Is it ever ok to wish someone dead?

[GhostFromTheOtherSide]

A family member’s ex has been diagnosed with lung cancer. His sister lives in the same street as my parents.

They have fallen out monumentally and she has gone NC. TBH I think it’s 6 of one, half a dozen of the other. He’s a miserable so-and-so, and she is possibly the most bitter person I have ever come across who doesn’t have a good word to say about anyone.

So I recently saw her in the trees and I asked if she’d heard how said ex family member is, and her response was: “dead hopefully.”

Now, I think that there are people whose death might not particularly come as bad news, Fred west, Harold Shipman, someone who has committed a hideous crime.

But is it ever ok to actually wish someone dead? In this instance I think that wishing him dead is a step too. Far, regardless of the circumstances.

I wished my violent, wife & children beating, abusive alcoholic BIL dead and he happily obliged.

If he hadn't killed himself it would have been my DSis or her children.

Never felt guilty about feeling that way either.

🤣 I'm glad you don't share my 'foul' social circle too.

I wish my ex would drop dead.
He has caused me such pain and grief. And told so many lies.
I hope he dies slowly and painfully

YABU

You have no idea why she seems to hate him, maybe he’s done or said reallly horrific things to her. Or she may just be a miserable women.

You don’t know so you should not judge her!

But it makes absolutely no difference to someone whether you wish them dead or that their fingernails fall out, unless you actually take steps to render them dead (or nailless). OP, you asked a tactless, goady and frankly silly question of someone you know hates the person in question, and now appear to be judging her for not going along with the polite, hypocritical fiction that she hopes he will recover.