To discourage DD from doing an internship aboard?

[Rainorshineimamummy]

DD has just started university this September. She’s already talking about doing an internship from next September!! She’s talking about doing one aboard but I don’t think she would cope aboard due to her (albeit mild) SEN

Do you mean abroad?

Good for her. If she’s at university she’s old enough to make her own decisions. Does she live with you? What support would she need to live independently?

Encourage her to go - she could surprise you!

Yes sorry

SEN is so vague
just let her do it and have a back up plan

Why not? So long as,she supported. Do not limit her.
She s started uni
She will grow and learn
Do not project
See what support she needs znd get it in place

Clearly the op meant abroad @Johnnysgirl goodness sake. And don't apologise op
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Honestly I think if I had that opportunity I would do it! It's only a year and if things don't work out she can always come back?

She has autism and it’s an industry that she could do an internship in in the UK

Please don't appear to stand in her way. If you give your blessing she won't feel the need to rebel and may decide to leave it for a bit. But it's her life, not yours!

if she can study in the UK, she can work abroad. You should be encouraging her instead of the opposite

An internship is a job basically? Not studying

This is true, i think I’ll speak to her about it from the point of view in being more interested about exactly what company she’s thinking and so on

At least let her try. Unless she's an actual danger to herself. Loads of autistic people would be fine with that.
Better to have tried and failed (and al the fantastic life experience you would learn from it) than to accept at that young age you are not capable of living abroad.

Pp means she has shown she is capable of independent living.

Oh ok, fair enough I can dispute that I don’t think actually, I’ll give her my blessing and make sure she knows I’m here for her if it doesn’t work out

i meant I can’t dispute

She can always come home if it doesn't work out. You should encourage her to broaden her horizons - living abroad is an amazing experience

You have to let her try

I don't get why you would discourage her, shouldn't you encourage her and have faith and believe in her and if anything was to go wrong be there to support her.

You can't discourage someone from living there life because your worried

Please don't discourage her OP, she's at Uni and it sounds like an amazing opportunity.

Not that I think it's quite the same, but my DS held my Niece back from doing similar because she just didn't want her to go/would miss her and now my niece still lives at home at 26 with no drive at all. They need to try to fly and know you'll be there if they decide it's not for them.

She's an adult and she can decide for herself what she's comfortable with. Be pleased that she's prepared to push herself.

Presumably your DD will be getting a job when she graduates, so if she is capable of working in the UK why don't you think she'll be capable of working in other country?

And do you mean by 'abroad'? There's a big difference between leaving the UK to work in another northern European country (or indeed somewhere English-speaking like America or Canada) and leaving the UK for, say, Japan or China where there's likely to be a much bigger culture shock.

I'm autistic and have lived in several countries and settled in my husband's home country. If she's capable of going to university and the independence that requires she's capable of travelling and internships abroad. It doesn't matter that she could do one in the UK, doing one abroad will be a more enriching and exciting prospect.

People often grow and change a lot after their first year of uni, I wouldn't discount anything yet.

If she’s keen then please let her do it, otherwise she’ll forever resent you

God why would you seek to limit daughter like this? Why on earth would you prevent a child from having ambition and independence?

If she's capable of independent living she's capable of looking after herself abroad.

Please don't hold her back.

I would advice your daughter to get the heck out of this mess of a country. If there are opportunities abroad then she should definitely take it.