services are there for everyone to use. Some people use private services instead. I am happy people have the choice. But it is simply a choice and not one that should attract preferential tax treatment.

Antarcticant · 29/09/2022 15:46

echt · 29/09/2022 15:43

If you have kids in private school, your taxes still go to contribute to state schools but then you are also paying to not have the state pay for your kids to be in school. You are also paying for thousands of people employed in the private sector. It’s not very hard to understand

So you choose to drive a car rather than go by bus/train.
Your choice.
Same thing.

Not very hard to understand.

If you have no children, you are paying for the state to educate other people's children - and the same argument could be made for lots of taxpayer funded things that not everyone can benefit from. That's how taxes work - it's not pay-as-you-go.

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