To expect shoes to be taken off in the house?

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Is it just me who gets wound up about this, or does anyone else think that shoes should be taken off at the door? I get fed up of it. Not talking about visitors particularly, more the kids. Come straight in from school and either go straight up to their rooms and reappear 3 hours later with them still on, or slob in the living room with them still on! Drives me bloody mad

Shoes off here, regardless of who they are.

No shoes inside here either, it's the rule - do they not take them off when you ask?

I don't know how you got to that point. I Was cminding when ds was little so shoes off house. Why he walks past the coat hook to dump coat on the floor though 🤔

YANBU
Its always been the rule in this house.
It’s DH and his family that often “forget”. As a result I’ve had engine oil and dog poo walked through the house before now. 🤮

Most of the time we take our shoes off when we come in for comfort. I'm fine with shoes downstairs though (so long as they aren't stiletto)

Nobody wears shoes upstairs where there is carpet though.

Yes, but more often than not I get home from work well after they get home from school so they 'forget' to do it🙄

Agree. It's disgusting. However, it's rude to ask visitors to remove shoes. In someone else's house I'd remove them if the had a carpet.

In laws did it for a couple of years, tried hinting etc and eventually one day when they showed up I said can you take your shoes off please. Such bad manners not removing shoes or least asking homeowners if they'd prefer you to.

Absolutely don’t expect others to remove shoes. I like slippers so put them on straight away and children remove shoes as it’s more comfortable I guess but I certainly wouldn’t demand it ( unless covered in mud or something).

I take the lead of the house I’m in but I’d prefer not to remove my shoes.

I don't care if its rude. Everyone is told at the door shoes off.....I'm not prepared to have dirt off the street trailed through my house. Pavements are disgusting, spit, pish, shite etc.

Same here.

Shoes off. Always. Visitors and contractors included. And they don’t seem to have a problem. If your floors are clean and the house is clean, people will not mind.

Yanbu

I grew up in a shoes on house (big, old house where my parents hosted a lot of visitors parties where it would have been really weird to get people to remove shoes).

But I now much prefer my dcs to take off their shoes when they get home. I especially hate it if they wear them upstairs. We have hard floors downstairs and carpet upstairs, so it seems worse upstairs.

That said, I don't especially care about visitors wearing shoes in the downstairs of my house. I would never insist they take them off or anything. Seems odd to me, probably due to my upbringing.

All my good friends are the same. I've never had one of them ask me to remove shoes and they usually say not to worry when I immediately go to remove them when I get to their houses. But I still take them off anyway, so I feel as if the old rules and new rules are both being considered; they're insisting it's fine to keep them on and I'm insisting on taking them off 🤣

Everyone has to take their shoes off in my house. Even my 3 year old DS knows to take his shoes straight off.

There's so much dog poo around these days, it can't be clean to walk on the pavements and then inside the home.

Ugh. No shoes off here. But I always wear slippers in the house. I would never expect my guests or visitors to take their shoes off

They grumble that they're cold in just tights. I've suggested slippers but there's no way they'd wear them!

I prefer shoes on (when it's visitors. Off for family) but I grew up in a weird family where many awkward situations were created if someone took their shoes off and the smell was less than... floral... I'd love my carpets to stay nice and clean but I have this mental block of "what if someone's feet smell". Drives DP daft as he's a very shoes off person.

I prefer them off but I don’t get wound up if they’re left on, but mine rarely leave them on.

This seems a particularly English thing, I certainly didn't do it growing up in the US. But have to say about 95% of kids that came over took their shoes off automatically, snd my kids tended to do it too, even though I never asked them to.

Exactly

How do you get around the "my feet are cold in just tights" if they won't wear slippers though?

Shoes are prisons for the feet! Plus illfitting/narrow toe boxes shod your feet!! My household are anti shoe. They're just not comfy! Plus I'm S Asian, grew up mostly shoeless with house shoes that never go outside.

However, they are part of an outfit. I'd never ask guests, someone popping in or occasional vistors to take their shoes off. I just.. clean the floor.

I also hate to sound weird but I regularly pick things up off the floor or kick stuff up to catch using my feet and I couldn't do this shoe-d.

Slipper socks?

Do you have carpet upstairs? I would ban shoes upstairs. Maybe have some strategically placed storage baskets they can kick them off onto on the downstairs and upstairs landings