To not go to this wedding do?

[Crustyjugglers]

Partner and I invited to evening do of his work mate's wedding and basically, I don't want to go. Reasons are: I don't know the work mate or his wife to be, don't enjoy wedding small talk with people I don't know, can't be fecked standing about in heels all night, have feck all to wear and generally feeling quite anxious about the whole thing as I just don't do well in these situations these days (thanks menopause!). Suggested he went on his own and made a night of it (he's worked with these folk for over 20 years) and he was aghast at the suggestion! AIBU?

At least your partner invites you out
my ex refused to Take me anywhere when asked if I wanted to come along by his workmate it always used to say no he’d rather go on his own

If your invite is to the evening only. Can you go and have a nice dinner somewhere first? Nice hotels often have a swanky restaurant with the wedding held in a special
purpose room? You will feel different after half a bottle of wine and a cocktail in advance?

I love weddings, but I think it’s better if he goes without you, he can enjoy time with his work friends

Get over yourself! What a selfish attitude. Of course you don't know them if you can't be bothered to go out and meet them. There's a whole world if interesting people out there but you seem more interested in a night in front of the TV. Let's hope your partner meets a more socialable new partner at these events they're going to on their own.

Let's hope your partner meets a more socialable new partner at these events they're going to on their own
That is a nasty and lazy comment, read the OP’s updates at least.