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Anyone grieving and struggling with the coverage of the Queen's death?
louca · 14/09/2022 13:21
My beloved grandmother died just over a fortnight ago and as self-involved as it sounds the news coverage of the Queen's death is surprisingly distressing me. Admittedly, I am on anti-depressants (don't want to be accused of df)
My grandmother was a very special lady who fostered over 20 children, including those with additional needs. She once sold a sentimental piece of jewelry my deceased grandfather bought her to purchase new beds for her foster children. Even at the end she was thinking of others, my cousins and I promised my grandmother we would always look after "her kids". Why do we as a society not give a shit about her and others like her?
I know she didn't do it for the adulation.
Am I being unreasonable?
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MooseBreath · 14/09/2022 13:27
Yes. A family member (not super close, but I knew him well) passed away 2 days ago. It seems so ridiculous that this privileged woman's life is being so glorified when my family member was constantly volunteering and donating to various charities despite being subjected to horrible prejudice, yet nobody celebrates his life.
x2boys · 14/09/2022 13:39
I'm.not but i have thought how this must be impacting those who are recently bereaved, the wall to wall coverage must make it very hard .
been and done it. · 14/09/2022 13:40
With great respect the world didn't know anything about your wonderful relatives..they didn't advertise, want or expect adulation for what they did.
Robin233 · 14/09/2022 13:44
I'm sorry for your loss.
(Your grandmother sounded lovely. )
As I am for the royal family
I've stopped watching much of the coverage now , as is anyones choice.
Real life goes on.
But I will watch the funeral.
I liked her and watch to show respect.
Mummydoingmybest · 14/09/2022 13:48
THIS!!!
yes the Queen died but ffs people die every day.. young people die tragically, children die of cancer, old people die from old age… yet we are obsessing over this woman who died at the grand age of 96! It’s offensive and I want to hibernate until this hype is over!! It’s fucking depressing and the mass hysteria is a joke!
CloseYourMouthLynn · 14/09/2022 13:52
My 41 year old brother died recently of cancer, leaving behind a young widow and son. I'm sad for the royals as a family to have lost a loved one but I'm struggling to see beyond my grief and the unjustness of my brother never seeing his child and my children grow up.
britneyisfree · 14/09/2022 14:02
I lost a dearly loved aunt a few days before Princess Margaret died. I was in my teens and I don't think I've ever been so angry with the news.
I couldn't get my head around why she was more important. It made it all worse.
SecondsAreTheBest · 14/09/2022 14:09
I'm very sorry for your loss. Your grandmother sounds amazing!!
Kazziek · 14/09/2022 14:14
My parent died a few months ago and I have been so busy that I haven't really had a chance to sit and process it. All the coverage is affecting more than I thought, and is actually perhaps helping me. I am, btw, a monarchist and very sad at the loss of our Queen. To all those also grieving their own loss, my condolences.
Coasterfan · 14/09/2022 14:15
My beloved granda died last year and I felt exactly the same with the coverage when Captain Tom died a few days later, I just wanted to shout at everyone that my granda was important too!
I am sorry for your loss and absolutely understand how you feel.
louca · 14/09/2022 14:16
To see so many people treating the passing of the Queen as a profound tragedy is absolutely making the grief worse (even if that defies logic).
Deepest condolences to all those mourning the loss of a loved one.
Roselilly36 · 14/09/2022 14:19
I totally understand, grief is really difficult, my wonderful MIL died a year ago, I miss her so much, we all do. I have stepped back from the news it’s just over the top, I feel very sorry for the RF, the press intrusion can’t be easy when they are grieving in the public eye. Let them have some time to get mentally prepared for the funeral, taking pictures when they are in their cars etc, is just not fair IMHO.
louca · 14/09/2022 14:21
Your grandmother sounds amazing!!
Thank you, she was.
girlmom21 · 14/09/2022 14:22
You grandmother sounds wonderful. Thank you for telling us about her so at least some people know what a fabulous thing she's done for others. I'm sorry for your loss 
Hakunamatata91 · 14/09/2022 14:28
My grandparents both died a few months ago and I know my mum is finding it hard, particularly as they were both royalists so her first thought whenever there is some development to discuss it with them. One of my friend's best friends died very suddenly at 30 the other week and I know my friend is also struggling. As much as personally I am sad about the death of the queen, it doesn't compare to a 30 year old dying and if I knew the person I probably would have found it grating that so much more fuss is made over a 96 year old but the world goes on as normal when a 30 year old dies (as much as I logically understand the reasons why that is). I think it is a triggering time for a lot of people. My thoughts are with you OP, and with everyone else who is understandably finding the coverage upsetting due to bereavements.
glittereyelash · 14/09/2022 14:39
I'm sorry for your loss your grandmother sounds like such a lovely person. My mother died during lockdown and we never got to have a proper funeral as only 10 people were allowed. I really struggle with any funeral now as it makes me angry that my mum couldn't have the send off she deserved.I wasn't even allowed to sit beside my father we had to be on opposite ends of the pew.
cinnabongene · 14/09/2022 14:48
My dad died 8 weeks ago. He was a real Royalist and loved the Queen. I know the coverage and sombreness of the news is very difficult on my mum.
I feel sorry for members of the Royal family who haven’t been able to process their grief and have been on display to the world ever since. I know I was a mess after my dad passed away and the thought of doing anything work related, in those first few days, would have found me hiding under my bed.
AgnesNaismith · 14/09/2022 14:50
I lost a parent years ago and I’m also struggling with the enforced grief. I don’t want to grieve, no one can be forced into it and in many cases it seems very performative - but I guess that’s the nature of it as it is partly a performance to other countries.
I appreciate the royal family and the queen was the best of them, but I won’t be watching any more coverage. Sorry to all of you who are grieving a relative or friend 💐
mamabear715 · 14/09/2022 14:54
I'm sorry for ANYONE grieving.
I think watching the coverage brings part of the pain back for any of us who have lost those close to us. I'd like to be watching more of the coverage, I loved our Queen, but it's hard. We can only do what we can cope with. Hugs to all.
TooHotToTangoToo · 14/09/2022 14:56
I think the queens death has made me reflect on my grandma and mum dying which has made all the emotions resurface
pistachi0nuts · 14/09/2022 15:00
your grandmother sounds amazing, you must be very proud. x
TheFlis12345 · 14/09/2022 15:03
I lost a parent a few weeks ago and walked behind their coffin. I have huge respect and admiration for her children staying so composed. I had my husband and sibling holding my hands and nobody watching and it was still one of the hardest, most emotional things I have ever done.
countrygirl99 · 14/09/2022 15:03
My mum is really struggling. Dad died in January and mum has alzheimers so was already struggling with the adjustment. She can't cope with streamed channels. She struggles with changes to schedules so ends up watching whatever is on which is a lot of mourning stuff. It's knocked her right back to where she was. On top of the media I'm getting phone calls a couple of times a day to tell me the Queen has died.
inmyslippers · 14/09/2022 15:09
Certainly struggling with the coverage. Probably not for the same reasons
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