Posting pics of your sick children on facebook

[NeedMoMoney]

I'm sure there's probably been threads on this before, but it just irritates me that parents (mostly mums) post pics of their kids who are clearly unwell e.g covered in sores, snotty faces crying etc...for likes on Facebook. There not even asking for advice for their illness just putting pics up of "poor 'such and such' felling I'll today"...and that's it! I'd absolutely hate to find out my parents did this to me! Leave the poor kids alone! their picture doesn't have to be shared at all!

God that is horrendous, how awful

I genuinely believe if your friendship group are heavily into social media they lose grip on reality. Posting on 'insta' when you or your family are poorly is not normal. It really isn't. It screams of attention seeking and always needing to be in the picture.

Apologies. Not you specifically.

Some people interact differently to others, because they're different.

I don't agree with posting pictures of anyone while poorly on social media. However, there are sometimes occasions when people do it because it is part of their life.

I myself did it when DS spent a year in and out of hospital having brain surgery, radiotherapy and chemotherapy. Although he was obviously ill, I never posted pictures of him being ill if you see what I mean.

For us it was life. He was sent lots of presents and he celebrated his 10th birthday in hospital while undergoing his last round of chemo. I posted pictures of t him because it was the first thing he'd tried eating in days and the smile on his face was priceless. I posted selfies of us walking around the hospital grounds in the sunshine after finally being allowed out of isolation following chemo.

I'm so glad I have these memories to look back on as it was the last year of his life.

That should have said I posted pictures of him eating a McDonald's because it was the first thing he had eaten for days

Don't know how I managed to crop some of the text out!

I don't post pictures of my dc on sm anymore, and I've set any past pictures so that only I can see them. I just send pictures in private family groups if necessary to share news now. Not everyone needs to know everything

This. Family and friends everywhere. Kids involves in 2 or 3 sports that are like family so huge number of people. They all message and what's app when someone tells them one of kids hurt and in hospital. Easier to do a facebook post and thank everyone for their kind messages

I was thinking about this the other day. Growing up, there were certain family members and certain friends of my mum who actually didn’t like me and I didn’t like them. If then was now, and if she was posting pictures of me, at my most vulnerable state, because she wanted to update friends, and family, i would not be happy especially as some of those people did not like me and I didn’t consent.

Maybe just put her on mute.

YANBU

There's no need for it and it makes me sad. Someone I know's 3yo broke their arm and she posted photos of her in hospital. Clearly looking exhausted and distressed :(

It's just attention seeking but everything about Facebook is attention seeking I hate it tbh

When my son had been in hospital quite poorly a number of times I took photos, for myself he was Ill but still could chat and play a bit when he had the energy was a long week and I took a pic of him prior to going home looking much better playing with fire engines etc and posted that as a we’re on the way home. I’ve never shared the poorly pics online or elsewhere. I wasn’t thinking about that whilst my child was so Ill and on 15l 02 infusions etc etc tbh, was very glad to get home.

Yes, but if it’s just a message for everyone, with an update that’s fine, it’s the unnecessary and distressing hospital photos that are included in that update. It’s not necessary and it’s the kids invasion of privacy when they are at their most vulnerable.

i think it's revolting. i reported a consultant who had a franchise for posting public photos of her teenage daughter going through some medical issues. consultant was told to stop by the company and i hope the consultant realised she was violating her daughters privacy all for a few "'likes." the daughter always looked so miserable in the photos. it was terrible.

I deleted a guy off my Facebook because he took a selfie of himself with a fake concerned look on his face and in the background paramedics were tending to his young daughter who looked unconscious on the floor.

I know a mum whose kid had repeated tonsillitis. She would literally post photos of the inside of his mouth with pus filled tonsils, or a picture of the thermometer showing how high his fever was, or a photo of him asleep on her obviously quite poorly. So attention seeking and weird.

Thats appalling

I don't understand why in these circumstances family don't set up a WhatsApp group of those that have a real interest, rather than putting it for semi public consumption of all the gawkers on social media

Of course that means less likes and attention, but that should not be the focus

Why the hell does it need to be an insta story anyway? Attention seeking crap, that's why

Well, I use FB as a kind of family diary with pics, funny stories etc.
At the end of each year I get a printed book of the posts and photos.
My kids absolutely love reading the Facebook books about themselves as kids, though whenever I post I am bearing in mind that they can read it one day.
My youngest is 12.

Mind you, my friends are all actual friends and family.

Its like the woman who filmed the child she was with (I don’t know the relationship) who was crying about the Queen dying and posting it. Put your chuffing phone down and hug your upset child.

Agreed. It's really intrusive.

Agree. I wouldn't want a photo of myself looking sickly on Facebook so why do it to your kids? It's intrusive and attention seeking. Bit like potty training updates.

It's much worse, as it's betraying your children's privacy. And once something is on the Internet, it can't be undone.