To say ‘put a bloody jumper on’?

[Bookishnerd]

We have a wood burner, and twice this week I’ve come into the living room to find my DH has started a fire… but he’s wearing boxers or shorts or ‘summer clothes’.

We have quite a warm house and it gets roasting upstairs. We bought extra logs this winter to heat the downstairs only, as it doesn’t take much for heat to rise and it to get too hot.

It’s been chilly the last few days, and I’m not a miser - if he’s cold, put the fire on, no problem.

But put a jumper on first?! Get dressed?! Don’t waste energy and money?

When I mentioned it to him, he brushed me off with a shrug and a ‘meh’.

Growing up it would have been October in our house, last one in March. I don't stick rigidly to that schedule but loosely.

@Bookishnerd that would annoy me. I don't think I am a miser either but in this weather I would be going for a jumper first. We have started putting the heat on for an hour in the evening to 'take the chill' out of the rooms.

Sounds like you had a terrible time @oxydant but to be clear, that’s not the situation here

YABVU. I’m not wrapping up in my own home. We have it no lower than 22 and on chillier nights the fire is going. I never wear a jumper inside.

Sorry, my last post should’ve said @SecretVictoria not @oxydant

Thanks @YellowTreeHouse. to be clear, I’m not suggesting he ‘wrap up’. I’m suggesting he get dressed

It was horrendous. I phoned my mum in tears one day in the winter, as I needed to wash my hair but just couldn’t face putting my head under cold water then coming out into a cold house. She put money in my bank so I could get a blow dry done in town.

I get that the situation isn’t the exact same but I get really tired of “put a jumper on”. However many jumpers/dressing gowns I wore, my body would not generate any heat when I was already that cold. I was, quite literally, chilled to the bone.

I refuse to be cold now in my own home. Luckily (🤔) I’m peri-menopausal and live in a well-insulated new build so it’s not such an issue now.

YANBU at all.

Jumpers, socks, hot water bottles and blankets first in this house - if you're still cold, then by all means light a fire or put the heating on.

@SecretVictoria both me and DH grew up in poverty and so I agree to an extent. I am not for a second suggesting that DH should be cold. I also remembering huddling round a two bar gas heater and being freezing.

I’m suggesting that a first step in deciding whether or not to put the fire on is to work out whether or not you’ve got a reasonable amount of layers on first

There’s a middle ground here. Clearly, it’s cruel and brutal to expect anyone to shower/ wash in cold water in a totally unheated home. It can also cause long term maintenance / damp problems when a house isn’t heated adequately.

However, it’s unreasonable to be wasteful of fuel by putting a fire on to keep warm while wearing barely any clothes. Your husband needs to dress appropriately first.

Type of thing my Dh would do. And the kids. Its not cold enough to light the fire.

However many layers I wore, I was never warm, as there was no warm air for the layers to trap!

I don't understand this. I can go outside on the winter and if I have enough layers on I will be warm... I will be cold without them, warm with them, no matter the air temp

I get annoyed in stuffy houses that are always warm though tbf. I like cool air circulation and would rather sit with a jumper and dressing gown and a hot water bottle, than a vest top and a fire/heating

DP and I have heating wars every winter. I like wrapping up warm and putting the heating on only if it’s arctic. Nothing to do with cost, just the way I was brought up. DP likes the heating on permanently at 25 degrees and swanning about in t-shirts. I feel like I’m living in a sauna when he does this.

Im enjoying the debate about whether a jumper will make you warm or not.

Classic Mumsnet!

My son once moaned he was cold. He was wearing T-shirt and shorts in March. Told him to jog on

Surely you can't believe that?!?

Can't believe there are people who think putting a jumper on doesn't make you feel any warmer than not putting a jumper on 😆

It's September. Of course a jumper will suffice.

We've just returned from camping in North Scotland and were perfectly warm at night.

We won't be lighting ours for a while yet as we've still got the windows open upstairs and it will turn into a furnace up there

The education system really has gone to pot hasn't it!

And that is totally up to you if you pay the bills, but it’s also fine if OP doesn’t want to live in a sauna hot enough for her DP to bask in just his pants. That must be like 28 C to be comfortable?

I am wearing four layers, one being a great big jumper. I use a heating pad for my feet when I am at my desk. Saving money and the planet - put a jumper on.

@SecretVictoria was the house you lived in also very damp? I suspect you were suffering from damp plus cold which is MUCH harder to warm up from. If you weren't able to get clothes, blankets etc properly dry in a freezing damp house it would definitely have felt like no amount of jumpers would make you warmer (you'd be right; all the heat in the trapped air would go into marginally warming the trapped moisture instead of warming you, and you might never gain enough heat to feel properly warm before you got more damp from beds, soft furnishings etc)

Wearing a jumper isn't wrapping up. Wearing a jumper when it is cold is a normal thing to do.

@SecretVictoria if putting a jumper on makes someone warm enough then that’s not the situation you were living in it‘s still mild in the day at the moment.

So you’re saying your core body temperature dropped below room temperature?
uh huh.
you know that’s impossible weithout severe hypothermia and a bit daft to suggest right?