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To expect to be picked up from the station?

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drunkinthebackofthecar · 27/09/2022 19:26

I’m visiting my Mum for a few days whilst my Dad is away, getting a train late this evening and getting in around 9.30pm. They live 15mins outside of a medium-sized town where there are taxis and Ubers but recently they have been unreliable. This morning I told my Mum what train I was getting and asked if she could make sure she didn’t have a drink this evening so she could pick me up if I couldn’t get a taxi, otherwise I’ll be completely stuck.

I just phoned her to say I was on the train and she said her neighbour had popped round. I reminded to only have one drink so she could pick me up, and she said she wouldn’t do that and getting a taxi will be fine. I’m furious. Half of a mind to turn around and go back to my house and my husband - I’m mostly doing her a favour so she isn’t on her own this week!

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YumYummy · 27/09/2022 19:28

Turn back and go home if it bothers you enough,

EmmaH2022 · 27/09/2022 19:29

Oh dear, is it that thing where she doesn't want to be on her own in the house?

as you're doing her a favour, she should pick you up.

Glitteratitar · 27/09/2022 19:29

You’re a grown up. Get a taxi FGS and stop being so childish.

FoxyLoxSox · 27/09/2022 19:29

Would have been nice, but book a taxi now instead of waiting till you get there. I’d be mildly put out but I’m a grown woman so it’s not massive.

ChampagneCamping · 27/09/2022 19:30

I would carry on as planned but chat to her about how you feel

AtrociousCircumstance · 27/09/2022 19:30

How likely is it that you won’t be able to get a taxi?

If it’s a possibility then I would go home.

Darbs76 · 27/09/2022 19:31

Have you ever had a taxi issue before?

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drunkinthebackofthecar · 27/09/2022 19:32

It’s just the principle - last time I was there we were both stuck in the town waiting for a taxi for ages because Uber has been so unreliable recently. I’ve worked a long day, I now have a 3 hour train journey… and then she just sort of trills to me she’s going to have some wine with her friend instead of making sure I can literally even get to her.

I’m so irritated. I won’t turn around and go home but I won’t make the effort to do this again.

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AlternativelyWired · 27/09/2022 19:32

I'd be concerned she can't resist a drink in order to pick you up. Does she have a problem with alcohol?

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drunkinthebackofthecar · 27/09/2022 19:32

ChampagneCamping · 27/09/2022 19:30

I would carry on as planned but chat to her about how you feel

I will do, I think that’s the best option.

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drunkinthebackofthecar · 27/09/2022 19:33

(Also I realise my user name is ironic in this situation! 😂)

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FourTeaFallOut · 27/09/2022 19:33

Can't you just book a taxi to collect you at the time the train is due in rather than crossing your fingers that there will a taxi in the rank?

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drunkinthebackofthecar · 27/09/2022 19:34

AlternativelyWired · 27/09/2022 19:32

I'd be concerned she can't resist a drink in order to pick you up. Does she have a problem with alcohol?

No, not a problem, but she does like a drink with friends and her and my Dad usually have a glass of wine with dinner most evenings. She’s clearly just got the wine out now because she has a visitor.

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EmmaH2022 · 27/09/2022 19:35

A 3 hour train journey? Both my parents would be insistent on picking me up.

agree with pre booking a cab.

WearyLady · 27/09/2022 19:35

I don't think it's unreasonable to expect to be picked up if you're doing her a favour and taxis/Uber have proved unreliable. If you're mum wants to have a drink she can wait til you get there and have one with you.

mamabear715 · 27/09/2022 19:36

@drunkinthebackofthecar Tbh I'd be bloody furious. It's ONE EVENING, surely she could have waited? I feel very sorry for you. :-(
(I'm a non driver so I know what it's like trying to get taxis.)

CurlyhairedAssassin · 27/09/2022 19:36

I don’t think my mum would do that if it were me in that situation.

are you taking annual leave to go and stay with her? Did she specifically ask you to visit?

is she confident about driving?

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drunkinthebackofthecar · 27/09/2022 19:38

Ha! She’s just texted me saying that her neighbour recommends so-and-so taxi company in case I struggle getting an Uber, with lots of kisses. That definitely means she’s feeling guilty, I can tell.

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wherearebeefandonioncrisps · 27/09/2022 19:38

I usually pick my adult children up but I don't do late evenings. They know that.

Why can't you pre book a taxi?

Do you want to see your mum or do you want to punish her?

Stath · 27/09/2022 19:40

At least you now know where you stand in the pecking order of her life @drunkinthebackofthecar

Somewhere far down the list after Châteauneuf-du-Pape and Jean from number 22.

I wouldn’t put myself out for her again 💐

Shiningstarr · 27/09/2022 19:42

I think she's been totally selfish. My parents would insist on picking me up. And in return if my mum or anyone were visiting me, particularly after a long train journey, there is no way in earth I would then expect them to get a taxi or an Uber, especially if they are unreliable.

It sounds to me like she's one of those types that can't resist a drink... would it have killed her to have had a soft drink tonight?

I would be annoyed too.

J0y · 27/09/2022 19:43

She feels guilty. Visit. Be so super pleasant. Don't visit again until a lift is offered.

TabithaTittlemouse · 27/09/2022 19:45

Can you not prebook a taxi?

Nameless3 · 27/09/2022 19:45

I'd get a cab. I wouldn't expect to be picked up.

EmmaH2022 · 27/09/2022 19:45

wherearebeefandonioncrisps · 27/09/2022 19:38

I usually pick my adult children up but I don't do late evenings. They know that.

Why can't you pre book a taxi?

Do you want to see your mum or do you want to punish her?

Well, it sounds like OP is doing mum a favour by staying, presumably she's been asked to do the favour.