To think 20 degrees is not ‘like an oven’?

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It was c16 degrees in the front room this morning so I ‘boosted’ the heating for 15 mins to 20 degrees. The front room keeps it’s heat in very well with the doors shut so it only needed a boost.

DH has walked in the room and declared it is like an oven, he’s too hot, I’m wasting good money, it’s still only September and ‘we’ decided not to put the heating on until November at least (‘we’ decided no such thing).

AIBU to think that 20 degrees is a perfectly normal ambient temperature to be comfortable in my own front room? I’m recovering from flu and resting on doctors orders so I’m not moving around much, I have a jumper, fluffy socks and a blanket and I’m quite cosy thank you very much.

I won’t mention the fact that he walked out leaving the door open. I might boost the heating again just to spite him.

20 is very reasonable especially if you have been ill and can't move around much 16 is much too cold. I start coughing if I am I am sitting in temperatures that low. Respiratory illnesses are more common in colder temperatures

YANBU and you still wouldn't be unreasonable even if you weren't ill. I had my heating on at 20 yesterday.

AHH poor you being poorly. Boost it again. If he complains tell you wouldn't have bloody had to if he'd shut the door.

I find 16 degrees too cold if I am sitting still. I WFH and I find much below 18 is too chilly for me to sit at a desk all day. If I am doing stuff it would be fine.
We’ve had the heating on once or twice to boost the temperature.

😂

God this again.
You find it ambient.
Your husband finds it too hot.
Everyone one different. It isn’t a fucking AIBU or even a question that needs to be repeatedly asked on MN.

Everyone is different. It’s ‘bonkers’ that you don’t realise or accept that.

The lowest temp our oven can be set to is 50 so definitely not like an oven!

Oh shush you. I’m ill and bored and posting to pass the time.

Ooh good point. I’m going to say this next time he pops his head in with a snarky comment.

Jesus you all have the type of houses I'd be keeping my coat on in when visiting! We have the thermostat set to 22 but radiators off in certain rooms to stop small fingers getting burnt. The baby monitor reads it as 21 in the house and I'm sat with a big fleece hoodie on! 16 is freezing!

If you put the heating on for the whole house just to warm up one room, YABU. You need a portable oil-filled heater.

I'd be too hot tbh. 17 is my good spot.

it is horrible being too warm. 20° for me is t-shirt shorts in the house, and I'm still a hot sweaty mess most of the time (yes, menopause, but I've always been like that)

What were you wearing?

Not the whole house; just downstairs. There are separate controls.

He’s working upstairs so it doesn’t affect the room he’s in, or only marginally as the heat rises.

Remind him he agreed to express no opinion about heating for a whole season if he left the door open to heat the entire world. Apparently if someone imagines their DP said something then they really said it.

20 is far too warm for me, for other family members it’s not warm enough. They have the thermostat set at 22 and I just wear a T-shirt. Very easy and I believe it costs less to keep the heating at an even temperature rather than letting it get cold and having to keep boosting it up to a comfortable level.

I’m in pyjamas. Long sleeved top and trousers, fluffy socks with the trousers tucked in and a jumper over the top. I was under a thin Ikea blanket but he’s brought me a fluffy blanket in (and not gonna lie it’s a bit too warm with that round me…).

I usually put my oven on at something between 170C and 220C so he's wrong.

At this time of year I get to tick off one of the positives of not being with my ex.
I can now be comfortable in my own home.

In line with the oven observation, 16 degrees is closer to the fridge temperature of 4 degrees than the lowest setting of an oven so it is officially refridgerator temperature if he is choosing an appliance analogy.

20 is a perfectly normal temperature. The two of you need to work out how to live in the same house though.

We currently have covid and Alexa tells me the temperature inside is 14.6 degrees. We can't afford the heating on so we're piled high with blankets. God knows how we'll manage when it gets really cold and it does get absolutely freezing here (we're about as far north as you can be in the UK). I'm disabled and the cold really affects me too but there's not much to be done for it apart from adding another blanket to the pile!

My moaning aside, if you can afford it then whack that heating on as high as you need it, OP. Particularly as you're ill. Hope you feel better (and warmer!) soon!

I would be fine and expect others to be fine at the lower temp apart form the fact you have been unwell, get well soon.

20C is absolutely not "too hot". Especially if you are recovering flu.
Interesting article www.bbc.com/worklife/article/20160617-the-never-ending-battle-over-the-best-office-temperature

I would make sure I had sufficient layers on first but then I'd definitely turn the heating on if chilly.

He's exaggerating, but I do think "cost of living blah blah". I'm not putting the heating on yet as I don't want to acclimatise. Wouldn't put it on at 16 degrees normally