To think 20 degrees is not ‘like an oven’?

[TimeAtTheBar]

It was c16 degrees in the front room this morning so I ‘boosted’ the heating for 15 mins to 20 degrees. The front room keeps it’s heat in very well with the doors shut so it only needed a boost.

DH has walked in the room and declared it is like an oven, he’s too hot, I’m wasting good money, it’s still only September and ‘we’ decided not to put the heating on until November at least (‘we’ decided no such thing).

AIBU to think that 20 degrees is a perfectly normal ambient temperature to be comfortable in my own front room? I’m recovering from flu and resting on doctors orders so I’m not moving around much, I have a jumper, fluffy socks and a blanket and I’m quite cosy thank you very much.

I won’t mention the fact that he walked out leaving the door open. I might boost the heating again just to spite him.

I'm glad we don't have a thermostat. We were cold last night so put the heating on for a couple of hours. It was cold this morning so it went in for an hour. When the weather properly turns, it hasn't here yet, it will be in timer and we adjust depending how warm / cold we are.

I've bought thermometers to see how cold it gets in the living room and upstairs. It was 17C in the hall yesterday evening and I put the heating on for a short time, made a fire and put an extra layer on (oversized fleece hoodie). If it's much below 20C in the room it's uncomfortable to sit in even with warm clothing and layers on, but DH will walk in and say "It's like an old people's home in here." He is rather overweight and doesn't feel the cold. My BMI is 27 but I lost 10lbs recently and am feeling the cold!

If the rest of the house is 16 degrees it would feel very hot to walk into a room that's 4 degrees warmer.

Just checked the temperature and it says 15.9. I sitting on the sofa with a jumper and a blanket on my lap and I'm fine.

It’s the same temperature in my kitchen. I’m sat here drinking a cup of coffee in shorts and bare feet and I don’t feel remotely cold. I do have a fleece on though.

It’s obvious from the many “I can’t stand it, it’s too hot/cold” threads on here that people’s bodies/minds react to temperature in vastly different ways.

If you give yourself time to acclimatise it helps.

My heating is set to 25 in the day not on at night though unless it's literally freezing. Maybe 3 or 4 winter nights a year.

I'm glad we don't have a thermostat.

I'm glad I do have a thermostat. I'm not made of money and gas is a finite resource.

21 is comfortable for me - although my rooms differ greatly so when the thermostat says 20, in one room it might be much colder.

16 is ridiculously cold.

I think your DH is being an arse. We've set the thermostat at 20 degrees but it's in the sitting room so it means the other rooms (that get less sun/are on the north side of the house etc) are a bit colder. I think 16 degrees sounds way too cold and would leave our house with a damp problem.

I frequently feel too hot because I'm perimenopausal so I'm not a good judge of what is too hot or cold!

Thermostat was set to 20 whenever I was in the house last year (off overnight) and I'd boost to 21 for a 'treat'. This winter I'm trying 19 as standard and will boost up to 20 occasionally. I do feel the cold but I also know that the body adjusts. I'm sure the WHO says 18 degrees as a minimum healthy temperature. People who live with it on 16 are putting their health at risk.

Also important to note that men and women regulate and feel temperatures in dIfferent ways - hence quite often men are hot when women are cold 🥶

Oh good another heating thread.

19 or 20 degrees are perfect if you feel ill. 16 is too cold for me, even with sheepskin slippers and a fleece dressing gown over my clothes.

Mum, is that you?

Sounds like my DH. I think his internal thermostat is broken as he is permanently too hot. It’s very annoying for the rest of us!

I don't think 16 is cold and wouldn't put the heating on for that - we only ever set our thermostat to 18 (and will light a fire on very cold days, or just to heat the sitting room during crossover periods like now). We are not remotely cold and miserable at these temperatures - I am perfectly comfortable with a jumper on and have bare feet (and hard floors)!

I was utterly miserable during the heatwaves over the summer though - I suspect this thread is the equivalent of the moaning threads about that - some people will think you're crazy and 20 is too hot, others will think 20 is freezing.

I'm sat here at 20/21 thinking that's quite cool tbh!

20 degrees is not warm for me unless I'm up and about doing something like housework. I'm sitting in 20.5 degrees now (working on laptop) and my hands are cold and I'm going to get myself a hot water bottle. I like the temperature to be around 22 degrees when I'm sitting down. I might learn to live with 20 though depending on how much the heating costs this winter.

I’m in pyjamas. Long sleeved top and trousers, fluffy socks with the trousers tucked in and a jumper over the top. I was under a thin Ikea blanket but he’s brought me a fluffy blanket in (and not gonna lie it’s a bit too warm with that round me…).

I'm still of the opinion that an extra layer is always the first recourse (and lol that it's a bit too warm - but if you're recovering that may not be a bad thing)

I think you both need to renegotiate your house heating policy to something you can both agree on. Hope you feel better soon

It will always be cold in the morning though? The room I work in was 16 degrees this morning, but is now up to 21 with no heating, just because it's now warmer outside (and because I'm in here generating heat I guess).

We never have our heating as high as 20. I hate being hot but I suppose it depends on your house and how draughty, how well insulated, how old it is etc.

Why aren't you in bed under the duvet? That's where I'd be if I felt ill and cold.

My husband works upstairs with a heavy blanket over his lap.

I'm downstairs with our child, I have two jumpers on, they have one.

But that's because we are going to limit our energy usage, mainly for financial reasons (we can afford the heat but it will eat into our spending money) and also just because it seems wasteful to use it if we don't need it.

It sounds like your partner is trying to keep the heat off until Nov. I do find, once we crack it on, we have it on all the time. Maybe he's worried it'll be the same.

Either way, get back into bed under lots of covers and have a nap.

Yanbu and I'm usually the one who complains about the heating on too much in our house! 20 is nothing, Jesus!

Nobody forced you to read it 🙄

You are recovering from the flu, of course you should be allowed some heat! I like to have my heating around 20-21

20 is a perfectly normal temperature. The two of you need to work out how to live in the same house though.

I'm comfortable at 17, DH is comfortable at 21. We've lived together for 40yrs and not reached a compromise yet 😂