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For getting involved with neighbour dispute

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iGotADilemma · 28/09/2022 20:47

Neighbour 1 who lives opposite us had his driveway semi-blocked by neighbour 2 who lives a few doors down. Neighbour 1 got extremely angry and started shaking and kicking the car. He was shouting saying "I'm gonna * scratch the car" etc etc. Neighbour 2 apologised and moved the car and Neighbour 1 went back into his home. My BIL messaged neighbour 2 who we're friendly with asking what happened and he said his car has been scratched by neighbour 1. He asked if we had evidence. Our Ring doorbell recorded everything. If BIL sends the evidence then it's obvious it came from us as our driveway is visible. If BIL doesn't send evidence then there will be a dispute between neighbour 1 and neighbour 2. What would you do? Is it morally right to get involved?

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PlanningTowns · 28/09/2022 20:54

You will not win either way. BIL should have stayed out of it to begin with.

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LuckyLil · 28/09/2022 21:08

You'll lose a friend either way if you don't give them the evidence. Can't you just screenshot stills and crop them so it doesn't show your drive?

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alloutoflunchideas · 28/09/2022 21:11

if neighbour 2 reports it to the police they may ask if you have footage

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iGotADilemma · 28/09/2022 21:13

But what is right morally? Give evidence or not? And why?

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SlagathaChristie · 28/09/2022 21:15

iGotADilemma · 28/09/2022 21:13

But what is right morally? Give evidence or not? And why?

Why would it be morally right to withhold evidence? What would you like someone to do if you were the one whose car was damaged?

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ICanTuckMyBoobsInMyPockets · 28/09/2022 21:17

What do you mean morally?

Someone has caused criminal damage abd behaved in a threatening manner and you have evidence of it.

Why wouldn't you share it?

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ImWithMuriel · 28/09/2022 21:17

Honesty is the best policy.

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ImAvingOops · 28/09/2022 21:22

Neighbour 2 shouldn't have blocked neighbour 1's driveway. I'd stay out of this if I was you because neither party has covered themselves in glory and you getting involved won't help

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Branleuse · 28/09/2022 21:23

Id send the evidence. Neighbour 2 is practically a friend. Neighbour 1 is batshit aggressive. He needs a warning.
Id choose my friendship with neighbour 2. Shame youre involved but you are. You cant turn back time

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7eleven · 28/09/2022 21:27

I’d pretend nothing had been recorded.

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Openyoureyesitsimportant · 28/09/2022 21:32

Why is your Ring doorbell able to capture outside your property? Have you complied with all legal requirements for that.

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iGotADilemma · 28/09/2022 21:40

Openyoureyesitsimportant · 28/09/2022 21:32

Why is your Ring doorbell able to capture outside your property? Have you complied with all legal requirements for that.

What legal requirements are you referring to?

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Isaidnoalready · 28/09/2022 21:42

iGotADilemma · 28/09/2022 21:40

What legal requirements are you referring to?

The part where your only supposed to record your property and put signs up warning people they are on camera

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purpleme12 · 28/09/2022 21:49

And this is exactly how people get away with it.
Because neighbours don't want to get involved so it keeps on going and they get away with it.
Yes give the evidence.

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Openyoureyesitsimportant · 28/09/2022 21:51

Google Ring doorbell UK gdpr and you can see for yourself. It's one of those things that people don't realise it's an issue until it is. In your case I would deny that your doorbell recorded anything and I would reset your settings to ensure only your property was recorded.

Morally yes you have evidence but to hand it over could leave you in precarious position if your neighbor realises that you have been recording him and his family for a period of time.

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Blowyourowntrumpet · 28/09/2022 21:52

Did this actually happen?

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KingCharlespen · 28/09/2022 21:55

Your mention of morals is confusing. It sounds like there may be police involvement and I'd be very cautious around what you do with the footage. You're not necessarily taking sides but you have evidence which you shouldn't withhold.

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underneaththeash · 28/09/2022 21:56

Neighbour 2 WAS in the wrong though, you never block someone's drive. There could be an emergency.

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underneaththeash · 28/09/2022 21:56

Isaidnoalready · 28/09/2022 21:42

The part where your only supposed to record your property and put signs up warning people they are on camera

You're not correct - that's only a requirement for employees inside.

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purpleme12 · 28/09/2022 21:58

@underneaththeash I don't think anyone's disputing that neighbour shouldn't have blocked the drive. But it sounds like other neighbour caused criminal damage from what I can tell

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PinkSand · 28/09/2022 21:58

Lie and say battery died?

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been and done it. · 28/09/2022 22:00

Wasn't there a case last year when someone had to cough up 20k for filming his neighbour's comings and goings?

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Dunnoburt · 28/09/2022 22:03

If I were a victim of something then I would certainly appreciate evidence towards it..... honesty is the best policy IMO

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Herejustforthisone · 29/09/2022 05:30

Isaidnoalready · 28/09/2022 21:42

The part where your only supposed to record your property and put signs up warning people they are on camera

FFS.

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sarahc336 · 29/09/2022 05:38

If the police are involved you will have to pass it on op xx

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