Hello, first time posting here just looking for a bit of advice.
my little boy is 4 years 3 months and started reception last Monday. As far as I’m aware he’s been getting on okay but is having some trouble listening, I am aware of this as he struggles some time at home too.
for a bit of back story, his older brother (not mine biologically) has been diagnosed with autism. I’m aware that auditory processing is part of autism and I’m keeping an eye on my LO to see if he has any other symptoms as he starts to socialise more and be in a more ‘formal’ learning environment.
today at pick up my LO ran back into the classroom as he thought he’d forgotten his drawings although they were in his bag. His teacher in a pretty aggressive way said ‘when was the last time he had a hearing test?’ I replied that it was when he was born and my partner replied that he thinks his hearing is selective. His teacher then said that he hasn’t been listening to ‘us’ and that he’s had to be told 3 times that his drawings were in his bag and that yes she thought his hearing was selective too. It’s not what she said so much as the way she spoke to us, it honestly made me quite upset as I want my son to have a positive experience and not to have his teacher impatient with him already.
I appreciate that it is frustrating when a child isn’t listening however he only started a couple of weeks ago and I think he’s finding everything a bit confusing as it’s a new environment and a lot of new people. If he is having trouble with listening and following instruction then obviously I would want to work with the teachers to help them and my LO, not be shamed in front of other parents as he isn’t doing it intentionally to annoy her. I don’t know what to do now as I was thought if there was any problems he was having we could discuss it and figure out a way to help together.
I understand that teachers are under stress and pressure at the moment and don’t want to cause any upset. AIBU to feel upset about this and would would be the recourse to things like this? Should I ask to discuss it with her or ask for a meeting? This is all new to me and he’s my first and only child.
apologies for the long message and thank you for reading.
AIBU?
AIBU to be upset by my child’s teacher?
Concernedcitizen98 · 23/09/2022 15:57
Am I being unreasonable?
168 votes. Final results.
POLLJudgeRindersMinder · 23/09/2022 16:06
Why are you starting him at school at such a young age?
JudgeRindersMinder · 23/09/2022 16:06
Why are you starting him at school at such a young age?
Snaketime · 23/09/2022 16:17
Have a chat with the teacher and say 'there is a history of SEN in the family and as you know one of the symptoms is difficulty with audio processing.'
France98 · 23/09/2022 16:40
Zero children in Scotland go to school when they are 4 years and 3 months old. They are all still at nursery then.
iklboo · 23/09/2022 16:33
@JudgeRindersMinder - children in the UK start school in Reception the September after their 4th birthday.
iklboo · 23/09/2022 16:55
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Concernedcitizen98 · 23/09/2022 16:32
Thank you for all your responses - just to clarify that she is aware of the family history of autism as my partner raised it at the home visit and asked whether the teachers would be aware of and looking for potential SEN. I was wondering to have a chat with her about the specifics of what he’s been doing not so much as the way she spoke to us.
he does have a cold at the moment so not sure whether that could be affecting his hearing as he is bunged up but i think I will book him a hearing test just to double check there isn’t any issues there.
i just want to make sure school for him is a positive experience and that I’m able to help however I can so he gets the best out of his education
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