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To expect to be picked up from the station?

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drunkinthebackofthecar · 27/09/2022 19:26

I’m visiting my Mum for a few days whilst my Dad is away, getting a train late this evening and getting in around 9.30pm. They live 15mins outside of a medium-sized town where there are taxis and Ubers but recently they have been unreliable. This morning I told my Mum what train I was getting and asked if she could make sure she didn’t have a drink this evening so she could pick me up if I couldn’t get a taxi, otherwise I’ll be completely stuck.

I just phoned her to say I was on the train and she said her neighbour had popped round. I reminded to only have one drink so she could pick me up, and she said she wouldn’t do that and getting a taxi will be fine. I’m furious. Half of a mind to turn around and go back to my house and my husband - I’m mostly doing her a favour so she isn’t on her own this week!

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donttellmehesalive · 27/09/2022 19:46

I think it's really shit that she's chosen an alcoholic drink over picking you up from the station, especially as you're doing her a favour, and especially since you asked in advance. It's not even that late. Does she have a drinking problem?

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donttellmehesalive · 27/09/2022 19:47

I'd go home but I am petty.

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Wallywobbles · 27/09/2022 19:47

Is say as she can't be bothered to pick you up you can't be bothered to come.

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drunkinthebackofthecar · 27/09/2022 19:48

Stath · 27/09/2022 19:40

At least you now know where you stand in the pecking order of her life @drunkinthebackofthecar

Somewhere far down the list after Châteauneuf-du-Pape and Jean from number 22.

I wouldn’t put myself out for her again 💐

This is exactly it.

I won’t be putting myself out again, she’s just done herself a disservice really.

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VanillaSpiceCandle · 27/09/2022 19:48

Sounds like my parents. Drink before anything else. Though they don’t drive so I have to taxi them around everywhere.

She should feel guilty. Try to pre book a taxi and tell her to come to you next time. And don’t pick her up from the station.

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drunkinthebackofthecar · 27/09/2022 19:48

I’m so glad most people would feel like me. I feel much better sitting on the train, seething!

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EmmaH2022 · 27/09/2022 19:48

Also, cabs have really increased in price, so with that and train fare, you're really putting yourself out.

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Brefugee · 27/09/2022 19:49

Frankly?

I'd turn right round and go back home

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EmmaH2022 · 27/09/2022 19:49

Châteauneuf-du-Pape? No Blue Nun? 😂

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GreekGod · 27/09/2022 19:53

Glitteratitar · 27/09/2022 19:29

You’re a grown up. Get a taxi FGS and stop being so childish.

this

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LadyWithLapdog · 27/09/2022 19:56

Wow, that’s just selfish of her. I’d be seething as well.

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Allschoolsareartschools · 27/09/2022 19:58

I think I'd be tempted to go for a drink or 2 myself before getting a taxi & then tell her I had to wait ages for one...😉
Joking. Kind of.

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burnoutbabe · 27/09/2022 19:58

I don't ask my parents to pick me up from stations if it's dark as they are much less happy driving in the evenings than in the day. So I sort out a taxi. Could night time driving be an issue?

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drunkinthebackofthecar · 27/09/2022 20:02

Allschoolsareartschools · 27/09/2022 19:58

I think I'd be tempted to go for a drink or 2 myself before getting a taxi & then tell her I had to wait ages for one...😉
Joking. Kind of.

We’d definitely be friends!

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FoxyLoxSox · 27/09/2022 20:04

Brefugee · 27/09/2022 19:49

Frankly?

I'd turn right round and go back home

Would you though? Really? How are you going to turn the train round exactly? You’ll have to go all the way to your destination likely, then what, buy a new ticket, get a three hour train back, slope in after 1am, explain all this to your husband and kids… all for the sake of….

calling a taxi to take you 15 minutes down the road.

Unhinged.

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SpidersAreShitheads · 27/09/2022 20:05

Allschoolsareartschools · 27/09/2022 19:58

I think I'd be tempted to go for a drink or 2 myself before getting a taxi & then tell her I had to wait ages for one...😉
Joking. Kind of.

I was literally just thinking this too hahaha!

OP, YANBU. I'd be absolutely furious - you're doing her a favour and she can't even limit herself to a single glass of wine, just until 9.30pm! I would absolutely be telling her that you won't be putting yourself out again for her now that she's made it clear where you stand in her priorities. And I'd bloody mean it too!

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Shiningstarr · 27/09/2022 20:05

I would get the next train home and say you couldn't get a taxi.

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Nameless3 · 27/09/2022 20:06

Shiningstarr · 27/09/2022 20:05

I would get the next train home and say you couldn't get a taxi.

No you wouldn't. You would do what any grown up person would do and get a taxi.

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Aprilx · 27/09/2022 20:07

Taxis are not usually hard to find at train stations of medium sized towns. I wouldn’t dream of expecting parents to come and pick me up late at night.

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FoxyLoxSox · 27/09/2022 20:08

I also totally would go for a nice glass of wine before getting a taxi 🤣 and I’d expect my mum to have saved me some too.

But, some of us are just more relaxed with these things.

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LoveBluey · 27/09/2022 20:12

Aprilx · 27/09/2022 20:07

Taxis are not usually hard to find at train stations of medium sized towns. I wouldn’t dream of expecting parents to come and pick me up late at night.

Not necessarily. There's a real shortage of taxis here. After a mums night out in my medium size town recently we really struggled to get a taxi despite trying 3 firms and Ubers. Took 30 mins and we had to flag one down who was only supposed to take pre bookings but he took pity on us.
I also struggled at the train station a few weeks ago. Took 20 mins to get one to come out, and there were none in the taxi rank that whole time.
Think there's a shortage of drivers around here and also in the city that's just 10 minutes away.

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IWentAwayIStayedAway · 27/09/2022 20:13

she definitely has a drink problem btw

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Bluetrews25 · 27/09/2022 20:14

Why did you need to go up and keep her company? He's only away for the weekend! Is she not one of life's copers?
How would she be if your DDad weren't there any more? (drunk?)

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EllietheElephanti · 27/09/2022 20:16

Did she ask you to stay so she wouldn't be alone? I'm wondering whether she realises you are doing her a favour but also will she be doing other things for you like cooking for you etc while you're there?

it is a pain to go out at night to pick someone up and I think you probably can get a taxi.

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Wibbly1008 · 27/09/2022 20:18

Well I would be annoyed. You’ve not been sitting home alone waiting to get the invite to her house, you are coming down to help her out, I think the least she can do is give you a lift?! A long day at work, then 3 hour train journey….of course you want a lift rather than a long taxi wait, who wouldn’t ?!

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