Kids parties and uninvited siblings....

[jellies]

Ok I'm cleansing my soul of something I know I need to let go of..
I'd managed to avoid children's birthday parties until my eldest started pre school by which time I'd had another 15 months later and was pregnant with no 3.. Hubby was working away and I had to bring DS 2 or not go (just party in village hall) so rang the host family.. got through to Dad, who said 'no don't worry the more the merrier'.. should have spoken to the Mum...
Got to the party the Mum obviously had no idea he was coming... Fast asleep and in the buggy, only 2 y. 'I'm sorry' I say 'I did explain this to your hubby'... they then proceed to have a little squabble in the kitchen about it!.. really want to leave but DS1 is having such a good time I know he'll make a scene.. DS2 wakes up just in time for the food where the couple argue as she clearly doesn't want DS2 to sit at the table.. so I carry him outside let DS1 eat, cry my heart out and come back in when the food bit is over.. She then gets really stroppy when her DH gives the little crasher a party bag when we leave.. I left both of them at the door... and have never taken either of them to a party since!!
My son is about to have his first ever party with friends (siblings welcome! ) and I need to let this go!!!! Its been 2 years fgs!

Poor you she sounds like a right bitch let it go now

what a cow. at least the hubby sounds a bit more understanding. i have yet to delveinto the realms of kiddy pasrties but i am sure they are all not like that!

she sounds AWFUL

poor YOU

!!!

What a bitch! I am guessing she has only 1 child?

Some was having a joint party and invited both my dd's last minute. It was in a soft play centre so both mine cost the hosts money. The couple who didn't invite my kids made me feel so akward for bring dd2 and kept making remarks about there not being enough table space due to uninvited children and looking at me when saying it. The mother who invited us kept telling them to leave it and not worry about it she would pay the extra etc. After the party I spoke to the mother who had invited my girls and told her how awful the other mother made me feel, she vowed never to have a joint party again and must have spoken to the other mother as she was really polite to me afterwards. The thing is the mother who hadn't invited my girls stayed at dd1's party with her son who wasn't invited but I didn't make a fuss!

This isn't normal behaviour- maybe you just got caught up in some power struggle issues within their marriage. It'll be fine, don't let it put you off.

That is terrible.I know how you feel I have 2 children close together and I always ask can I bring both and if I had a party I would always allow a sibling. That woman sounds dreadful, try and forget her you sound like a much better person than she is.

she is a complete bitch and totally nasty she should have never made you feel like that

take a deep breath and let it go

That woman is a extremely rude and unpleasant woman, what a horrible way to treat someone.

weeonion is right, that kind of behaviour can't be typical of chidren's parties. you meet horrible people with no manners in all sorts of places.

whoa, no wonder its taken you a while to venture back out into the turbulant world of toddler social whirling!

that woman sounds a total cow and you must cease to allow her under your skin this minute.

i have 3 v close in age too... tis tricky sometimes, but ive never had anything like that. cor blimey.

enjoy your party!

How unbelievably horrible

Your party will be great. I'm also of the opinion (when ds is a shade older) that anyone is welcome ... I will always do more food to accommodate, and I'd like to think that some poor, beleaguered parent is getting some respite!

Don't worry. That 2-year itch will be well and truly scratched when you wave goodbye to a lot of happy kids. Mission accomplished.

Oh! But don't invite the bitch.

We've been to lots and lots of childrens parties and we host 3 a year ourselves. Nobody bats an eyelid when a sibling crashes - sometimes it's necessary, everyone understands.

You were just unlucky. Let it go. Enjoy your sons birthday.

Aren't some people really bloody horrible??? You really must rise above this, she has the problem, not you, who rations food at kids parties anyway, fgs, especially when the "extra" is a 2yr old??? Poor husband, being married to a bitch like that.

Awhhhh! Thank you all so much! I am letting it go now.. just putting it out there made me feel better, I've just gone back on line to tesco and stuck on some extras for siblings!!! LOL and I've 8 spare party bags!

What a horrid woamn, even if she was pissed of with her dh that wasn't your fault you called and checked first he said ok between them. She was a total cowbag to you

When I have had a party I always extend the invitation to siblings especially close in age. I had a tea party (just a small thing) for dd's last birthday and she wanted invite a friend in her nursery class who has 2 older sisters so I invited them all, in fact the 8 year old was a fantastic help wnated to be fetching and carrying for me (slave labour)

That sounds completely unreasonable of the mum.
However, I was driven mad at DD's last party, where it was £10 a head. Soooo many uninvited siblings turned up it cost me a fortune. I was really, really furious to be put in that situation. I honestly don't think people realised - but it was at a playbarn and so they should have realised that I would be charged per head! At least if I'd have foresight of all the extra numbers, I could have got ahead of myself a bit, but people just turned up on the door with no notice!

NEVER AGAIN!

Agree that the womans behaviour was horrid, tbh I'd be finding it hard to let go off!

But is it standard practice to stay at the party now? When I was little mums just dropped you and came back for you later. I'd welcome the break in a few years time

I do think thats different If I had to bring him along to a party like that I WOULD have paid for him at the door and bought him lunch.

You didn't just dump your kids & leave you stayed to supervise your little one. You were an extra pair of hands to help. What a horrid experience - bet your sons party is really super.

Do parents expect to be fed.. it is over lunch time??? So much to learn! LOL

The woman needs a sound beating with acid spike metal prongs - ill mannered, uptight cow

I'm so excited for DS he is over the moon at having his party.. He's 5 in the shop when I bought the party bag stuff he said it was his best day ever!! and thats just buying the bags! LOL

I had this happen to me....the host(mum) said why dont you bring DS (5) along as Ds's (3) best friend is cousin of the DD whose party it was....I remember saying to her great cos I was going to take DS anwyay (single parent) and pay for him to eat.

on the day of the party, I sat both DCS down to eat & then was told that there was no food "booked" for DS - it was so embarrassing and I wanted to cry & leave. They found him some food & a plate but I was left feeling like a scrounger

I know I wouldnt have assumed without her inviting & think she forgot but it was just so embarrassing for me

I would never expect people to leave sibblings at home.

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