Hi everyone - it would be great to get some other perspectives so I can stop feeling like I'm going mad!
My brother and his wife are over with their 11 month old baby for 3 weeks (they live in the US) - its been so nice to see my niece and brother. We were very close growing up and since he became a Dad, its been harder to stay in touch.
However, he keeps making backhanded comments and doing side eye to his wife whenever my 3 year old is playing up. It's driving me insane! She's had her odd moment if her cousin is trying to play with one of her toys and because she hasn't had all our attention, she does act up for it. She hasn't really been that bad though - she's said more adorable, funny things over the past couple of weeks than bad and has been really sweet and kind wanting to cuddle her cousin.
The good times seem to go unnoticed though and my brother said something along the lines of "she kicks off a lot, you need to put her on the naughty step" to me in passing. It's starting to stress me out and I can definitely see myself taking it out on her and losing my rag a lot faster.
It also doesn't help that they just have NO interest in leaving the house. We've been cooped up all day together (I would usually take DD out twice to wear her out) - they say its pointless as their daughter is too young to enjoy any kids stuff. I also think DB's DW is a bit of an agoraphobe as she doesn't seem to go out much at home either.
And finally - their daughter is a really quiet chilled baby but she doesn't eat any solids. They have her on the floor during dinner time and I always say "shall I pop some of the food in a bowl for her so she can try it" and they just say "oh she's not really into solid food". I then think to myself "and you judge MY parenting??"
Is this just petty brother sister squabbling or AIBU in thinking he's actually being a bit of a d*ck?
AIBU?
to be annoyed that brother is judging DD
kirstywursty012 · 21/09/2022 21:07
Tomorrowisalatterday · 22/09/2022 12:52
I have a lot of American family and am on a couple of online parenting groups with a lot of Americans and one thing I have noticed is that they do just stay in with kids a lot. I see on the parenting community a lot of posters asking "why is my 3 year old badly behaved?" And it turns out that they are WFH and trying to keep their child occupied all day inside which I think would be considered crazy in the UK
RunLolaRun101 · 22/09/2022 13:37
Yes this is very true. American (and Indian) parents don’t really take their babies and toddlers out. Or expose them to different foods / textures.
Tomorrowisalatterday · 22/09/2022 12:52
I have a lot of American family and am on a couple of online parenting groups with a lot of Americans and one thing I have noticed is that they do just stay in with kids a lot. I see on the parenting community a lot of posters asking "why is my 3 year old badly behaved?" And it turns out that they are WFH and trying to keep their child occupied all day inside which I think would be considered crazy in the UK
RunLolaRun101 · 22/09/2022 13:35
I think you need to take your brother aside and remind him: 1) he has no right to judge considering his toddler is still not on solid food; 2) you are doing him a favour by letting him stay in your house. If he wants he can move himself out to a hotel on his dime.
RunLolaRun101 · 22/09/2022 13:37
Yes this is very true. American (and Indian) parents don’t really take their babies and toddlers out. Or expose them to different foods / textures.
Tomorrowisalatterday · 22/09/2022 12:52
I have a lot of American family and am on a couple of online parenting groups with a lot of Americans and one thing I have noticed is that they do just stay in with kids a lot. I see on the parenting community a lot of posters asking "why is my 3 year old badly behaved?" And it turns out that they are WFH and trying to keep their child occupied all day inside which I think would be considered crazy in the UK
Pallisers · 22/09/2022 16:27
This really isn't true. I reared three in the US and everyone I knew took their babies and toddlers out to the park, for walks, to playgroups, to swim classes etc. If I look out my door I'll see my neighbours out with their babies and toddlers. And no idea where you are getting the thing about foods and textures.
RunLolaRun101 · 22/09/2022 13:37
Yes this is very true. American (and Indian) parents don’t really take their babies and toddlers out. Or expose them to different foods / textures.
Tomorrowisalatterday · 22/09/2022 12:52
I have a lot of American family and am on a couple of online parenting groups with a lot of Americans and one thing I have noticed is that they do just stay in with kids a lot. I see on the parenting community a lot of posters asking "why is my 3 year old badly behaved?" And it turns out that they are WFH and trying to keep their child occupied all day inside which I think would be considered crazy in the UK
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