Posting pics of your sick children on facebook

[NeedMoMoney]

I'm sure there's probably been threads on this before, but it just irritates me that parents (mostly mums) post pics of their kids who are clearly unwell e.g covered in sores, snotty faces crying etc...for likes on Facebook. There not even asking for advice for their illness just putting pics up of "poor 'such and such' felling I'll today"...and that's it! I'd absolutely hate to find out my parents did this to me! Leave the poor kids alone! their picture doesn't have to be shared at all!

YANBU- that's really horrible!

But it's not necessary to include 'poorly' pictures of the child.

Totally agree and the posting of them or children at hospital, just complete attention seeking

Yep I agree, I do post pics of my children doing fun things and happy, but ill or when they've been in hospital, absolutely not. People love the attention it brings though, when people check in at the hospital waiting for the "are you OK hun"s to arrive 🤣. No.

It's Wierd. My DC would go nuts

One of my friends has a private Instagram just for family. So there's about 10 people on there and she posts all the children stuff there and nowhere else. Seemed a good option and when they're older it's like a photo album for them

I started following a fb group a while ago as my dsd has a condition and the group seemed to be raising awareness of it but as times gone in it seems to just be pictures of the young woman in hospital or personal details about her and details of her appts just before or real time (surely a safeguarding risk
?) plus the info given made me feel so uncomfortable I unfollowed as i felt that she might not be able to fully consent to having her full medical history online and whereabouts known all the time 😞

It's disgusting tgat people do that. I'd feel like crap if someone put me on Facebook when I was unwell.

I've seen someone post a pic of their child in an ambulance. Not once when my child was taken to hospital in an ambulance then had to be there for weeks did it cross my mind to take a pic and post it on fb. Obviously attention seeking oddballs.

I agree. I don’t post any pics of my dc- never have, never will.
i would die if fb was around 40 years ago and dm splashed pictures of me and db all over it.

And then you’ve got people like mrs hinch who make 20 grand a post with them in.shares everything.and gets messages of love and adoration…🤔
but I guess its different because she’s… oh no wait

The ones I dislike the most is the naked photos/kids on toilet being potty trained etc. Like, why? Why do you need to do this?

I will say as a little insight, if we as hcps see people taking photos of their kids and then asked they say it's going on Facebook it's considered a safeguarding issue by my trust (Childrens hospital) especially if in icu or on a ward.. or even if staff notice and another staff member is in the photo or a child nearby is in the photo.

We can ask the parent to delete the photo (I work
In childrens icu) and if they refuse it is an automatic safeguarding referral.

I hate seeing h hospital pictures as well. My dm took photos of my dc in gp hospital (in old fashioned camera days). I refused to see the photos, or if she gave me copies, threw them away (can’t remember which now).

When not then

Even worse is people putting pictures of their dying children all over social media. It’s heartbreaking how little regard these people have for their children’s dignity.

Yep! Really hate this, similarly I hate it when parents post videos of their children upset or crying or having tantrums.

when Ds was critically ill the staff actually encouraged me to take photos which at the time I thought was bonkers but it helped me a lot in dealing with the aftermath. But 99% of them where for my eyes only (and Ds has seen them now he is older to help him understand)

I have posted some photos of him while he has been in hospital though because for us it was as much a part of life as a trip to the park is for most. The first photo I have of him smiling he was on nasal spec oxygen in hospital I posted it on Facebook to let people see how well he was doing and because like most new mums the first smile was an exciting moment.

I think it’s a sign of a mental health crisis. There is no explanation or justification in the world to explain of why you would post a picture of your sick child on Facebook. There are private messaging apps to update how your child is doing to the family. It’s just the reason behind it and the way of thinking… my child is so sick, they are in the hospital. Let me open my Facebook app and share… it’s so unbelievable sick. No one, and I mean no one from my immediate circle of friends, shares their private life on media anymore. Only from time to time you can see someone’s birthday photo, but there’s that.

I have a friend who does this. Can't be having that much of a good holiday if you're just posting photos all day.

She also has photos of them in their school uniform and now everyone knows which schools her children go to.

No sorry. That's just wrong. Very very wrong.

Which bit and why?

You will often find these are the type of people who work at "Stay At Home Mummy"

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@Sirzy

The first photo I have of him smiling he was on nasal spec oxygen in hospital I posted it on Facebook

This. In my opinion. Posts like this scream of attention seeking, wanting concern, look at me, etc.

It honestly makes me cringe that people can be so self absorbed that they cannot see how inappropriate it is to post such things.

Wtf !!! It was a child’s FIRST SMILE that just so happened to be when they had some medical / therapeutic device on - there’s nothing wrong with a parent posting that they are posting the first smile not anything around it