Frustrated with "best friend"

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I'm just so annoyed at someone at my so called best friend of 10 years.

We had the typical girly best friend relationship until she got married in 2018, and slowly things changed, nothing that effected our friendship too much, just that she didn't like to talk on the phone anymore at home or doesn't meet up on weekends which I can imagine is because she wants to spend time her with husband.

Yesterday I went to the Queens Lying in State and all she did was LAUGH at me for it and she was not joking but more like I was a joke for even doing it. Thinking about it now I told her my plans to go a couple of days ago and her reply was "don't bow your head at the coffin, what are you going to do that for" and "why do you even like the Queen? She killed Diana".

She messaged me today and asked how it was and I told her it was the best experience of my life and the memories made are priceless and her reply was "Lolll is it" and I'm annoyed that she can't just be a friend and say something like "I'm so happy you were able to do it, well done".

And the more I think about it, I've realised she's constantly "laughing" at me, for things I choose to do/like or just treating me like I'm an an idiot. I'm meeting her on Tuesday and I don't feel like seeing her anymore and right now I just don't want to be her friend.

I can list examples of every time she has made me feel shit but I can honestly with my hand on my heart say I have never not supported her or shown her my love when she needed it - if she did something that I didn't agree with, I would still support her!

AIBU?

I do find it a little strange that seeing the queen's coffin, was one of the best experiences of your life. Sounds like you and your friend have grown apart, and become different. Just say you can't meet up on Tuesday, and don't plan to meet up again. Make new friends.

It sounds like you have grown apart . She is unkind and does not make time for you or value your ideas.

perhaps pull back from this friendship

Thanks for your congratulations @ChiefWiggumsBoy much appreciated!

If you think looking at a coffin of someone who didn't know you existed was the best day of your life I feel sorry for you. Ditch the fake friend and go and live! Meet new people and do exciting new things. YIKES

I’ve just decided to cut contact with a friend who sounds very similar to this. It really is draining, I think it’s so important to have people around you who raise you up, not bring you down!

About the Queen, as is evident on this thread, some people feel the same as you do, others just don't understand and find it bizarre.

If it was just this incident I think the friendship can get past it but you seem to be describing a pattern of behaviour which leaves you feeling bad. Friendship should lift you up in my opinion and spending time with a friend should, on the whole, make you feel happier.

If you don't enjoy this friendship don't be scared to let it go.

If a friend of mine had queued and talked about the ‘priceless memories’, I’d have suggested they get themselves checked medically.

Honestly, OP, it just sounds as though you’ve grown apart, and if your pre-existing relationship before her marriage was only ever ‘typical girly best friend’ (what does that even mean?), there’s not now anything there to sustain it. Move on.

She’s so nasty!

I can’t stand women who put themselves on the pedestal just because they have a man.

Don’t let her hurt you even more.
She’s not a friend.

I had a friend like this that I lived with. I didn't realise how much her constant belittling was affecting me until I moved out.

Things fizzled out, then when she tried to get back in touch a year later, I ignored her. I'm so much happier.

Friends should build you up, not tear you down.