new driver snub

[wheresmymillionaire]

My DD has just passed her driving test (yesterday) with only 3 minors. She has been learning and practising and did her test in her own car, so knows the car well.
On Saturdays she volunteers in the morning, then gets the bus to a drama group in the afternoons.

Now of course, she can drive herself there! She had planned to go to a friends house (2 miles away from the drama group) after volunteering, then give a lift to her friend to drama. But friends mum has said friend can't go in the car with DD as she is a new driver.

DD is a very sensible girl, and the girls have been friends for about 11 years, so the parents know my dd well.
I have realised they are protective over their DD in the past, but this has upset my DD as she thinks they don't trust her.

AIBU to think this is a bit too protective?

Nothing to do with being laid-back or infantilising.

I passed in my 30s and remember the need to concentrate when first passed. I had two children I needed to transport but they knew to stay quiet, I knew not to have the radio on, I knew I needed extra time and patience to truly master the road. All new drivers will have slower reaction times and less experience meaning they are all subject to extra risk. I couldn't have chatted and driven. I had the maturity to be clear about my limitations.

But we are also talking about the adolescent brain. A brain which has more in common with a toddler's than an adult's. A brain that craves pleasure and thrills. A decreased ability to reason and anticipate and a severely compromised ability to risk assess. This is simply fact. A brand new skill with built in risk, the highest stakes and a lot of pressure? It is not worth it

I've been to three funerals of sensible, capable young drivers.

I think it's less an opinion, attitude or being laid-back, I think there's a right and wrong answer. New drivers shouldn't carry passengers when there is a choice.

@wheresmymillionaire & @scrufffy
You're not supposed to drive one the day you pass. I believe insurance won’t allow it due to statistics of the excitement & adrenaline of passing being proven to affect your ability to drive safely

@ChelseaRobertsofMalibu

You're not supposed to drive one the day you pass.

Source?

My driving instructors back went on the day of my test so I had to drive home after I passed. You're definitely not supposed to drive home after your test because of adrenaline but I think their standard insurance also only covers learners.

I've never heard of not being allowed to drive on your own insurance when you pass though.

www.thinkinsurance.co.uk/personal/what-do-i-do-now-i-have-passed-my-driving-test This example cites the fact that your LEARNER insurance expires the moment you pass your test, but ultimately is the same thing. You can make arrangements to get round this but any decent instructor won’t allow you to drive their learner vehicle home due to adrenaline

@ChelseaRobertsofMalibu

That's not the same as not being allowed to drive the day you pass your test. That's about no longer being insured as a learner.

It is commonplace for people who pass their test to be added to an insurance policy as a full licence holder the same day. Thousands of parents and partners do it.

I must admit, I never even thought of this when DS passed. He’s now been driving over a year so it’s a bit of a moot point really but I think I’d have changed my POV had I seen this thread. I think it’s probably best if your DD gets some experience of driving without any distractions @wheresmymillionaire Has she considered the Pass Plus course?

Turning this on its head, I wasn't happy for my DC to give their friends lifts until they'd been driving for a good few weeks. 17 year old friends are excitable and distracting. Combine that with the slower reaction times of an inexperienced driver and you potentially have a recipe for disaster.

I let my ds have passengers and drive his sis about from day 1. Had a black box so I could monitor a bit. Yes I was worried at times and there is a risk but he could of been killed walking across a road. I think sometimes we are very risk adverse now but bad things do happen we have to accept that