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Understanding death

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Sparklybutold · 26/09/2022 20:21

Had a triggering conversation with a work colleague about death. She is a seventh day Adventist. She explained how her faith explains that people die because it's pre ordained owing to either punishment or because god decided it was better for them to ‘sleep’ because they couldn't handle something that they could have gone through later in life. This was her belief for why my mum had died at the age of 35 when I was 2.

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mowly77 · 28/09/2022 00:06

Sparklybutold · 27/09/2022 23:48

@Babdoc could you explain more about the genesis ‘bit’ and the different takes on it (and if you could explain it simply that would be great 😁 - my head gets a bit frazzled).

I find it hard that this actually happened - the visceral-ness of Adams rib being taken. I struggle with the fact that the bible was written centuries after the fact by men who heard God. The same situation now would have these same men sectioned? I believe moses wrote genesis? I also struggle with the massive under representation of women in the bible and how little there voices are actually represented - but Jesus was a feminist yada yada. I feel that the Bible is written by men for men to keep lower men and all women in line. I feel that instead the God/gods/whatever you want to call it is beyond anything we could comprehend.. But then I do wonder whether we really are just a mash up of chemicals and synapses with literally billions of connections...

You don’t need anyone to explain the bible further, I think you’ve got it , OP.

You handled that so well , I wouldn’t have.

My own mum died when I was 10. I’m so very sorry for your loss, and for everyone’s on the thread. It was shitty genes for my mum, and I’ve got them too, & history is repeating itself very sadly. My own child is just 4. There’s no rhyme or reason & life is utterly unfair sometimes.

mondaytosunday · 28/09/2022 00:22

People can believe whatever they want. Next time they bring up the bible or their beliefs, smile and say you don't think it's appropriate to discuss it in a work environment and change the subject/walk away/get busy.

girlfriend44 · 28/09/2022 00:26

There's no proof why are you taking what she says on board.

Just because someone says something dosent mean its right.

Harkonatit · 28/09/2022 00:36

How awful.
I'm worn out with god's disciples and god's believers

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Sparklybutold · 28/09/2022 12:31

@mowly77 💐

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Sparklybutold · 28/09/2022 12:33

@girlfriend44

To be clear I objectively think what she said is a load of shit, but subjectively it was like an emotional sucker punch.

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torquewench · 28/09/2022 12:35

Your colleague is an idiot. I work with someone v young who's been captured by a religious cult. It's astonishing in this day and age that people still fall for this sky pixie bullshit.

Hearthnhome · 28/09/2022 12:39

My friend died this week. 36, mother of 2 small children.

Things like what your colleague said make me quite angry. God took her away as punishment or because something was going to happen she couldn’t handle. I know my friend would have faced anything g head on rather than dying and leaving her 2 kids exposed to the Cunt of a dad they have.

Feels like your colleague is suggesting the kids deserve this? Or that it’s best for them? Absolute bollocks.

This is the 5th death of someone in close proximity to me that I have had to deal with in 10 months. The first being my own mum. Wish people would keep this shot to themselves

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