to find it slightly amusing when the comments don't go how the poster expected them too

[lailamaria]

I know it's wrong but you know when somebody comes on here already deciding they aren't unreasonable and then everyone tells them they are being massively unreasonable and then they get all defensive, i don't want to be mean but it is quite funny when they try to justify themselves but just end up digging themselves into a deeper hole and then the old 'i didn't think everyone would be so mean' which is really code for 'why isn't anyone agreeing with me'

I agree but my childish instincts were to vote YABU just to disagree

Me too😁

To

And me 😂

I love it when a poster manages to find the 1% of posts that agree with them, and quote them saying ' Oh thank God, I just thought it was me!'

Or proclaims how horrible everyone else is being on purpose because they couldn't possibly be wrong

It is funny but I also know how it feels to be attacked for no reason when you are new and innocent. I was abused so much when I was new for living in the country I did . One man threatened me to the point he tracked down my social media and literally threatened to kill me because he was so angry, having been fired from his job in the 80s. Of course all deleted and covered up but it happened. The people who post ridiculous stuff and then fake eyed shocked explain about people wearing clothes in the house, not getting naked and having a neat bleach dip before donning a paper forensic suit before walking in the house...yes they totally deserve the ribbing 😀 and the soncalled regulars (get a lifers) who jump forst on every post are just dullards

I do think it's funny about somethings. There was one time someone asked for quick lunch ideas. Then got uppity and complained when everyone suggested sandwiches, tinned food or stuff you would microwave.

But then there are other times when someone is clearly struggling in a situation and people pile on. Without giving people constructive ideas on how to improve a situation.

Yes sometimes poster is so sure they are right and just looking for validation that never comes!
Sometimes though I agree with the poster but I'm just a lone voice.
The funniest ones are where Mumsnet are divided and go off on a tangent amongst themselves.

The most ridiculous threads to me are where the first poster has a wilful dig just to be spiteful, and then everyone else mindlessly piles in…

…. then you get someone who comes on and rightfully says “this is absurd, because the poster actually needs X to help them succeed”

Suddenly the shoals of MN’etters all turn in mass and start saying “Shame on the PPs who didn’t get the OP is suffering”…

id say 50% of people on here actually have independent thought , and that’s being generous

I agree

I do have a chuckle when someone is clearly unreasonable and behaves like a knob about it.

However, there are posts where someone is struggling, or a poster misreads the OP, posters clearly haven’t read updates from the OP and just pile on.

I also have a habit where, if some big pile of shit is kicking off in my life, it’s the little stuff that really gets to me and I’ll focus on and I am unreasonable so I wonder how many posts where the OP is clearly unreasonable has just reached the end of their tether over something silly

It’s when they drip feed to desperately try and make people side with them 🙄

I agree with you and chuckle about some posts but sometimes I think the OP has just written the opening post in a way that gets people's backs up, but they possibly have a fair point underneath. They will say something like 'AIBU to expect to talk to my child's teacher whenever I like' and posters will respond saying 'of course not, how entitled' etc but reading between the lines there is a serious issue the school are refusing to discuss. These ones worry me as the poster is not expressing themselves well and getting told they are an idiot basically.

One of my first threads on MN I wanted to know if IWBU. After a page of comments I realised I hadn't explained myself very well, so tried to correct myself. Cue a barrage of posts accusing me of changing the narrative.

I innocently didn't realise people wouldn't accept that you'd just written something that was unclear - they automatically assume you're upset that people aren't agreeing with you and you're trying to add our change things to garner some sympathy. My AIBU was something that had happened that had really upset me and I couldn't cope with all the cries of "you're just upset that no-one agrees", so I just hid the thread and never went back.

It was certainly an eye-opener and I don't think I've started a thread in AIBU since.

So, perhaps some of the times an OP tries to change it just means they haven't explained very well.

'this isn't really going how you wanted it to, is it OP? 😉

I find that SO annoying.

IWantChocolates has demonstrated the real life side to what I was trying to say. People talk about drip feeding but also scoff at long OPs. Often the situation is quite nuanced but it is hard for the OP to explain that. If your MIL has been undermining you for years, then maybe this example at face value is not a big deal but in real life we bring the 'baggage' along.

When the OP is clearly unreasonable and won't see it I do roll my eyes! Although I question how often these are actually trolls.

The problem on here is that no matter what, there are a hardcore bunch of posters who will always say you are being unreasonable, which is why we sometimes end up with reverse threads.

There is something about this thread that reminds me of school bullies. The glee at watching pile ons maybe.

It is, @BeardyButton . Really unpleasant to watch.

The other thing is that when people respond scathingly to an OP and she responds in kind - oh boy, they don’t like that.

Yes!!

The troll hunting is getting annoying. Anyone posting about a live, ongoing situation had better be prepared to post photographic evidence of said situation, have a airtight story with no holes in it, a regular posting history with consistent details (don't you dare change the ages of your kids), and also be able to stand up to vigorous cross examination from multiple posters.

Exactly. The other side of the coin is the situation where everyone piles on and becomes ever more savage, and can't wait for the OP to post something new so they can tear that apart as well, but when you analyse it there is no real logic in their stance or it's based on a lot of misreading and made-up facts. It seems to happen a lot at night, but not exclusively.

Or who says

thank god…the voice of reason at last

What is more fun is the type of thread where someone starts the pile-on and several sheep follow them. Then some brave/realistic soul ventures in, agrees with OP, and presents the other side of the coin. The pile-on continues, but a few more people are encouraged by the first dissenter and start getting involved, then gradually more and more come in and start pointing out all the fictions/exaggerations/logic fails of the people who piled on. And the whole thread does a massive U-turn with the bullies going all sulky because their game isn't working.