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AIBU?

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Original poster

Night out ???

41 replies

Sorrynotsorry22 · 16/09/2022 16:16

Friend ( 10 years younger) wants to go out tonight, we're both single kids much older etc. She still loves the club night gets chatted up, l enjoy it but feel wayyy to old (55, groan- been told l look younger but feel 55!)
Anyhow, it's tonight before HRH funeral weekend and apart from feeling knackered, l think it's disrespectfully
AIBU?

OP posts:
Badgirlriri · 16/09/2022 16:18

Disrespectful? Seriously?

chipsandpeas · 16/09/2022 16:19

what a bullshit excuse

cavia · 16/09/2022 16:23

Being tired is a good enough excuse. No need to make something else about the queen

CatchYouOnTheFlippetyFlop · 16/09/2022 16:24

What the fuck 😂

Just say you don't want to go instead of using queenies 'funeral weekend' as an excuse.

NewIdeasToday · 16/09/2022 16:28

Go or don’t go, but disrespect doesn’t come into it.

TheRookie · 16/09/2022 16:29

It's not a funeral weekend FFS it's her funeral on Monday! We are going to a wedding tomorrow and intend to be fully 'disrespectful' all day 👌🏻👌🏻

VladmirsPoutine · 16/09/2022 16:30

I don't think it's disrespectful. At 25 I was over clubbing so at 55 it would be my nightmare. There are occasions in life that you should just suck it up and go because the odds are you'll feel better when there but on this occasion I'd give it a miss - but I stress not because it's disrespectful.

10HailMarys · 16/09/2022 16:30

What's the dead Queen got to do with anything? You don't like clubbing so don't go clubbing. It's not a complicated decision. You don't have to do stuff you hate just because your friend enjoys it.

Chickychoccyegg · 16/09/2022 16:30

Just own it and say you can't be bothered, nothing disrespectful about a night out

10HailMarys · 16/09/2022 16:30

Also there is no such thing as a 'funeral weekend' ffs. Just say you don't want to go.

abovedecknotbelow · 16/09/2022 16:31

If you don't want to go, don't. Don't blame on a 96 year old who had a peaceful death and you have no relation to.

MomwasCasual · 16/09/2022 16:31

I'm opening a very disrespectful bottle of wine very shortly.

It's what she would have wanted Wine

GoneWithTheWine1 · 16/09/2022 16:32

Don't be so ridiculous. If you don't want to go, don't go. Don't make up bullshit. 😂

Twos0ups · 16/09/2022 16:36

I would go out on Monday to the pub/ lunch/ cinema if anywhere was bloody open! .
As it’s not, we’ll

be having a boozy lunch at home and then chilling with Netflix for the rest of the day.

Couldn’t care less about the funeral.
You’re just using that as an excuse! You said yourself you were too tired to go out!

trevthecat · 16/09/2022 16:38

Oh give over!

neverbeenskiing · 16/09/2022 16:38

It's "disrespectful" to go out and socialise because someone you've never met is being buried in three days time?? Just be honest and say you don't want to go!

Original poster
Sorrynotsorry22 · 17/09/2022 01:51

Thanks for all the replies, maybe it seems l am using the funeral as an excuse.
I genuinely think to go out partying whilst the country is in national mourning is a personal choice. That's my reason and lm sticking with it !
Call me old fashioned but are planned wedding is unavoidable so obviously l'd go if that were the case.

OP posts:
NewBootsAndRanty · 17/09/2022 01:58

Call me old fashioned but are planned wedding is unavoidable so obviously l'd go if that were the case.

Er...what?

Sometimeswinning · 17/09/2022 02:12

NewBootsAndRanty · 17/09/2022 01:58

Call me old fashioned but are planned wedding is unavoidable so obviously l'd go if that were the case.

Er...what?

The op will drop any personal beliefs if it was planned! I'm beginning to think they are using the queen's funeral as an excuse!! Maybe not as young as she believes she is!

Shoxfordian · 17/09/2022 06:41

Just say no to your friend then but I don’t think it’s disrespectful to go for some drinks later

generalh · 17/09/2022 07:03

Sorrynotsorry22 · 17/09/2022 01:51

Thanks for all the replies, maybe it seems l am using the funeral as an excuse.
I genuinely think to go out partying whilst the country is in national mourning is a personal choice. That's my reason and lm sticking with it !
Call me old fashioned but are planned wedding is unavoidable so obviously l'd go if that were the case.

I am not in mourning. Don't speak for the whole nation. Lucky to have Monday off but there is fuck all open to enjoy the day fully.

girlmom21 · 17/09/2022 07:15

The Queen's funeral weekend 😂

I'm sure she'd want you to go clubbing.

Mabelstearooms · 17/09/2022 07:35

Imagine being the Queen for 70 odd years and still being called HRH!

It's not disrespectful to live your life OP. The Queen won't know you've gone on the piss 3 days before her funeral.

Subeccoo · 17/09/2022 07:51

I went to the pub the night after my own mums funeral, I sure as hell won't be changing my plans this weekend. What a bull shit excuse! Not wanting to go clubbing is fine though, sounds like my idea of hell and I'd never agreed to it in the first place (am 2 years younger than your friend!)

Subeccoo · 17/09/2022 07:53

I'm absolutely not in mourning so please do not think the entire country is. In my friend and family circle there is not a single person who is shedding tears over a very old lady dying.

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