Mother of the bride outfit

[londongirl12]

Long story short, I married my childhood sweetheart when I was 22 (16 years ago). We've been divorced for 10 years, and I'm getting married again. My mum has decided she's going to wear the same outfit to my second wedding that she wore to my first. AIBU or is this weird???

Definitely weird

That's what I think. The only people that would have seen the outfit is my dad (divorced) and brother, but they wouldn't remember. But I still find it strange. And a bit lazy that she hasn't got something new. We haven't got the best relationship anyway, so maybe she's just saving money!

Yes weird. Can she still fit into it?

More than weird.

Maybe she doesn't have the money for a new outfit?

Hmm. Different groom?

If you aren't close, I'd see it as a lack of investment in the special occasion, a kind of downplaying of the importance of the event.

Unless she never buys new clothes/occasion wear?

Is she Princess Anne?
Seriously if it fits her & she feels good in it why not?

Why don't you trat her to a new one and take her out to choose one?

Maybe she loved it so much she just wants another opportunity to wear it..

Playing devil's advocate here. Maybe she is not that much into clothes/her appearance? Would you have noticed it was the same outfit if she not made a point of telling you? I can understand that it may be hurtful for you if you equate her decision to a lack of effort on her part and/or if you feel this is somehow a bad omen for your second marriage. Have you asked her why she is planning to wear the same outfit?

I don’t see there’s much wrong with it - if it still fits and she likes it.

Is it an outfit that she really likes and hadn't had an opportunity to rewear?

Only asking as I am considering hiring a mother of groom outfit to save never wear again regret.

I don’t see the problem really. Is it the photos you’re worried about? Surely you don’t have your old wedding pics on display

Offer to buy her a new outfit if it upsets you. I guess she just thinks it hasn’t had much wear. I wouldn’t get too upset over this

Weird but I really respect her for it!

Weird but I’m impressed it still fits. I wish my clothes from 16 years ago still fitted me.

I think it's quite frugal. It's bad for the environment to buy clothes as well.

My DM bought a lovely outfit for my wedding over 30 years ago and wears it for all of the most formal family occasions. I don't think it's odd not to buy something new .Men wear the same suit or morning coat to weddings for donkeys years and it is seen as quite normal.

Is she generally uninterested in clothes/her appearance OP?

It sounds like something my mother would do. But not because she's disinterested in clothes or trying to save the planet. She'd do it as a two fingers up to me and my second wedding.

(there's a lot of history)

Very weird.

Kudos though to her for still being able to fit in to it.

She must have another dress, surely, even if she doesn't want to buy a new one?

Men will wear the same suit, why shouldnt a woman wear the same outfit?

Different shoes & bag probably - let it go, does it matter?

I think it seems really weird but there are only two possibilities - she is not trying to make a point, in which case it doesn't matter, or she is trying to make a point, in which case you win by not rising to it.

Congratulations on your wedding

Would you find it odd that a man was wearing the same suit?

if it still fits and is in good condition, she may feel great in the outfit.

I think I just find it weird because it was my first wedding (different groom). I've no issue with people re-using clothes, my bridesmaid is wearing her dress the week after the wedding to a ball, no issue with that. She's shown no interest in the wedding anyway, so suppose she doesn't really care what she wears. I don't have any of the old pics, but as soon as she sent me a pic saying how about I wear this, I instantly knew where it was from. Dunno, just find it odd

Meh, I know a bride who wore the same dress twice, now that was weird.