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To think 3 friends having babies within a month is a pregnancy pact?

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CowOverMoon · 15/09/2022 19:45

So I know of 3 women, all in long term relationships, who are due (first child for each of them) within a few weeks of each other. They are a close group and do everything together. Does this seem like a pregnancy pact? Or just very fortuitous timing?

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KrisAkabusi · 15/09/2022 20:19

FFS! All three of them could have been receiving the best fertility treatment from the best doctors in the world, and they still couldn't arrange to become pregnant at the same time. It's not that easy!

H1Drangea · 15/09/2022 20:24

Bride ( me ) cousin and guest at wedding all had our first babies with in 8 days of each other 11 months after the wedding
No pact , just luck ( one long term TTC , other 2 just went for it )

OldAndTubby · 15/09/2022 20:27

I think just timing! My children, my sils children (on DH side) and my brother's children (6 in total) are all born v close - they are currently in school.years 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, and 6! We didn't time it that way, it's just turned out that way! :)

LemonDrop22 · 16/09/2022 13:14

Never heard of a pregnancy pact.

Women who spend time around each other's cycles synchronise I believe.

Useful in bygone eras.

LemonDrop22 · 16/09/2022 13:14

Also if people are the samd age, they'llnofren be getting hitched around same time, TTC around same time etc

lovenaps · 16/09/2022 14:43

ZoeQ90 · 15/09/2022 20:08

🤣😭 tell me you've never struggled to conceive without telling me you've never struggled to conceive. Lol. You can't plan these things, however much you might like to.

My thoughts exactly.
Oh bless people who think conception is so easy!

undermilkjug · 16/09/2022 14:45

Me and my SIL had babies 2 weeks apart.

Mine was conceived by IVF, she went on holiday and had a lovely time.

No pact.

Vikinga · 16/09/2022 14:46

3 of my sisters in law and myself had babies at similar times. We live in different countries.

Many of my friends had babies close together too. It is the age and stage of life.

Coincidence

LongLivedQueen · 16/09/2022 14:55

lovenaps · 16/09/2022 14:43

My thoughts exactly.
Oh bless people who think conception is so easy!

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But it IS, for many people. Are you unaware of this?

SusanPerbCallMeSue · 16/09/2022 15:01

I had my first son the day before my best friend had hers. And they weighed the same! We planned it very well. In reality it was my second pregnancy (first sadly ended at 6 weeks) so we'd been trying for little while. Hers was an accident. It was lots of fun being pregnant together though, and going through the baby and toddler years at the same time.

My mum did ask me why we had to do everything together - we'd been friends since school which involved much mucking about together.

RaRaRaspoutine · 16/09/2022 15:20

Yes it's clearly a fertility cult /s

LordGribeau · 16/09/2022 15:24

When I had my first, DH's best friend and his wife were due their first exactly 2 weeks after us. When I had my second they were, again, due their second exactly 2 weeks later. When I announced I was pregnant with my third she went off to take a test, then sent her DH for a vasectomy 😂

Thatboymum · 16/09/2022 15:26

It seems like who gives an actual shit to me 🤣

queenatom · 16/09/2022 15:40

I started a new job a decade ago with two other women; we saw a lot of one another for the first few years and then between job changes, new relationships and busy lives we drifted apart. I ran into one of them when my baby was two weeks old and she was 36 weeks pregnant; she'd recently spoken to the third friend who it transpired was due two weeks after me and two weeks before her. Coincidences happen - if they are all of a similar age and at similar stages in their relationships then could well be down to chance.

nachoavocado · 16/09/2022 15:42

Sweetmotherofallthatisholyabov · 15/09/2022 20:08

I know sisters who had dc1 within two weeks and dc2 within a week, and when one announced dc3 everyone looked to the other.

That could have been really hurtful

Openrelationship · 16/09/2022 15:59

My SIL’s gave birth within a week of each other and I followed a month later.

None of it planned. We weren’t really trying, one was a ONS baby and the other had been trying 2 years.

BlackForestCake · 16/09/2022 16:06

It's coincidence.

If they are all around the same age there will be millions of other women having babies at the same time too, who they're not mates with.

ILikeHotWaterBottles · 16/09/2022 16:18

It could have been a plan by them all. They are just lucky it worked out, would have been pretty awful if one struggled while two managed..

People need to remember that not everyone struggles. Some people really don't struggle, people can come off contraception even hormonal contraception and get pregnant the first time they try. Some don't get pregnant for months. We are all different.

broodybadger · 16/09/2022 16:23

@lovenaps

But conception is easy for many women, especially younger women

I had a pact with my best friend with our first children so we could enjoy maternity leave together, we both got pregnant first month of trying and enjoyed our 12 months of fun together as planned!

lickenchugget · 16/09/2022 16:23

So what if it is?

ifoundthebread · 16/09/2022 16:26

Not always. A woman i know and 3 of her friends were all pregnant at the same time but with one coming very early and one very late, one induction and one natural they are born within 9 days of each other.

Mangogogogo · 16/09/2022 16:40

Me and two of my besties all got pregnant first shot so we could have timed it together if we wanted to! Didn’t though.

don’t see the issue anyway. It’s not like the babies are being born into some bizarre cult they’re just gunna have a couple of extra play dates

Coffeaddict · 16/09/2022 16:45

There are 7 in total in my school group of friends( still quite close). 5 babies were born in that group in the same year son was born. This year there will be 4 babies born, mostly second kids of which 1 is mine.
No pregnancy pact as others have said its just a case of reaching similar life stages at similar times.

GreenEggsAndBabycham · 16/09/2022 16:50

A what??

Wisteriaroundthedoor · 16/09/2022 16:53

Who the hell has pregnancy pacts for gods sake

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