COVID - What would you do?

[Allelbowsandtoes]

Hi, sorry not quite an AIBU but wasn't really sure where this fit.
DP and I were due to go to Cornwall with a big group of his friends for a long weekend, this weekend. Had paid £250 between us towards massive house we were all renting in a lovely location, were both super excited.
DP started feeling a bit rough on Wednesday but assumed he was just run down as we've both been very busy. Thursday his lungs felt a bit heavy so he did a COVID test on the off chance, which was positive.
Obviously we had to tell his mates and the majority weren't happy for us to come which is understandable as they mostly have young kids and a couple had been quite ill with it before.
I know we did the right thing but we're both gutted to miss out.
I guess my question is what would you do - are people even covid testing anymore? Is this just going to carry on forever? Without restrictions people will be catching COVID so frequently, will we always have to put our lives on hold while we have it?
Fwiw DP is a lot less ill than last time we had it and I'm still testing negative and feel fine.

We have more disposable income so have a large undercover heated seating area outside now.

The vax program doesn’t extend to all ages, unlike say in the US. Boosters are not freely available for all ages unlike the flu jab which I can buy for £10 on the high street.

We frequently talk about where we are and are quite good at communicating with each other.

We’re hoping there will be more omnivalent vaccines including a nasal one which will prevent transmission as well due to how the virus replicates (several are in development),
more availability and more treatments,
and more available for children who get sick (often not allowed adult drugs),
and a better understanding of the mechanisms of disease replication and of the mechanism of long covid.

My kids are too small really to feel like they’ve missed out on much and we’re only really missing grown up nights out but honestly we don’t really drink anymore so it’s nice just to do a soirée (where we put the kids in the car, drive until they fall asleep, then have a picnic and chat without them butting in 🤣). It’s the little things.

Millions have died from covid and you're upset over a missed holiday? Want to spread it to your friends' elderly relatives and young children? Selfish as.

So no-one is ever allowed to be upset about something because people have died?

Fair dos. 😅 mine are teenagers so not quite as easy for us parents to entertain! On the plus side they’ve both been vaccinated and the eldest has had a booster as well.

Sorry @Allelbowsandtoes , they 'stay the fuck at home' was directed at everyone who might be tempted to carry on as normal, I know you DID stay home!

Ah, man! So sorry about your lovely sounding trip. I was envious reading about it.

I only do a test on the day I give blood. That won't be until December now.

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And that would never be abused at all!

Read the post..... they didn't go!

You feel ill you stay home , you feel better you go out . I don’t feel the need to test anymore imo and I would always test if felt unwell but I just live by the rule I did previously. I’ve missed too much isolating so I’m not tasting again . I wouldn’t go anywhere if felt unwell because a) to not pass on b) I wouldn’t be up to going anywhere . When I feel better I go out .

Well if you get influenza, the temperature, headache aches & pains are horrific. You wouldn’t want to go anywhere. The same with a bad dose of Covid.
My friend is auto immune suppressed & I would feel awful if I passed Covid to her. That is why we still test ourselves.

No, you can have flu and have mild symptoms or even none at all.

On the point in the OP, like a great many people we aren't testing. So we wouldn't have been in this position in the first place, but wouldn't go on holiday if someone in the family was unwell.

Covid is a money making farce?

what kind of idiot are you?

@Allelbowsandtoes I'd have tested, because I need early medication if I get covid, but tested or not, covid or not, I wouldn't have gone because I wouldn't have wanted to give it to my friends.

I wouldn't have gone if one of us had covid.
Or flu.
Or chicken pox
Or a stomach bug.

I like my friends, I don't want them to get ill.

Covid itself may be mild for most, but in the same way that Epstein Barr virus is being linked to Multiple Scleroisis and HPV virus is linked to Cervical cancer - there may be serious, long term consequences we don't know about yet.

So yes, if I feel like I could have covid I test and I would still isolate.

I think we are still in a place where we should be testing before mixing with big groups like your planned weekend. So yes I would have tested and let everyone decide if they wanted me not to come, and I’d completely expect them to say don’t come. To be honest if he showed up with a cold and symptoms of covid and hadn’t tested, then spread it and made friends unwell / forced them to miss work etc he wouldn’t be popular.

Then wear a mask if you have some minor symptoms and need to be out and about?