If you were worth 500 million, would you give more than a €15 overpayment for babysitting

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Recently did babysitting (like I’m 15 🤣 I’m a teacher and can earn €15-20 per hr for sitting in a huge house for the night-can’t say no! 🤷🏻‍♀️) for a well known face (v nice guy) They paid the hourly fee…wasn’t a huge amount this time through the agency I was with -€12 per hour, then his wife hanged me around €13 over-sort of Leo the change type thing and acted as though I should be forever grateful..I was grateful as they didn’t *Have to do that…but it did make me wonder if I was worth almost half a billion…I’m sure I’d give a fair bit more

They will meet grabby people constantly. Nothing puts you off ‘treating’ people like people thinking they’re entitled to it ‘because you can afford it’.

Would rather keep donations private and have a reputation for tightness than a reputation as an easy mark.

You are not a teacher.

Not sure but I would to avoid mn threads from random babysitters like this ;

Why do people think that rich people should give money away just because they can afford to? A ridiculous notion. Maybe if there is a cause they believe in I'm sure some of them enjoy giving money away. But to someone who agreed a price for a service? No.

Well rich people should give money away imo if they have more than they can ever spend leading a normal life. Not to a paid service like OP. But definitely to charity.
Being rich is obscene and immoral.

I have friends (a married couple) who are well known faces (they were regularly on TV quite a few years ago) and people assume they're loaded.
They are often over charged by tradespeople etc. because of this. They may have a nice car and house but they also, like a lot of us, have large outgoings. Why should they have to pay more than the going rate because of what people perceive is in their bank account?

And they did tip you. They paid for an extra hour of your time. It just wasn’t the amount you were rubbing your hands together in anticipation of.

If your prices do in fact adjust based on the income of the client perhaps make that known beforehand.

Exactly what I thought

You're being ridiculous OP. You accepted the work at the rate offered yet you somehow find it insulting that you were given a cash tip (which you are doubtless going to pocket rather than declaring for tax) because you think someone rich should tip you more. This says far more about you than it does about them.

People don't become wealthy by throwing money away

Why do we need to know you're a teacher?

Do you want a pat on the back?

Foolish thread, honestly. This is the sort of thread that is likely to get picked up by a tabloid journalist looking for a quick article. If the couple in question become aware of it and recognize themselves they’re likely to complain to the agency, and OP could find herself being let go.

This is different. Giving money away vs spending money on yourself. Will you take money to your grave? Don’t spend frivolously but being tight with your own self doesn’t make sense.

I completely agree that just because someone has money doesn’t mean they should be expected to pay more or give away money.

I don’t believe I am tight with money. Just careful. We were not wealthy growing up so taking care of what I have is important to me. I do help others substantially when the are in need but I don’t overpay, tip, or spend frivolously.

What an immature post

I think if I was super rich, I'd enjoy giving money to people who desperately needed it. I wouldn't routinely 'over pay' people who did jobs for me.

The chances of me ever being super rich are nil, so this is only a dream! 😂

A very wealthy man I used to work for, was tighter than 2 coats of paint.

He once overpaid an invoice by about 4p.
So, they wrote to him to say they were going to donate the 4p to a charity of his choice.
He instantly wrote back, in a fit of pique, saying 'how dare you tell me what to do with my own money. You'll give it back to me in stamps'.
And sure enough, 2-3 days later, they wrote to him and enclosed 4 1 penny stamps.

Now that is tight!

YABU to expect to be given more of a bonus for baby sitting just because the family you worked for has money, especially as you are the one setting your rate.

I work for high profile families and I charge them the rate I want to earn for the job expected and I am happy with getting just that. Any bonus on top of that is always appreciated but not at all expected. I am paid quite well but technically speaking if I start looking at it your way I would forever feel underpaid when in reality I earn more than most. Ultimately them having money doesn’t entitle me to a chunk of it.

i am responsible for setting my rates and so I only charge what I am comfortable earning and any extra money is an unexpected bonus but no family’s net worth make me expect one and it should be the same for you. What stopped you from asking a for a higher rate if you feel your work deserved more? And why does your rate change based on the person’s net worth?

They paid you an hour extra.

I think you are being ungrateful, they didnt have to give you a tip at all.

Wow 🙈🤣

Ok, it wasn’t actually about me wanting the extra money and being grabby. It was that if I was worth that much, I’d love to be able to hand someone extra money on top and see their faces/make someone feel good as it wouldn’t mean a great deal in the scheme of things.

I’m a teacher, I’m not with the agency anymore as I work full time and have children. I didn’t have to sign anything but was asked/told to be discreet and never mention names, I haven’t done.

They were a really nice couple, as I’ve already said, I was just musing on how I would likely give extra and enjoy giving extra…reading these comments though, maybe I actually wouldn’t and it wouldn’t work like that 🤷🏻‍♀️

@Ameanstreakamilewide wow, how long did you last working for him?

Wealthy people can’t win in a situation like this. I think they tipped you relatively well - you think this was stingy and are complaining. If they tipped more, some people would accuse them of showing off. Some may have been embarrassed and felt like a charity case. Some may have resented it. Others may have told everyone they know, this infringing on the family’s privacy. Only a small minority would have been happy and taken the gesture at face value. As I said, they can’t win.

This thread is a good example of unfair expectations. They paid the going rate, tipped you and treated you well. You wouldn’t have expected more from anyone else. The only reason you are overthinking this is because they are wealthy. That says more about you than them.

😂😂 yep, I misread the number as 5, not 500! Oops...

Yes, it’s easy to think you would want to hand money out in their situation, but if you actually were I imagine the reality would be different. If you act like an ATM you invariably get treated like one, and then you’re left wondering if people want to be around you for you, or for access to your money. You also realize quickly how hostile people can get if you say no, because oftentimes they don’t look at is at a gift but as something they’re entitled to. And that’s on top of the bitching behind your back because what you think of as sharing good fortune, is being called showing off. Plenty of people will hate you for it, but still smile in your face as they stand there with their hand out.

Lots of people don’t want to look as though they’re being ‘lady bountiful’ throwing 50£ notes to the plebs.

Lots of people don’t want to look as though they’re being ‘lady bountiful’ throwing 50£ notes to the plebs.

^^ This

It's why I find tipping so excruciatingly uncomfortable. I don't want to appear mean, but equally I don't want to be seen as lady bountiful. I've been going to my hairdresser for years. I don't think I'm any better than she is (and probably no better off) but when it gets to paying I squirm. I gave her a big tip after Covid when I hadn't seen her for ages and immediately regret it because it felt really patronising.

I get that there are a lot of wealthy people who are just mean, but there must be those who don't want to appear like they're looking down on anyone by dishing out £50 notes.

I don’t think you’re explaining yourself very well because you seem to be saying they should pay more because they’re able to. I’d guess lots of the super-rich get fed up of the implication that they should spend more on the same things than the average person, just because they have more money. The equivalent of an extra hours pay as a tip seems fine to me.

This is the very reason I’d keep any big lottery win a secret, I’d hate for people to be judging me every time I opened my purse and consider me stingy if I didn’t inflate what I was paying.