Dishes at the top of the stairs

[littlemouse15]

my partner kicked an empty glass down the stairs accidentally.
He wasn't happy about it(the glass being at the top of the stairs)
He asked for my help cleaning it.
I had just started organising my stuff for college in the morning,
he asked who put it there and i said my son. Then he said ' well it shouldnt be there, so can you help me clean it'
I said 'no I can't cause I'm doing my college stuff.'
He said 'well he can't help me cause he's six, so I'm not gonna do it on my own'
then I laughed and said 'he's got that from me, I always tell him to put them there and take them down when he's finished'

My son put the glass about twenty minutes before, as he had just cleaned his room and it was put it there so he could take it down when he finished (he's 6 so couldn't clean glass up),
I had been down to grab my laptop for college but didn't grab the glass on way down(didn't kick it down the stairs either)

Partner then said to me 'im not doing it without you, it won't be an inconvinence for you, so you won't think twice about doing it again' ,
(I took this as I'm going to teach you a lesson)
I said ' we've always done it so I'm not gonna tell him diffrent now'
Partner at this point just sat down refusing to clean it up without my help.
I said I would clean it on my own at my own convinence as it doesn't take both of us.

I finished my college stuff, went down n cleaned up downstairs including the glass.

As far as I'm concerned when cleaning stuff that belongs upstairs gets put at bottom of the stairs and stuff heading down goes at the top.

So the question is.

Am I being unreasonable to tell my child to leave the glass there In the first place.

If he hadn't said the whole thing about trying to inconvenience me so I would think twice next time, I don't think there would of been an issue.

That's a really stupid place to teach your child to leave a glass.

i think the answers are a conclusive ‘don’t leave stuff at the stairs’.

The partner’s attitude sounds like he says stuff to you about ‘don’t do this’ and ‘don’t do that’ and you don’t listen.
So he’s tried to prove to you why what he says is sensible. A bit childish tbh but perhaps he’s at the end of his tether?

So tour attitudes are the issue you need to address. Is he overbearing and controlling and needs dumped?

Or are you too used to doing weird shit and he is the voice of reason?

If so, he will eventually dump you as your ways are a bit dangerous and not well thought out (if the glass on/at the stairs issue is anything to go by)!

So what other things does he complain that you do and we can give you our opinions of whether he needs dumped or you need to change?

I wouldn't let a six year old have a glass in his room ( we keep plastic ones in the bathroom for if they're thirsty at night and they get knocked over often enough) or leave anything at the top of the stairs ( we do sometimes leave non breakable stuff if the top of the banister). In fact just this morning DD got told off for leaving a toy at the top of the stairs as I didn't see it coming down with the washing basket and nearly fell down the stairs.

Lots of mess can be left until later, broken glass can’t and should’ve sorted straight away or someone might hurt themselves.

yes you are unreasonable because it’s clearly a bad idea to leave glasses there. Now you have a broken glass why would you continue to think it’s a good idea to leave glasses there?